How do you handle your kids when they have tantrums?

Philippines
September 29, 2008 9:50pm CST
Have you ever cried because you feel you cannot handle your 6-yr old son when he's having tantrums?
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@Amberina (1541)
• United States
30 Sep 08
It can be very flusterating when your child pushes your limits. What my mom did when my brother did that is she grabbed a spray bottle that just had water in it and squirted him right in the face, it shocked him so much he stopped and she said to him that whenever he throws a fit like that again he will get water in the face. He only did it a couple more times and he got water in the face and that was it for him lol. He stopped doing it and mom didn't have to spank him.
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
1 Oct 08
LOL~ that is too funny. I think that is how you train dogs from barking and cats from climbing on tables:) Guess it works with kids too huh?!
@jammyt (2822)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Sheesh! I have a two year old kid and I've shed alot of tears already when she's having her tantrums!!!!LOL! Sometimes, what I do is I am very firm with her. Eventually she stops but I feel so stressed out after. When it is still early and she's having her tantrums and I know I am losing it, I leave her with the nanny and go out to breath in and out. LOL! It's hard but I gotta deal with it. Kids will be kids, that's what I keep telling myself.
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• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Not that I know of. I have a 6-year old daughter. She also has tantrums to the extent that I sometimes shout or hit her on her palms. Most of the times, she is difficult when she feels sleepy at night. You can't talk to her straight, she doesn't want to eat anymore and when she says she wants this, you'll not keep her until she gets that 'something'. In those times, I just give in to whatever she wants. Not that it could be harmful for her. I mean, she doesn't want to eat anymore because she is sleepy, then I let her sleep. I don't argue much. But here's the catch, the following day. She will definitely start her day with my sermon. I tell her what happens the day before, that is had been so difficult. I explain to her that she shouldn't be that way. I really don't talk to her if she's not in the mood. She won't understand me. That's it. I just hope you learn a little something from what I shared. Regards!
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
thanks for your response. you know my son after his tantrums, he seems as if nothing happened, just when i almost got crazy, when i have already cried so hard. i just hope that my shouting will not have that much bad effect to him.
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
when he grew older, im sure he'll understand everything. let's just understand that children are children.... they really don't mind about anything, whether they hurt others or not! Good luck to you!
• United States
30 Sep 08
I'm the mom of six kids, so believe me, I've cried over all sorts of things. My advice to you is to ignore him, or better yet, put him in his room, and feel free to go to your room and have a tantrum of your own. If you're out in public, ignoring him is the best way to go. Most of the people you will encounter when your son is acting like he's been possessed by something evil are parents themselves and been there. I personally tell people that I think my 4 year old daughter is broken, and I'm at the store to return her. Keep your head up, this too will pass. Then you'll have all sorts of fun stuff to deal with (wait until he's a teenager!)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
thanks, your response was really a big help to me. i just hope i would always do the right thing for my two kids. my older son is now 10 yrs old and i asked him if he thinks that i'm doing something wrong with his brother when i cant help but shout at him also.
@Hatley (164231)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Oct 08
hi jinkypatagignacio wow what a name. at six a littleboy should be past that stage. ignore him if at home, give him time out sitting in a chair facing the co rner. He cant come out until he is over the tantrum. In public, drag him out to your car and tell him we are going home, you cannot go shopping until you can control yourself. then go home and be consistent, spanking doesnt work, but removing him from whereever he was having the tantrum does work. When he gets home, he goes in the corner until he shows he is able to behave himself.my son is a grown man now a nd a fine person too.
• United States
1 Oct 08
My 6 yr old daughter has these tantrums sometimes. I try to talk to her but she is usually beyond reasoning. I will tell her firmly that if the behavior doesn't stop she will not be able to watch cartoons,go to the movies etc...whatever she likes thats coming up. A few times I have just ignored her.That takes alot of patience!
@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I remember my daughter having tantrums and finally I learned to just ignore her and continue on with what I was doing. Once in KMar she was throwing a fit because I didn't let her buy a stuffed rabbit. I kept shopping and she kept screaming. Finally my husband came to where we were. He took her by the hand and very calmly said, come with me. He walked her out to the car and stayed there with her while I finished shopping. She screamed all the way home and we just talked over her. When we got home, I took her and put her in bed telling her that she must be tired because of all the screaming. To this day she will bring up that day and admit that she was being bratty. If I gave in I would have created a monster.
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
1 Oct 08
My daughter didn't had a lot of tantrums as far as I remember. She would ask for toys and if she dont get it she would start to have a tantrum. I spoil my daughter a lot but I don't want her to be a brat so what we do is we compromise. It does help a lot with her tantrums.
@xayuk69 (267)
• Malta
30 Sep 08
Yes i know the feeling! When my daughter gives a tantrum, she is 13 years old and still does it sometimes, I just do not know what to do. I sometimes end up shouting at her because she gets me so frustrated and yes she makes me feel that I cant handle her. After all this I end up crying and very sad.I do not know what I should do at that moment!
@palonghorn (5483)
• United States
30 Sep 08
Actually, I never had that problem, I raised two daughters, and they were both taught at an early age (at first signs of tantrums, around age 2 or 3) that it was not acceptable behavior. They knew I would not put up with it for a minute. At age six, he should know better, but there are several things you can try. A friend used to sit his daughter in a chair, and she couldn't get up or move from that chair until she stopped. Didn't take long for her to figure it out. Give him time out, and I have heard as one of your other responses suggested, spritzing water in their face, it doesn't hurt them, but it gets their attention. How long has he been doing this, or is it something new?
• United States
30 Sep 08
Yes, I use to feel this way when My oldest son was younger. He is now 17 and he don't though fits any more. I was going to couceling with him for ADHD and they showed the hold. I would never recamend that to any one! I would have to fight with my son for hours and hours! I ended up with fat lips and more stress than any one could know. Spanking him made things worse also. I would suggest you put your son in his room and tell him once that when he is done having his tantrum he could come out. I would also recamend you watch Super Nanny or Nanny 911. They will give you ways that you could help yourself. Good luck in raising your son!
@ralphido (843)
• India
30 Sep 08
i never cry for fear of making the kids getting into full swing.. i usually let them have a moment of their own because they may be too hurt to hear my consolations.. then i just try my best offering them some candy or show them some interesting stuff just turning off their attention from the matter at hand...
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
30 Sep 08
I feel blessed. My son is 24 now. When he was little, he never had any tantrums. I think it's because he watched a little boy in his daycare center once throwing a fit and he saw how it looked. Rather than wanting to copy the kid, he wanted to not be that way.