do you burn old letters?

@secretbear (19463)
Philippines
October 5, 2008 5:38am CST
i was cleaning this morning and i decided to throw away old stuffs and trash that i've been keeping and not using for so long. and then i decided to throw away also old letters that are occupying a lot of space and accumulating dusts and dirt. so i took out some of the very old letters and left the recent ones. i was kinda hesitant to throw them away because they are like friendships written in paper. but i thought if i don't throw some of them away, it would continuously pile up and i wouldn't have enough space for it. and i decided to burn them all just in case some people would be interested to mess around the trash can, saw the letters and read them. ^__^;; i don't want anybody reading them. some topics there are private and i'm sure my friends wouldn't want other people to read it except for me. so do you burn old letters too?
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@williamjisir (22900)
• China
5 Oct 08
Hello dear secret bear. I used to burn my old letters when I broke away from my ex. I didn't think that there is any necessity for me to keep them as they will affect my new relationship. So I burned them all including those photos taken together. I had none left. It is better not to keep them and burn them to ashes to avoid unnecessary troubles later on. Good day.
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• Pakistan
6 Oct 08
It is so easy to say that I do not wish to carry that extra burden when moving or shifting. I did the same but if you are the person that you claim to be, " Attentive to the needs of others, caring and loving" and what not. Then can you deny that all that you burn or shred leaves your mind and soul as well. Not mine! I still love that innocent shy girl who never said it so clearly but wrote her HEART on those papers which I burnt and still carry in my heart.
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• China
6 Oct 08
Yeah, even if it is burnt, many of the scenes still pop up in my mind sometimes, but at least it does not influence my present relationship.
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@secretbear (19463)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
hey william! hey zak. well i think memories are not all stored in papers and photos. special memories will always remain in our hearts and minds so even if we burn those tangible things, like papers and photos, that reminds us of those memories, we still can remember them because they are embedded in our hearts.
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
5 Oct 08
That is exactly why I burnt all my journals because and I quote you " i don't want anybody reading them. some topics there are private" sadly my ex took it upon themself to read my journal once and it has put me off for life so I burnt them all, another thing after moving six times in my life I found that I was carrying around too much stuff which I was packing up, carrying and unpacking again, and I thought, hey, this is crazy, so I did a massive purge, I had tonnes of paperwork, college work etc letters included which went up in flames and I tell you it never felt so good, no regrets and I am delighted to say I am much lighter now if I have to move again, and probably will! I've gone for the minimalistic approach in every way!
@secretbear (19463)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
hey wolfie! so you move around a lot? well its really not advisable for people like you to have a lot of stuffs in possession. it becomes too much of a hassle.
@writersedge (22577)
• United States
5 Oct 08
I have a shredder, so I can just shred them. I can also soak them in water and a lot of ink will come out. Then I can use them in papier mache. But usually I put them in the trash because we only have recycling for newspapers and not regular paper up here unless you have a business and generate enough for a special trip or you can bring them to the only waste desposal system that takes them which would be two trips to two different landfills. Some places here it's illegal to burn, but paper to start a wood fire in your home, a little bit is allowed. Take care.
@secretbear (19463)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
would you believe i haven't seen a shredder all my life? ^__^;; i have only seen one on tv and i still don't know exactly how it looks like. its good to recycle papers. someday i would study how to make paper machie and recycle old papers.
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• Philippines
5 Oct 08
I havent tried burning a letter. But I remember I tore some before throwing them. I had to tear them because they were memories I didnt want to remember. They contained secrets I had kept. But as for other letters, I am still keeping them and I dont have plans to dispose them or burn them.
@secretbear (19463)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
hi purple! i also had torn a letter apart before because they contained bad memories. that goes way back during my high school days and the letter was supposed to be a love letter. it didn't sound like a love letter to me though so i tore it apart.
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
5 Oct 08
NOPE! i have letters and cards that go back a good 15 yrs or so LOL I keep them all....I guess I keep them becaue they all mean something to me ya know, they are important to me so beng the way I am, getting rid of them isnt an option..
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@secretbear (19463)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
wow. 15 years?? that's a very long time. i had letters before that go way back more than 10 years ago. when i realized i wanted to keep them, i couldn't find them anymore. ^__^;;
@abhiroop85 (2827)
• Scottsdale, Arizona
5 Oct 08
I do not get a letter ever ,I get a lot of emails but not old conventional paper letters ,so i do not have answer to your question.You can keep letters it may bear a lot of memories sometimes.
@secretbear (19463)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
thanks for dropping by here.
@zandi458 (27947)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 08
Before we used to communicate with letters before the arrival of internet. Yes, I have tons of them from penfriends and boyfriends. When I reread those love letters it made me laugh of how childish it sounds. I have destroyed and burnt them all before I got married so as not to be reminded of my past dealings. Eversince then I have not receive a single letter from anywhere in my postbox except for bills. It is good to destroy old letters as it also erase your past which might not go down well with the present.
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@secretbear (19463)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
hi zandi! i have burnt old letters before that contained bad memories. one of them came from an ex and it only contained lies so i burned it. some of them were a sweet friendship turned sour because of unknown reason so i burned them too. its good to be get rid of ugly memories.
