How to manage a whiner boyfriend?
By gracemanotoc
@gracemanotoc (641)
Japan
October 6, 2008 1:53am CST
I cannot avoid complaining about my bf's behavior mostly about his job and it affects me really! What should i do? I feel sometimes I am being out of line if i kept on saying it's ok i feel like he doesn't think it is fine... I know he's burnt out in his job but putting on me his whines about his jobs make me feel too down as well. Advice on how to manage it, pls help.
5 responses
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
6 Oct 08
Some people really love to complain about their jobs, especially if they feel they have a good cause to complain.
It is not really a good idea but since he is your boyfriend ask yourself why does it bother you? Is this a part of his personality that you think he will be able to change? If no, are you willing to put up with that let's say for 20 or more years?
If not I guess it is time to revalue the relationship.
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@gracemanotoc (641)
• Japan
7 Oct 08
I totally agree with you! Imagine living another 20 years hearing all his complains? So definitely it comes down to LOVE ain't enough in a relationship! Ughhh, men are so hard to analyze..what's worst is we are interracial relationship.
@kdhuleshia (115)
• Australia
6 Oct 08
its simple ignore him for some time and then when he complains about it you complain him about his behavior and ask him to not to repeat this in future or you will leave him
ok
@gracemanotoc (641)
• Japan
6 Oct 08
it sounded that i can't be him in his times of needs... or should i be there in his times of needs?
@kdhuleshia (115)
• Australia
6 Oct 08
its obvious that you want to help him but the matter is he cares more about the job then you so you should ask him to take it easy and enjoy the time with you rather than being so nervous and talking about the job all time
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@gracemanotoc (641)
• Japan
7 Oct 08
i really think your advice is good so i rated you! :-) Do you think i have to widen my understanding as well? as what i read in some email circulation, MEN: love them less, understand them more....
