Do you feel you spend enuff time with your family?

Canada
September 29, 2008 10:44am CST
be honest, i don't feel i do. I feel there are times that i need a break. I work part time, but the reast of the time im home cleaning,cooking, doing home work, getting the kids in the bath.it's non stop, now i love my kids very very much, but we all need a break. and than i feel bad for wanting a break, because i feel even thought im home, im doing things that need to be dun but not spending enuff time with the kdis. what r u thought's on this? how do you feel when it comes to your family?
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24 responses
• United States
29 Sep 08
I do, i spend alot of time with my mom and sisters. Not so much with my dad because he's working soo much but that's ok. I feel that being close to your family is a great thing.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
29 Sep 08
Hi ya mattcassethan I don't actually get to spend that much time with my kids. As I am a single parent when my kids are at school I am cleaning and clearing etc. When they get home it is snack time then they go off and play while I prepare dinner, then we eat together but straight after they are doing homework while I do the dishes and then it is shower, read stories and off to bed!!! Day gone! When they are in bed I do nothing as it is the only free time I get in the day.
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
29 Sep 08
enjoy every minute of your time w/them. they'll be gone before u know it & you'll miss them.
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
29 Sep 08
My kids are grown now and I will tell you to spend more time with your kids now while they are younger. The dust will be there tomorrow but your kids will be grown and gone before you know it. You will have more than enough time then to clean and reflect on the good times you had with your children. I myself was a home maker and a stay at home mom and was with my kids but I still look back and say if only I had done more with them and for them. So, put the dust cloth down and get out with your kids and act like a kid too with them. It never hurts to have a little time to yourself either then you can enjoy the time with your kids in a more relaxed manner. Mom's need a break from the kids just like the kids need a break from mom. Have a great day.
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@dong1970 (1573)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
Enough time and quality time should be spend on our family.Even though we are at home and busy for our work we can give a quality time for them.Its just a time management my friend.I am busy person too but i do find time for my family.Our family would be happy for they know that we are making extra effort for being with them.
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• Canada
29 Sep 08
that is nice!
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
3 Oct 08
No I spend alot of my time at home. My son how ever is now 18 So he is off and running. To his job his girlfriend and then his friends. Mom who? Then it comes under Hi Mom love you. What did you have for dinner? That is my life now. When he was little I spent alot of time with him. We went place's laughed alot. So It's ok that he is spending time with his friend and girl. Your firend onlydia
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• Canada
29 Sep 08
I am one of the few lucky mothers that get to stay home with her children. I am a rare sort of breed of woman that can handle being home with her children 24 hours a day doing the housework and home work and cooking and cleaning, BUT i also need breaks. I would go crazy if I did not have breaks. My hubby works alot of hours and it is hard for him to say when he will be able to stay home with the children...so I have a ste daughter as well and she sometimes watches them for me. I do understand that you feel bad about not wanting a break but you need it. I make bedtime a specail time for each child so i feel they get there specail me time so that when I get my me time I feel better about it! GOOD LUCK
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@kellys3ps (3726)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Honestly, I don;t think that I do - it seems like there is always something that I have to take care of for work, or around the house, or on the computer. I really need to start setting time aside just for the family.
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• United States
29 Sep 08
I spend a lot of time with my husband but not with our parents so much. His parents actually live about five minutes away from us and we barely see them except for on Sunday when we go to church. My parents live about five states away and they visit us on holidays and two weeks during the summer. It's easier for them to come to us then us to go to them due to our jobs. I wish I could see them more than I do but I am thankful for the time I can spend with them.
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• United States
9 Oct 08
I just quit my job last month for that reason. There were other factors that played a part in my quitting too. But I felt like I wasn't being around enough for my family. Then my work was trying to change my hours and wouldn't work with me when I told them I couldn't be there any longer. I felt like my husband was having to do everything for our son. I felt like I needed to be here to do the stuff for him since I am his mom. My husband didn't mind doing the things for our son but it just bothered me. But I am staying at home and cleaning a few houses to make some extra money now and I am being able to spend a lot more time with my son and it makes me feel so much better.
• United States
3 Oct 08
Well, now I do. I used to travel a lot for work and I missed out on some of my children's childhoods because of it. I am happy that I now have a job where I don't need to travel at all.