• Singapore
5 Oct 08
I have lots of letters and postcards from my hubby, then boyfriend, during our courtship years. I have boxes of these. My hubby has suggested that we burn them all but I was reluctant to do so. But now, I think that there is no use keeping them all. One day I will burn them. My hubby must be there too to witness the event. We wrote to each other almost every day then, so I really have a lot to go through. I think I will keep some for memories and burn the rest. I must not be sentimental! Boo hoo hoo!
@secretbear (19463)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
hi sydney! i think sometimes its really not practical to keep old letters and postcards especially if we don't have a big space to keep all of them. my mother used to keep old letters from my father. but as time passes by, she forgot all of it, maybe because of age ^__^;;, and she didn't know what happened to them anymore. i found them before and kept some of it. i don't know where the rest of it has gone to. i probably put them in the trash.
@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
21 Jul 09
I totally understand your reason for burning the letters. As a rule, I dont burn letters but really tear them up into bits and pieces before throwing them in the bin. Even if somebody did want to read them, theyd have a difficult time trying to put them together, no, actually impossible. hehe. I usually dont accumulate letters for they just occupy space and they may fall in the wrong hands. So after Im done with the reading, its bits and pieces. Cheers.
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@danilliam (278)
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
i never burn things.like letters from friends.i very sentimental and i keep them all in one shoebox.i have diary when in elementary and high school and that is only one diary.i not have any other else.i keep the shoebox in my clothes cabinet in the bottom drawer.i really not like it when my family look inside my shoebox.they not know at first but i know that my brothers and sister found it before.i know they read it and also tell our mama.it is very embarrassing for me to know that and my brothers and sisters tease me about it.i not mind since it is over but i not want to to go in that box again. but last week i see my sister using the cellphone strap that one of my friends give to me that i put in that shoebox.tsk3 i not mind as long as they not tell anyone else about it and take care of the things that they get inside of it. maybe one day in the future i will also throw them away.i not think that i can burn them so i only throw them away.wrap them in other paper that no one will know the letters are in them.hehehe
@ericajoyce (1746)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
No, I like keeping letters whether old or new. It helps me remember memories from my friends.
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@swirlz (3136)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
I don't burn my old letters. It's kept hidden in a box, and I think it's rotting there. hehe. I just feel sad if I burn them. They're like memorabilias to me. And some of the letters were from a close friend in grade school that I haven't seen in a long time.
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@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
30 May 09
Hello secretbear, I always burn old letters as I don't want others to read or have a look at them. Some are quite personal to me and I don't want to share my personal stuff with others. But, I still have some old letters from my teenage years that I keep in a box in my room. I think I should throw and burn all of them as I don't see a reason why I need to keep them. It is just that I don't have time and when I do, I totally forget about them as I hide them somewhere in the closet
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• United States
19 Oct 08
I don't get many hand written letters anymore. I do get greeting cards sometimes though. I never burn any letters or cards. I just tear them up when they are old and need throwing out. I do keep cards for a while though before I throw them out.
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• Philippines
19 Oct 08
I'm a very sentimental person, I cannot easily throw away or burn letters from my old friend not even a note. But I also have a limit, if the letter is too private for anyone to see even my husband, I would rather burn them to make sure it will not be read by anyone. At least it will lessen all the litters in my room
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@lkbooi (16100)
• Malaysia
11 Oct 08
Yeah secretbear, sometimes the old stuffs witch have no longer value to keep them again, I definitely will get rid of them by tearing them into tiny pieces and making them messy and no one read them anymore. I then dump them into the big garbage bag for sending to the recycle bin. Of course it is much nicer if to put them into the paper cutter. There are still many old letters from my loved ones and good friends as well sleeping in my drawers. It was really fun to take out any of them to read and to recall those sweet and old remembrance during my leisure. I could find some disgusting bookworms browsing around the pile of letters in the different drawers. I'm afraid that they might cause damage to those precious valuable letters, so I would tidy and let them expose to the sunlight regularly. This could prevent the worms to spoil the letters as well as to drive away the nasty smell of old stuffs. posting and take care.
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• Philippines
11 Oct 08
hello secretbear! when i was younger i did burn/throw some old letters/cards that were eating up space, but still kept some. Now that i'm in my 40's I realize that old letters/cards from family and friends are precious and worth keeping. These old letters speak of friendships and relationships that are part of me, of my life.
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
6 Oct 08
No, I don't want to burn old letters. I think at least they are some parts of my memory. Perhaps one day I will feel sorry to burn them. I keep them well. The old letters are from my friends and they are quite precious for me. I love China
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
6 Oct 08
No, I usually just throw them in the garbage. I haven't recieved any letters latley. As a matter of fact, I don't get letters at all. Most people call me. They don't sit down to write letters anymore.
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@jartro (9)
• Mexico
6 Oct 08
something sad but the time has removed much but a lot of weight just above the memories and the reality is very realistic to see a simple way instead of remembering what old but always remains above all trace of something over which we will need all that we remain of his life friend jaime letters
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