The favoured or the least favoured?

As you had such a big family your parents must of thought that sending you there would give you a better advantage than they could give and as it has made you more able to cope with life it must of been for the best . Maybe you were the most favored child. I am the oldest of 3 had a good child hood my sis was born after I left home so dont know her very well. My brother and I stay in contact and always got along well even me being 5 years older than him.

well it is unavoidable, favoritism will always be a part of family life. i had been an ugly duckling and many of the family did not like me,even my siblings. i was not cute, i was not fair, i was not charming. i was the least favored of all, my elder siblings got new clothes, while i grew up using their old clothes. i looked like a beggar when sitted beside them. my grandma did not even love me, i felt so alone and deprived. but i grew strong and independent, i was able to do what i loved compared to most of my cousins,i went to the beach with my gang, went to the mountains, played hide and seek during full moon in the road, went home late at dawn from disco, school activities, went to different places coz of contests, had so many awards in highschool and they envy me for that. i graduated college with just the help of other grandma who loved me so much, and she is the closest to my heart right now. i hate being an officer before but my experience as a working student made me a leader and i learned so much. looking back, i have no regrets with my life, i am what i am today, a survivor, a giver and a lover.

[i]Hi zandi, ohhh...I wonder why? anyway, I know those experiences were tough but I agree that it helps you to be more independent and more open-minded in life! ANyway, we were only 2 and I am the eldest...I have a great childhood but I know Mom favor and give much attention to my Sister since she is the youngest and I also spoiled her![/i]

Growing up, I was favored by my mother. (my father passed away when I was a teenager). Once I was married, the favoring went to my older sister. My mother now still favors her and her daughter. It is very sad because my kids see how their grandmother favors their cousin over them. Now as a mom, I try so hard not to show any favoritism with my children. It is hard at times, but I think I give all of my kids special attention.

I grew up to be the favoured one of my parents. But otherwise by my grandparents. So I know how you feel. Good thing that you took everything positive. Now I am still struggling to please my grandparents, but I realize I have nothing to prove because this is who I am. I just think we just can't please everyone.

Zandi458, you are an extremely interesting person. If the pic by your name is a pic of you, then like most of us, your self image is not the way most other people see you. Your pic is attractive, but your heart is being worn on your sleeve. When you say "most of us probably had a happy childhood memory' I would say it is probably closer to a 50/50 proposition. The promise in your question/ statement is that you have no regrets and realize how the sum of your experiences have made you who you are today. From the questions you ask, and the statements you make, I gotta believe you are one of the really good people....As for the rest of us, well, I have had the opportunity to live in a few different cities and countries. In those places I have met different people from different background, doing different jobs, having different levels of education, and of course, different experiences growing up. I have never met anyone who has had no hard or sad or difficult times at different times of their times. Everyone processes these experiences in different ways. I have two kids, born one year apart. Both were raised pretty much the same way. They are now adults and They are as different as they could be. We are the product of our environment and experiences....And we are who we choose to be. Its not all an accident. Some have more opportunities, more or less advantages, but you look around the world, and the people who have made it big come from every back ground imaginable. Every ethnic group, every culture, gender, country, blue eyes, brown eyes, hazel eyes, black eyes, brown, black, red, yellow, white, and combination of colors. So many things make us who we are. We can only hope that most of us try to do what is best for ourselves and the ones we love and all man kind. Zandi458, you are a very interesting women, thank you for the opportunity to exchange thoughts.