Are you the woman who prioritize your children before yoursaelf?

welcome to mylot hope you like it here like most of us do. i am a single mom of four children. i left my husband and tagged my kids along with me even i dont know how to feed them. so for that i know i am a kind of mother that is prioritizing my children than myself. up to this point we are not getting any help from the father and i dont want to get anything from him. i akways think of what my kids need before what i need. in buying something i make sure there is something for them first.

That is true. Mothers always want the best for their child, putting their child on top priority to the point of forgetting to take care of themselves. I am like that. But there also comes a point in life wherein we realize that in order to give our children a quality life, we need to provide that to ourselves first. I realized this when I got sick and could barely do anything and also had to suffer the site of my two little ones crying all the time. Now i am finding a way to provide for myself the life that i want, the life that would make me happier, healthier, and stronger so I could really be there for them and to provide for them the best there is and in the best way i can.

I agree with you to a point. But if you don't take care of yourself too you can't take care of your child either.

Hi Masmasika Yes my kids needs come before mine if we had just enough food to feed them then I would go hungry if they needed clothes I would go with out ect I say there needs sometimes I let there wants come befor my needs such as undergarments ect but not alot Thats the thing some parents do not understand when you have children its no longer about you your job in life now is to take care of your children befor anything else

I definitely think of my daughter's need before my own. When I was still single or even before I had my daughter, I used to shop till I drop. I buy sandals in several pairs and buy new bags every month. Since I had my daughter, I started buying less stuff for myself and more for my daughter. It's been months before I bought a pair of new sandals and shoulder bag. Whenever I'm in a department store, I frequent the baby section more than any parts of the store. I always buy something for my daughter and I couldn't care less if I left the store without buying something for myself. I guess motherhood really changes a woman.

I completely agree with you, when you do become a mum your priorities do change you always just naturally put your own kids needs before your own. I'm a single parent too and I always put my children first before myself and it's not something I think about or begrudge I do it out of love for them. When I had my first son I remember thinking I'd die without this little person in my life and he's 14 now a strapping big lad who over towers me and I still feel exactly the same about him I'd rather die than him suffer in this world or not have what makes him happy...within reason.. I have to discipline him too..lol