Are you a good judge of character?

United States
September 30, 2008 6:58pm CST
There are particular people that get on my nerves from the moment I meet them. I don't have to know them very long to know that I'm not going to like them. Just today I witnessed an online chat, and could immediatly tell the woman who was speaking was very stuck up and snobby. I didn't even hear her voice, and she wasn't talking about anything important, it was just something about the way she spoke and things she spoke about. I found it quite annoying, and even though she was trying to be polite, I could not help but be rude towards her because I just knew I didn't get along with her personality very well. Are you a good judge of character, or does it take you a long time to learn about who a person really is?
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@GreenMoo (11837)
7 Oct 08
When I take a dislike to someone early on, or find that I don't entirely trust them, then I tend to find in the longer term that there was a good reason for that. I don't consider myself a particularly good judge of character though. I try really hard not to let an initial judgement colour my reactions towards someone before I've really got to know them though. I'm just a bit wary until they prove themselves. There's a gentleman here in the village who I've never really liked from the start and who other neighbours have bad mouthed as well. A couple of days ago he and his wife really surprised me by giving up an unexpected gift and being really neighbourly towards us. I guess that's just proof that you can never really tell about someone straight away.
• United States
7 Oct 08
Well I wouldn't necessarily not give a person a chance after a bad first impression. I know I may be wrong sometimes, but I usually think my gut instinct is mostly correct. A few years ago one of my neighbors just gave me a bad impression. I never could put my finger on it, I just didn't like him for one reason or another. I was always neighborly to him, but in the back of my head I would always tell myself that I'd never leave my children alone with this man. Nothing bad ever happened, it was just a weird feeling I got around him.
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@GreenMoo (11837)
7 Oct 08
That weird feeling is one that you really can't ignore when you're a parent, however unfair it might seem. I'm exactly the same.
• United States
9 Oct 08
If I can hear someone talking then I can judge their character better than online. Online it's easy to fake niceness.
• United States
9 Oct 08
Oddly enough I can still spot the difference. I'm not sure how. I guess it's just a gift.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I think that i do pretty good for the most part. I think too though that I will always give more than once chance for someone to show me who they truly are. Like my sisters husband. at first meeting i got a vibe from him and didn't think i would like him. i tried really hard but time and time again he kept showing little things that i didn't like. and to make sure it wasn't just me i asked other people what they thought after meeting him. no one likes him. but she is happy so i just try to be civil towards him. i'm also afraid that if i don't he will drive a wedge between her and the rest of us.
• United States
1 Oct 08
It's always hard to get along with in laws. Trust me, I don't get along well with mine at all! And I'm no good at being civil. I'm the type of person that will tell you what I think if I don't like you.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I like to think that I am a good judge of character and have been right most of the time when trusting my first instinct, but I have also been wrong a few times.. Usually for first impression of someone is most likely the right impression, so it is best to try and make a good first impression.. I have met people who I knew from the beginning that I couldn't get along with them for long.. I do think that I am a good judge of character but again, as I said before I have been wrong also..
• United States
1 Oct 08
I've been wrong a few times as well. There are some people I think are rude at first glance, but in time I get to know they are not, perhaps they just have an odd sense of humor. But I'm right 99% of the time.
@laglen (19778)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I find that sometimes, when we chat with people online, we tend to misconstrue things. With out hearing inflection it can be very easy to misinterpret. I know, I tend to get sarcastic and if you couldn't see my face, you would think I was being catty.
• United States
1 Oct 08
I am the same way, I'm very sarcastic, but I learned a long time ago not to be too sarcastic online because nobody can see that I'm kidding.
@apples99 (6561)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Yes I think I'm a pretty good judge of character when I meet people I usually go by the energy they give off, and I usually can tell even by meeting a person only once if there nice or not or if they can be trusted, in fact there has been a few instance's in my life were I met someone only once and knew right away that they couldn't be trusted it happened a few years back when a close friend introduced to someone for the first time, and right after the meeting ended I told my friend that there was something about that person that I just could put my finger on, and at the time, my friend kind of dismissed me, but it turned out that I was right about that person, and even when I was a baby my mother told me that sometimes when I met certain people I would cry right away and to this day when I meet people and if there energy is off I will avoid them like the plague.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I can usually tell right away if I'm going to like someone or not. Like you said, its often by the way they talk. For instance my neighbor. When I first met him he seemed very friendly and chatty. But during our short conversation his wife tried to say something and he told her to shut up, that he was still talking. Right then I knew I wouldn't like the man. But, I thought I'd give him a chance and got to know them better. Sure enough, I've learned he is an obnoxious know it all. Sometimes its the way a person may present themselves, or even the look give someone else. Once I was at a gathering and I had just been introduced to a woman who seemed pretty nice. Suddenly another woman walked past with a pretty funky hair style. The lady I was talking to rolled her eyes at the lady, turned to me and said something cruel loud enough the other person could hear. That told me enough about her character to know I wouldn't like her either.
• Malaysia
1 Oct 08
I think I am not a good judge of character. I cannot judge a person when I meet a person first time. After knowing about four or five months, than only I judge that person. Some my friends can judge a person just by looking at that person and through their attitude.
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
1 Oct 08
well i try not to judge anyone we all are imperfect but there are ones that have a way of getting under your skin some people are that way but i try not to let that bother me. and just move on all i know is iam not that way i try to get alone with people even though i know you cant get a lone with everyone.
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
Yes, I am.. i have proven it many times..;)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Oct 08
I agree with you that: THE IMPRESSION FIRST LASTS but you know, sometimes you can't decide if that one is good or not till you deal with.
@jzjqdkd (273)
• China
1 Oct 08
I am not a good judge of character,but it won't be long for me to learn a person'.the first impression seems to be very important,because sometimes we judge the person from it.Maybe later we will change that and have a different comment,but that time we judge it by our first feeling.so i try not to judge them by only seeing once.
@hellcowboy (7378)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I sometimes think I am a good judge of character,even though you can not always go on first impressions because they can end up being wrong,you might start off thinking a person is good from the first impression and then find out they are a bad person,or you might start off and thinking that they are bad person from the first impression,and then it turns out you were wrong about the person,so I try not to judge people,but I do not trust easily,and for me to trust someone they have to earn my trust.
• Australia
1 Oct 08
yes, i think i am, ive met a lot of people over the years and after a while yoi have critetias for everyone you meet, you can put them as future friends, bossy, not your type, helpful...everyone think diffrently but you can judge people easily by the way they act and how they talk and their choice of speech. And voices and the way people dress have a lot to do with it, if someone has a loud high pitched voice, youd feel that they might be too confident, or if the dress well or they dont care. There are heaps of ways of judjing, all it takes is experience :)
@dawnald (84199)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Oct 08
I like to think I am. :-)