@nini89 (670)
• India
3 Oct 08
I dont get enough time to spend with my family. I go to office in the morning by 9 and reach bach at night 8 pm. After reaching I have to cook, do all other home works and routine at home. We all family have dinner together. That's all we get to speak to one another. we go to bed by 11.30 to 12.00. Again next morning the same routine, so I am lacking time to spend with my family. Only one sunday in a week I am at home have to do washing clothes of a week and rest of the other house hold work like purchasing and shopping. I dont get time to see what my children study. Still I amange how also I myself don't know. Happy mylotting and have a nice day.
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I'm not sure there's ever enough time to spend with family, and most of us don't think about that until it's too late. I spend plenty of time with my son and hubby. But I wish I could get up to visit with my mother more often. She's about 450 miles away, and you'd think it was on the other side of the world.
@switlyf (649)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Honestly i don't and i know it. I am working full time and travel time was almost 4 hours so you can imagine the time that i will spend here at home. I really hate it but i can't do anything about this since i need to work. Whenever i am at home i always see to it that i am with them and my husband will not go out. Thanks and happy mylotting!
• United States
30 Sep 08
I am a stay at home mom. I do nothing but spend time with my family. I do need a break sometimes. I try to make sure that my time isn't just cleaning, working on the computer, laundry and such. I try to have fun time with the kids. I try to do something different. I ask them what they want to do. We spend time rolling around on the floor playing. Just today I was walking my daughter to her bus stop and I bumped into her, she giggled. I did it again, we turned it into a game and she got on the bus happy - it was fun. The rest of our extended family, no we don't see them enough. Part of them live far way. My sister is in town but she is in a different stage of life. I am starting with school kids and hers are going to college or graduated. My mom is in town and I do see her a few times each week. I admit, it is because she comes here. I need to make a better effort to try and visit her and see what she might need done around her place. Good question. It got my mind thinking I need to make sure I do these things and focus on my loved ones.
@weiwei88 (119)
• Singapore
30 Sep 08
Thinking about this, probably i didnt. My elder brother is working already. He comes home late at night. As for me, most of the time i'll be in school or out there working. Probably the time spend together is not as much as certain people who has their sundays for family days. I guess we are all grown up and busy already. Therefore, the quality of time spend with family members tend to get lesser. But overall, we do hang out and talk sometimes.
• China
30 Sep 08
yes maybe what you said is right ,i have no children now so i can not understand you fully .i am a student also ,to be honest ,i feel i spent little time with my family ,now i am studing in a collage ,where is distant from my home, i go my home only one or two times each year. i think your condition is common ,not only in your country but others .
@anne12d (676)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
As of now, I dont have time with my family, Even I do have day off from my work we dont meet. Especially when my schedule is in the afternoon to night. They have work too but they have regular office hour work time. I miss my family a lot. Eating together, watching tv together, shopping, going out of town, those happy bonding time with them. Because whenever I arrived home, they are already asleep and when I woke up, they're already gone to work. I hope I can spend time with them again. Cook for them and things I like to do to make my family happy.
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Well, I don't yet have my own family like yours.. I just graduated my college degree this year and I'm already working for almost 5 months.. As for now, I live on my own (actually not alone but together with my sister).. I move from other city after graduation to find a good job.. basically, I know that I didn't spend enough time with my family (my parents and my brother and sisters).. I can say that I am not that close with my parents even I grow up together with them.. When it comes to my brother and sisters same we are not that close.. Actually, I am more close with my friends than them.. I want to spend my life with them but as for now I just can't since I need to save money so that I can return/go back to my home town.. If I will be given a chance, I just rather stay in my hometown than here in the new city since I am more comfortable dealing with people there than here.. I don't have friends in the new city I'm living.. Most of the time, I just stayed at home and not going out since I don't have a companion to go out and I don't also want to go alone.. Maybe, if ever I already save enough money then I will be able to go back home and spend my time with my family..
• United States
30 Sep 08
I work from home, so I spend every day with my daughter. While she's at school, I will end up going to my mom's house, spend some time with her, then go over to my sister's house and spend time with her and her hubby. I always make sure I keep in contact daily with my family- they are actually the reason i'm still alive!!