Have You Been In Love For A Long Time?
September 29, 2008 8:53pm CST
Is it possible to be in love with a person for more than five years? For instance you're in a long-term relationship. Are you really committed to your partner, like you don't look at other girls/guys? How do you handle temptations?
• United States
30 Sep 08
Yes go diane, it's possible to be in love with a person for a long time. I am married now, and to tell you we've been together for 3 years before he proposed to me and come here in the Philippines. To tell you, we are a long distance relationship. We met on a dating site, exchanging letters and exclusively chatting. He is from Florida and i'm from the Philippines. Unbelievable? I don't really have a hard time concerning third parties because for three years that we're not together, I never look at other men. I don't even find them attractive. My husband is my first boyfriend and probably would be the last. And now we are happily married. And i thank God because I know He is the key person why we met. Happy mylotting!
30 Sep 08
My answer would be no one in the world is perfect !!! If such a ideal person really do exist I say he should consult a doctor :P For example when you find a beautiful looking girl and your girl friend is beside you, you may try stop the temptation of looking at here but that doesn't mean that you want to look at the girl !! And trying to handle temptations only mean you are betraying yourself by trying to hide the facts !!! Ofcoz its not that just by looking at some beautiful girl you are cheating your partner !!! Its just the human nature :)
• United States
30 Sep 08
If it is real love it is very possible and happens all the time. Real love is more about the other person than it is about yourself and when you really love someone else, you won't want to do anything that would hurt them. The problem in the world today is the overuse of the word love and that people can't seem to be able to tell the difference between love and lust and just plain physical attraction. Real love is not based on physical attraction even if it might have started out that way. As far as handling temptations, you have to go back to that idea of not ever doing anything that would hurt your partner. And also remembering that whatever you do, you can never take it back. This is another thing people just don't think about these days. All of our actions have consequences. Thinking about those consequences should be enough to make it easier to handle the temptations. And actually, if the temptation is so great...think about what it is based on. Is it purely physical attraction which is lust? How do you really feel about the one you have committed yourself to if you are being tempted by someone else? This is a problem when young people get married too young before they have had a chance to see more of life and the world. Real love takes a lot of time. Getting committed to someone too soon in life leads to a lot of hurt and pain when breakups happen.
2 Oct 08
Thanks for the reply, capirani! I love your response, as it exudes wisdom. I agree that if you truly love the person you will try your best not to hurt him/her. Sometimes we do fail in making the other person happy, but whenever this happens, at least you discover your partner's new side and you will try your best not to do it again.