Tell your children, "I love you!"

United States
October 1, 2008 9:38am CST
I myself am a mother who have raised five children altogether. I always remeind myself to tell children, "I love you". I always tell them when they wake in the morning, before they are off to school, before they go outside to play, when they come home from school or outside, before they go to bed. When kids get in trouble and I explained to them that is not right and after that i always tell them, "I love you". So many time, when child asked me if he or she was naughty and I don' love them. I told him or her , "No! I always love you no matter if you are good or you be naughty and I still love you!" I gave each child a big hug and said a gentle word to their hear, "I always love you".
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@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Good for you! Kids need affirmations - constantly - from those they love and who love them. They get bombarded by negatives at school, from friends. They need positives from parents. And on a sadder note, one never knows when today will be the last opporunity to say, "I love you." We never know if an illness or accident will hit us and we'll no longer be around to say those magic words.
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@angela38 (122)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I am all in agreement on this.
• United States
2 Oct 08
I agree! Especially today world is harsh and rough, schools and freinds do give out negatives. That why it is so important to tell them , "I love you". Yes! it is true last day opportunity because of accident or ill ness which I dont like that at all, but it does happen to some. Magic words are excellent way to say, " I love you".
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
2 Oct 08
We grew up and never heard the words I love you from our parents, or any other relative. I never understood that. I have always said I love you to my son and he to me. Out loud and in front of people. Everyone should always SAY THE WORDS - they mean so much. Good for you. Kids need to be reassured in a big way, and it sounds like you are doing a great job!
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• United States
2 Oct 08
Wow! You made an effort to change from your family who never said those words and now you say those words to help make a better in your kid's life. i do agree that everyone should say those words to keep spreading the love in our generation lives. Thank you!
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@bellis716 (4804)
• United States
3 Oct 08
Good advice. I hope your grown children remember to say "I love you" not only to you but to their siblings.
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@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I always tell my daughter that I love her so much. Be it the first time I or her woke up to the time she or I go to bed. My husband and I raised her in a loving environment. I am so proud whenever people praise her for being polite and sweet. You can't see that in kids here in America. Even caucasians admit that themselves
@jands1 (835)
• United States
1 Oct 08
That is awesome Shar1979. You sound like a great mother. :) I also find that politeness is lacking in many people in the USA. Part of why I live in New Orleans, LA, USA. Much warmer and politer. But Caucasians are so rare in the world. There are less than a 1000 left in their homeland (Southern former Russian Republic), though their most noted product are beautiful primative woven rugs. I have never meet a native of Caucasia in the USA. That would be cool. Such tribal people from the documentaries I have seen.
• United States
1 Oct 08
That good that you wlays tell your daughter that you love you in many possible ways along with loving environment. Loving environment? Hmmm! Loving environment is so important since we live in tough situation in this world. Telling children "I love you " will also help them to survive through situations.
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I try to be a good mother to my daughter. I am not perfect but I make sure to be a good mother and friend to her. I believe that showing her more love will make her a good person not just to herself, her family...but to everyone that surrounds her
@ReoTwo (194)
1 Oct 08
I used to tell my children that "I love you" too. My mother and father(even tho, we knew that they loved us very much), weren't very verbally or physically demonstrative, so I promised myself that when I had children, that I would be. Yes, I am a hugger and a kisser too.(smile) Yes, you'll love them no matter what. Mine are now young adults, with children of their own, and I still tell them that I love them, and they say I love you too. But one of my big things that goes along with that has always been, "Be Careful!" When I have forgotten to say that when they're leaving my presences, I have been known to run to a window or run downstairs to catch them to say it. I know that it's only superstition, but I feel like they will be ok or at least return to me if I say it. Well, you how a mother's heart is.
• United States
2 Oct 08
Wow! You have done a wonderful job with your children even though your parent didnt say those words but you forge ahead and do something good for your children with , "I love you", hug and kiss. "Be careful!" is a very good advice to let them know. Telling your children be careful also mean you love them so much. Great job! Keep it up with life.
