What if your child is gay?

United States
October 1, 2008 8:29am CST
We see and hear about it all the time... gay people being disowned by their parents because the parents don't agree with their lifestyle choices. What would you do if your child tells you they are homosexual? Will you disown them, or will you still love them and accept them for who they are? Personally I would accept them. I think I'd be hurt for awhile, and I don't wish that lifestyle on my children, but if it happens, there's nothing I can do. I've never been prejudice against homosexuals, although I am a bit uncomfortable around them. I just want my children to be happy, regardless of who they become.
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@Lee_Rites (845)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I would accept them if they were homosexual. Many people, even if they have no problem with homosexuality, do not want that lifestyle for their children. I can understand why. I just think that there are far worse things that could happen to my kids than for them to be homosexual. At least they have a chance at being happy.
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• United States
1 Oct 08
I agree. I know a few homosexual couples, and have no problem with that, I just wouldn't want that to be one of my children. But I would still love and accept them.
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• United States
24 Oct 08
I think when our kids are young we all have the hope of that traditional family for them. We want them to grow up, get married, and give us grand kids. It might be hard to let that go. Especially if we have to see them suffer the consequences put on them by society for not being "normal". Even if we try not to show it there would probably be some underlying disappointment. Not necessarily being disappointed with our children but rather with our own dreams for them. Hopefully time would ease this for us. Thanks for BR.
@relundad (2311)
• United States
7 Oct 08
From what the research shows we now know that this is not always a chosen lifestyle. There obviously is alot of controversy in regards to the research. Nevertheless whether it be a chosen lifestyle or genetic, as a mother I would love my child no less. As a matter of fact I can't think of anything that would allow me to disown my child. I can think of a lot of things that I may disagree with but that would be the extent of it. I have many friends that live homosexual lives and I look at them no different than I would a heterosexual person that had a partner that I would not necessarily choose. Who a person chooses for their partner is none of my business.
@chitah (35)
• United States
7 Oct 08
i would definatly be disappointing. but i would nevre disown them! thats a little extreme!
@camomom (7535)
• United States
1 Oct 08
i personally wouldn't care. i will love my kids no matter who they love. it's unconditional love, not i'll love my kids as long as they love like i do. i would be sad because i wouldn't want them to go through the hardships that gays go through. if they know who they are and i can teach them not to be ashamed of it and they are happy in life, it doesn't matter if they are gay or straight.
@bdugas (3581)
• United States
1 Oct 08
It appears that where I live the new fad in high school is to be gay or to at least be bi sexial. Why I have no idea, but they have been pushing it on my grand daughter and she said she don't care what the new fad is, and she don't care if she don't fit in. On the other hand my grandson, told his dad he thinks he is gay because he likes to look at men more than women. I don't know what is happening with our youth today. My son said, he thinks his son is going through a faze, because he has hada couple bad relationships with girls. But if he does decide that this is the life style that he chooses, he will always stand behind him no matter what he decides. The grandson has been raised since he was a baby by his grandmother, the grandmother threw her daughter out when she found out she had been cheating on my son, the daughter left and left the child with my son and his grandmother. The grandmother has 3 sons living at home that are all gay. And I Think that has influnanced my grandson a lot. We can never know how or why our children or grand children turn out to be what they are. But we have to stand by them whether we agree or not. I have seen what happens when a child tells his parents that he is gay and the parent turns his back on the child. Even when the son was laying in the hospital dying the mother would not go to the hospital to see the son, because she was embrassed that the nurses and hospital staff would know that he was gay. Now the mother is a drunk and I do believe that it is eating her alive of what she did to her son when he was laying there in that hospital bed and drinking is her way of handling this to get by each day. While being gay is not what we might want for our children, they are still our children no matter what and if you must still love them no matter what.
• United States
1 Oct 08
I would wish that they wouldn't become homosexual. But, if it came to that and they were happy. To me that happiness is what counts. I would love my children either way. Nothing could change how much I love my girls. Happy Mylotting!!!!