Why does it still hurt?

That is obviously signs and symptoms that you have not gotten over him. Well if that is the case then you'll have to assess again if the friendship is wroth keeping still because it seems that your not yet ready to accept the truth that it isn't over yet for you. I guess in the meantime you avoid these person because it still causes you pain and some memories. Try getting over with your feelings you may do so by making a letter perhaps to him why you still feel the pain write it down with feelings and all the heartaches that you felt when you separated ways. Then cry over it get angry over the letter that you wrote. If you feel like tearing the letter then do so and finally when you all calmed down. Say to yourself that you are forgiving yourself and him on his mistakes and you would moved on with your life already. Tell yourself that he can come into your life as a friend only. Do this one night when you are alone and can do so.

yes it happened to me but I already moved on, not quite. It is the case of forgiving but the pain is sometimes too unbearable to forget. It is about missing the person during the happier times that the two of you are together but at this time it's not the same without that person you used to be with anymore. Happy mylotting!

i think it i svery natural in many cases. i had never been in love, so it did not happened for me. i think even when people breakup, there remains some sentiments left somewhere. when you are friend even after breakup, these things are sad.

it is always on our inner part that someone cannot feel that we have a pain inside. sometimes i feel that way and the first thing that i use to do is to have a big deep breath. many things that will coincide to make us relate the same situation.

yes this is happen to me but i moved on now. although of course sometimes if you think the past the pain is still there. but all i can say is thank you for leaving me coz i found better than him.......

I guess sometimes being friends is just not enough. After going through so much together. Being friends just really pains you when you cannot hold someone's hand like you used to. You cannot hug the person that you really love. No matter how much the person hurt you, its the love that is within you both. I guess being friends is just so hard for me or other people. It takes a lot of strength to hate someone. Probably forgive and forget is the best.

Maybe you still love the person, that is why. Yes I think you have forgiven the person but your still friends up to now and you still communicate, that is kind a hard to forget cause the person is still around. You will always gonna remishing the pass cause you still love him even you set him free. The more it will hurt you, the pains will always be there, why not release the pain first. For you to easily move on. If your friends up to now why not tell the person what you really feel. Or maybe you have to be alone for a while just to think first. Everyone remember or treasure anything in the past sometimes it makes us cry or just smile, still they could stand it and learned from this by getting stronger. Nothing is permanent in this world but yourself. Take it easy! Be strong! Wounds have to heal first for you to forget. Good night!

forgiving is a part of life that u need to do.

i'm not really sure what it is but i also experience such feeling. i sometimes even dream of what has happened then when i wake up, i always find myself crying. it may be too much for some but that's how it is.

If you still feel hurt about something that your friend did in the past then you are not yet ready to forgive yet. You are still in the processed of healing. That is why some people only forgive a person when they are completely healed and ready to forgive. Sometimes forgiveness takes time specially if the person badly hurt you in the past. You thought that because its been a while already it is time for you to forgive but the problem is you are not emotionally ready to forgive your friend since you still feel hurt everytime you remember what he/she did. When you are completely healed you will still remember about what your friend did but you no longer feel hurt. You can even talk about it without feeling any pain. That is the moment you can say you have completely move on and healed.

hmm..maybe that was hardest thing for me either..you have to forgive and forget..that's all you can do.. you can find someone else better than your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend..

I would say that you have not trult forgiven, neither the person or youself. In order to truly move forward, you have to be able to forgive completely, both yourself and the other person. Talking about it, even if you have agreed not to, is sometimes necessary to get past the situation. I am not sure what the circumstances are, but I am sure that if you want to move foward with this relationship, you need to talk it out.

When it comes to love, happiness and pain are the 2 most common emotion that a person feel in between relationship. But the latter is very hard to fight with. I can understand that in your case you've been working out to let go of everything and tried to stand up again after he hurts you a lot,and then you thought that everything is as seem as normal again. You were just forcing yourself to let go of that person eventhough in your heart you cannot. Eventhough years had passed already and you thought you forgot everything ,but actually you didnt. When love is real you can try to hide it but you cannot fool your heart at all. Seeing that person again only means that you should be more prepare this time to handle yourself for the pain coz you still love him and you didnt forget him at all. Anyone can forgive but fogetting is not as easy as that.

I am quite a forgiving person, but I am not a computer, no human being is. You can't expect yourself to be reformatted after you've just crashed out because of a virus. We cannot forget everything. I never had a real serious relationship, though I had 2 ex-bfs before. Nothing was that serious because I never allowed myself to get so involved by loving them too much. I thought I was not ready for such commitment. So it was pretty easy for me to let go with the relationships. But I feel sad for you. You obviously still care for him because you are still hurting. Maybe you've forgiven him but you have not forgotten and you have not been over with him yet. Deep inside you, there's a part in you that wanted things to have gone differently. The remorse, the pain, the regrets, they will not do you good. I suggest tou completely eradicate this feeling before it destroys you. I just don't know what exactly you should do to accomplish that but you can start with asking God to take the pain away and give you the peace of mind that you deserved. I hope you'll be fine soon.

When you think about the good memories of you together, you cannot really stop your heart to beat again and feel what you felt before. It's nostalgia. Anyway, I don't agree much about forgiving without forgetting. We can forgive someone but all the memories we have with them can't be erased. They will all stay in our minds forever.

Most of the case, when get hurt for the first times, both parties will either agree to be normal friend or not be friend anymore. If is first situation, it will ends up the same thing happened again as the feeling of "i still have chance" is still there. So some people force to choose second option, at least he/she knows the same thing will never happened again. =)