@ReoTwo (194)
2 Oct 08
Hi. Thank for your response. Even tho, my children are grown, therefore, we've been through the "growing pains", we still say I love you. I forgot to add the last time, it great to end a phone conversation with, and much better than goodbye. Nowadays, we really don't know if we'll see anyone anymore, from day to day. I prefer that my last word to them or them to me, was "I love you".
• United States
3 Oct 08
Oh yes! That is very much definitely agree with you. For my family especially kids and grandkids at the end of the conversation I always say I love. Yes! I know how funny to say good bye which i dont usually say that to my family much only to business.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
2 Oct 08
always always always.. i say it so much i even ask my kid if i DO say it too much sometimes lol her answer is always "no.. you cant say it too much" even when having to discipline for wrong behavior.. the words "i love you" are always spoken.. making it clear that it isnt them i am upset with, but the actions theyve taken.. and regardless of what they do.. i do, and will always love them.
• United States
2 Oct 08
That a very creative way for you to say always always always. It a very good idea to ask your kid if you say too much but your kid responded not too much. I would say wow that mean your kid would to hear you say to them and that is soooo wonderful . You are a very good mom.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
2 Oct 08
thank you for the compliment. most importantly.. my children think i am too and they dont fail to say "i love you" as much as possible either.. even when theyre not happy about being grounded for misdeeds.
• United States
3 Oct 08
I'm happy to hear that! eventhough children may not like grounded but soon or later they will realized how much you love them for that reason is love and you care for them.
@jands1 (835)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I wholeheartedly agree with what you did ashmarie. Life is too short and one does not know what will happen. Always tell your kids you love them. Even when they are older. I really miss hearing my mother tell me she loves me. It has been a few years now.
• United States
1 Oct 08
Even when kids get older, they will know and can always come to you more and more knowing that you love them no matter what even when kids become adult, become parent, getting a new career and many things that are happening to them. I always continue telling them, " I love you".
• Australia
2 Oct 08
I dont think anyone can ever describe or measure the love they have for their children. Words are not big enough or deep enough...You just love them so much and sometimes your heart breaks with the love. I have 2 boys and they are a true gift to me, despite the demands and chores of daily life.
@jands1 (835)
• United States
3 Oct 08
I agree completely ashmarie. I tell my son the same. :)
• Philippines
2 Oct 08
You are so sweet. Like you, I'm always telling my son that I love him. A day will not pass that i didn't tell him that. maybe 10 times a day I tell him that. Stay Active
• United States
2 Oct 08
Thank you! That is so good that you always telling your son more than 10 times a day. You have done a wonderful job!
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• Philippines
13 Oct 08
thank you. :D
• China
2 Oct 08
Because my parents never say that to me, even give me a hug ( because of the custom). Sometimes he asks me, " Mom, do you love me?" I will give him a big hug, murmuring that he's a good guy and I love him. The funniest thing is that he will say "Mom, I hate you." in a soft tone instead of saying I love you now. Haha, Don't get the wrong end of the stick, that's a new way to express love. every time he says that, I will reply to him, " I hate you too." lol
• China
2 Oct 08
he=my son, 13
• United States
2 Oct 08
Smile! It good that you and your daughter have loving realtionships with hug, and murmurring. Aha! it is funny way to say I hate you and I know it actually means I love you. Have fun with your daughter in funny way of love and keep up great job with your daughter ----Smile!!!!!
• United States
3 Oct 08
I always tell my daughter, grandaugther and mother that I love them many times a day. When they leave the house and sometimes just because I want to tell them that I love them because I do.
• United States
3 Oct 08
That is a perfect example for telling them because you want to and I love that!! You are so sweet for no matter what becasue you want to !!!
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@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
2 Oct 08
we tell each other we love each other everytime we leave. Or sometimes when we are just sitting there and the kids will come give us a hug we will tell them we love them. After I fuss at the kids and they have a mad look on their face I tell them I love them. I think it is very important that you tell your kids and family that you love them very often. They need to hear it.
• United States
2 Oct 08
Mad look is cute to me and I understtod that it meant for knowing that you love them so much. You are right that isimportant that you tell your kids and family that you love them very often. Yes! Yes! They do need to hear them all the time.
