Being the Eldest, Do You Apologize First to Your Younger Siblings?
By mjmlagat
@mjmlagat (3170)
Philippines
September 29, 2008 4:55am CST
In some traditional families here in our place it's usually a practice that being the eldest in the family, you should be the first to say sorry to your younger siblings in case of strained relationships in the family. Does this apply to you all? It is believed that the eldest is the peacemaker in the family especially in times of crisis, would this also mean that he/she needs to say sorry first in cases where another sibling does an unfavorable act? Please share your thoughts guys. Thanks.
3 responses
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
I don't think that the essence of saying sorry has a meaning when one has to bow down his or her pride just to maintain the peace in the family. Saying sorry I guess should be related with truth-telling and assertion regardless whether you are the reason of fault or not.
Anyways, apologizing takes a lot of maturity too in the process. And once the aggrieved party has shared his or her thoughts, and once the one apologizing recognizes the short comings then peace is achieved.
Thanks for sharing!
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I respect some traditional practice of some families. But for me, I don't think its fair that if you're the eldest you will be the first to say sorry always. I guess everybody has to do his own share. If anybody has to say sorry whether he is a father or a mother or an eldest child, it doesn't matter. As long as at the end of the day everything will be resolve.
