Making decisions without asking of the parent's opinions....

Hello cream. When I was young, my parents made decisions for me, but after I graduated from college, I ask them for their advice and usually they agree with me for every decision that I make though they still give me some advice. Now I usually talk about everything with my wife after I get married. We discuss many things together before we make a decision.

Oh yes all the time. When my son was in school, I did not like these events to much. Now that my daughter is in school, I show up in school alot because I have tons of meetings with the principal. the circumstances changes when you have a special needs child. So I learn to realize these events put me in front of the staff and they realize how serious and committed I am. It has become a lot easier to get things done since I participate with more of these events. Though not required, but just seeing your presence makes the staff aware I exist. Then the next time I call them with a problem at school, I can quickly get things resolved.

Oh yes, this is a pet peeve of mine. I have 7 grandchldren here in school. Not to mention several children in the neighborhood that come to me on a regular basis with the sales for school. I know the school is trying to earn money for things they need or want. They use these selling things to give the children some "small" reward for selling a huge amount of items worth hundreds of doolars and it's suppose to make the children feel good about themslves that they sold the most and got a t-shirt and a pizza for the class. Big woop...That is only teaching the children about that they will be the low person on the totem pole. That they work their little hinneys off and get little for it. As usual the man or the people on top, as usual reap the rewards. I have taught my grandchildren the difference of what they get compared to what the school gets and the others that provide the items, just as the school fairs when they are going on. I told them if they want to spend their hard earned money I'll be glad to take them to the stores where they will get more for their money. I don't give to these type of things. I do however help the school out in many other ways. I will help in classes, making copies of things for them. If something is not a rip off I will buy it. I do help with the halloween hand out every year. And many other programs.

[i]Hi cream, I know what you are talking about..Some of the school will raise fund and use their students to come up with those amount, with the crisis this time, I do know why they are not thinking that this is a burden to the parents! I hope that they will just utilize the tuition and miscellaneous paid by students and will look for another way to solicit money without giving the burden to the parents![/i]

Well, our fundraisers are to raise money for the school. Some have been for band so that they can offer parents a decreased rate on band shirts. Some fundraisers have been to raise money for playground equipment, computers, that sort of thing. I'm with you though. I've had to give money when I really didn't have it. I hate that they corral all the kids into the gym and pump them up with promises of really lame prizes that you can find at the dollar store. There have been many times when I've simply thrown away the selling materials and told my child that I was sorry, but they were not going to sell that junk. I would much rather have the school print out a simple flyer, telling parents what the school needs, how much the school needs and ask for donations. Instead of spending $8 on a small tube of wrapping paper, I would gladly give a check for $20 directly to the school. But you can't convince the school of that!

I am thinking about the parents' thing. My parents gave me lots of money including my tuition, cost of living. Thus they become very bossy and wanna me do everything they tell me do do. I try my best to listen to them. Now, I am almost out of exhausted. Oh, sorry. I am so stressed that I just lose your topic. I don't have even a chance to make decisions without asking my parents.

My son goes to private school and they typically don't have the type of fundraisers that public schools do. But at a rate of 16k per year, hopefully they have figure all of the funds they need into his tuition...lol. But most of the public school fundraisers are usually voted on in the PTA and the goal is supposed to be to share cost or lower cost for the parents based on sales. Most of his activities outside of school like sports often have fundraisers and it drives me crazy because I am not the type to be asking for donations or having him to do it. Normally I will just buy whatever his portion of expected sales is. My employee's are forever bringing fundraiser type stuff for their kids. Most times I will buy from them just to support the schools or activities.

well i am not a parent but i have an experience that we have to donate something for the school and if i don't then they will not release my final grade. that was so horrifying at my part because my future is hanging on a balance for a donation!

I know when I was in school we always had something going on. Then they give out these prizes for kids who sell so many items and that just puts more pressure on. My parents didn't really like me selling things anyway because I had to keep up with the money and the merchandise. It was a hassle to say the least. Good question Cream.