@khatri_50 (225)
• India
2 Oct 08
i am the mom of two sons . my younger always used to say 'mom u love my ealder brother not to me but i reply i love both of u eqully ' now my younger son has also grown up now he realises that mom love the two son equally.
• United States
2 Oct 08
It is a joy to hear that you love your son both equally. I am so happy that you explained that to your son earlier that you do love the same to boht boys. Wow! You did a good job as a mother who carefully love both as equally. Now you got yourself a great reward!!
@ersmommy1 (12596)
• United States
2 Oct 08
Do you hear my echo? I do the same with my daughter. And will with my son after he is born(DEC). It is THE important step not to be missed. It gives them a good feeling. And it builds self confidence. I am with you all the way!
• United States
2 Oct 08
Echo is so cute! Congratulation is on the way for your boy be born in December. Yes iagree that it is so important not be missed and it is a good feeling . OOOH YYEES it does build self confidence for the word , "I love you"
• United States
2 Oct 08
I always tell my kids I love them. When they do something to get in trouble I tell them I don't like the choice they made but I love them. I also have always told my husbands little brother and sister, they are 14 and 15 years younger than him, I may not always like the choices you will make but I will always love you and be here for you no matter what. The kids at school are the same. I work in a special education classroom. After punishment I will let them know what they did was naughty but they are a good child and I still like them and they are my friend. Friendship is important to them. They always ask everybody are you my friend many times a day. A child cannot hear I love you too many times. Most children don't hear it enough or at all. I will not let my children feel unloved. They will know mom loves them. They have no doubt.
• United States
2 Oct 08
That a wonder way to tell them even though you may not like what they do something wrong and letting them know it is wrong. Yet, you tell them "I love you" is the greatest thing you ever say to them and later on they will know that you always love them no matter what. You have more job to tell your husband younger siblings by saying ," I love you" that help help them alot to know who they can turn to if they have problem or trouble and they will turn to you becasue you love them. You are so good to say that you will not allow them be unloved. And you are going to make sure they are love and love.
@nyumix (1661)
• Belgium
2 Oct 08
Yeah, I also tell my children that I love them so much every day. I don't think they will get bored with that, in fact they love it so much to hear that words. I think it is a magical words for them as well.
• United States
2 Oct 08
I agree that bored is not such a word for telling your children , "I love you" and oh yes that word, "I love you " is the magical words. I love that phrase!!!
@ShellyB (5243)
• United States
2 Oct 08
This is a sweet post. I always tell my kid that I love her often. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
2 Oct 08
Thanks! I'm glad to hear that you love your daughter often -- GOOD!!!! Your welcome!
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
2 Oct 08
I also tell my children that I love them many times a day. My children are the most precious things in my life, and no matter what, they need to know that I love them.
• United States
2 Oct 08
That good to hear that you always tell your children so many times. I am so glad tht you mention that children are your precious in your life. Whoa!
• United States
2 Oct 08
Yea, my mom was the kind of mom that exploded whenever I did something wrong, like getting C's on report card. She only said I love you when she was proud. Still does lol. I just wish she would have said it to me a lot more when i was growing up
• United States
2 Oct 08
LOL, try tell you mom , " I love you Mom!" maybe she will tell you the same thing, if not - dont worry! You did your part and keep up telling her and she will be very proud of you.
• United States
1 Oct 08
I always tell my family I love them. When ever I leave the house or they leave I love yous are said. Even if we are in a rush it is one thing that needs to be taken care of. I would hate to have something happen and think that the last words were not something kind and loving.
• United States
2 Oct 08
That is very thoughtful! That good and keep up your loving and kindness words to them . Smile
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
1 Oct 08
I am not a parent my self (yet...hopefully) but I do agree with you. It is importatnt to tell you children you love them. I missed that growing up and I belive if my parents were more open about their feelings we'd be closser. Even if I am more of an action person, and I do know my parents love me it would still be nice to hear it every now and then.
• United States
2 Oct 08
Me too! I have not heard those precious word from my parent. right my mother passed away in the summer and she nver had the chance to say , "I love you" and I will never hear from her . I was thinking why not you try tell your parent that you say before you leave, "I love you mom and dad" can you try that. Don't worry if they dont say those words back to you --that alright because you already said and that is important.