Can't I just hit him over the head?

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As a bunch of you know, I live with my dad. Right now, he and my step-mother are divorcing as of Monday. Anyhow, tension has been high in the house for about a month. During this time, I tried to stay away from the house as much as possible, so my kids aren't in the mix. I don't like to fight in front of them. My problem started when I started seeing my current boyfriend. We have known each other for over a year, but I never knew the things I know about him now. He was a nice guy, going through some stuff with his son's mother--who is a heroin addict. She lost custody of their son because of her incompetence as a mother. As the story goes on, I realize that I have enough crap to go through with my kids' dad. And while realizing this, I am starting to hate this guy. He lived with his brother after their father died and there was illegal things going on in that house. He decided to report them annoymously and it got back to them that he reported them. Long story short, he got kicked out and now has to live with me. I say has to because my dad being the generous guy he is told him to move in for a couple of months until he got on his feet. Here's the problem with this.... I have lived with my parents for almost 2 years now because of the court issues I was having. I have always cleaned up after me and the kids, fed my kids, cooked, cleaned, fed everyone else, but was never allowed to have an opinion until my step-mom left. After that I was allowed to make curtain decisions (she took them all), grocery lists, what kind of pop to drink and what not. This guy comes in and threatens my best friend of 21 years, tells all of my other friends that they have to ask to talk to me or see me, I am now not allowed to work at certain restaurants, or wear certain jeans (i have only one pair and they don't fit). He took my computer which I was using for school, and chucked it under a passing semi, and then flattened all of my tires causing me to lose my job. My dad seems to think this is funny. My mom couldn't care less. I have endured the ultimate abuse for the last 18 years. I can't do this anymore. I am happy about my parents divorce, but what hurts the most is that I haven't ever had my dad to myself, and just when I thought I could talk to him, the boyfriend starts his crap. I ended up calling the cops that day, and in return John called my dad. My dad came home and said....wait here it comes....John could stay, Rose you can leave. Now, I am hurt and discusted like no other. I thought I was on top of the world because I could finally spend time with my dad. He does happen to be the most wonderful man in the world. Now, I see that I have never meant anything to him. I am so hurt right now and lost. What would you do in this situation? I can't afford to move, but I can't afford to lose what little sanity I have left.