how would you feel when you learned that your partner talks about you..

I think I would be ok with it. As long as the friend realizes that they are not always getting the full story and that there are always 3 sides to a story...his side, her side and the truth. I usually tell my friends quite a bit and they tell me the same. Most of the time it's when we are Mad at the other person and need to vent to someone. We all realize that most of the time we are hearing the bad stuff about the other and there is obviously good in the person other wise none of us will still be with our boyfriends. Sometimes we need an unbias opinion on a situation or sometimes we just need to vent. Keeping things bottled up inside and constantly having that feeling of weather you or him is in the wrong is very unsafe for the human body. It can lead to all sorts of health problems and inevidably lead to more problems in the relationship. It's also good to talk to friends as they aren't scared to say that you over reacted and you need to change the way you did something. Sometimes talking to them opens yours eyes a bit and makes you realize that the situation could have been handled differently. I wouldn't get too uncomfortable about him talking to his friends about your relationship. That might be the reason why you are still together?!?

Talking amongst his friends about everything is not at all acceptable! It's down right disrespectful. I would be very hurt if my husband did that. The privacy of a couples relationship is most important. How could one expect to trust and confide in the other knowing all that is said will be shared with outsiders?

Personally I feel like it depends on what talk about to their friends on how mad I'd actually be. If they bad mouthed me every chance they got, I'd be pretty ticked off and probably wouldn't trust them much anymore. However, if they just talked about small issues without really letting them in on anything major I doubt I'd have such a big issue with it.

I guess if i know what she's talking about if its too private well ill talk to her and tell her that not all that is happening with our relationship she can share it with her friends. We have to left some information just for ourselves or for just the two of us and in every relationship there should be some privacy. It is normal to share with friends if you are seeking for advice but not all right? And its really annoying for me and uncomfortable too. Because there are some friends who judge you without even knowing your side.

It would certainly be discomforting if my partner talks about me to her friends. I would not be able to face her friend and always feel that they ae staring at me in a strange way. I can be quite discomforting.