How do you handle a depressed hubby?

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Today is my husband's birthday. There are only 2 things he wants on his birthday. He wants me to make him his favorite cake, lemon with lemon frosting. And he wants pizza from a particular restaurant, which we only get once a year on his birthday. Birthdays are depressing to begin with, and due to our financial situation, we're not able to give hubby a really great birthday, but he always gets his cake, and usually gets his pizza. Well yesterday he calls to order the pizza, and they're out of sausage, which is his favorite topping. So he decides not to get the pizza at all, and is extremely depressed over it. He got in such a mood we ended up getting into an argument after the kids were in bed. After he calms down he finally tells me something from his childhood, and basically because of a few things that happened to him when he was young, he constantly has the feeling that he's going to ruin his birthday, and any other holiday. He feels he's always being disappointed and things are always going wrong for him. I tried to point out the positives. He was able to sleep in, he got some presents, etc etc. But he was able to find a negative in each of those positive things. He just really has a bad attitude towards it all, and I feel so bad that he can't look at anything positively. He's acting so depressed, and I don't know how to cheer him up. I suggested councelling, and will begin to look into that for him. But is there anything I can do in the meantime to help him feel better? What do you do when your hubby gets really depressed like this? How do you handle him when he's in a sad mood? Later today I'm going to see if that pizza place has their sausage today, then surprise him at work with his favorite pizza, I hope that helps make him feel better.