can't procreate

China
October 6, 2008 3:59am CST
if you find your wife can't procreate a baby ,are you love her just like before ?or you make a idea that want to divorce?
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7 responses
@shell94 (990)
• Canada
6 Oct 08
If you knew this before you married and still married her then it should not make a difference in the least. Now if she found out after you were married, this would definitely throw a bit of a twist into things and there would need to be a lot of serious talking done in your home to resolve the situation. Bottom line though is that you did marry her for better OR for worse, and this depending on how you feel about children would fall into that category.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
I have children so this is something that is already decided for me. However, couples can still stay together even if the marriage has not produced children. I know of some couples who stay together in spite of this. Cheers!!
@Galena (9110)
6 Oct 08
if you don't love her enough to feel complete with her and only her, without children, then you don't love her enough to be married to her. children sometimes happen, sometimes they don't. so when choosing a partner you should choose a partner who you will always feel complete with, regardless whether children arrive or don't arrive. as it happens, I hope never to have children, so myself or my partner being infertile would not be a barrier to us. we love each other, and are happy together. if it's just the two of us until the end of time, we have enough.
• India
6 Oct 08
Not being able to procreate does not realy change anything if you love your wife. You can always adopt a child. There are so many destitute children who need foster homes.it will be a good thing to adopt and bring light into a child's life. Divorce is an excuse for a person who does not love his wife and is looking for a way out of the marriage. .
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
as a woman, if i cannot bear a child , then i have to accept the truth. i will respect my husband's decision if he wants to divorce me, i guess that would mean he does not love me enough to accept my imperfection. there are lots parent less kids and adopting one or two of them would be a big help to the society. if my guy is the incapable one, i will understand and still accept him and i will suggest the same solution.
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
it depends on the situation. if the wife just discovered it, then i'll accept her. without doubt. if the wife have known her situation before we got married that will be a problem. she didnt tell me beforehand. and there would be a problem in my trust and her honesty to me
@kedves (728)
6 Oct 08
i think it depends on why you married her and if she told you she could not bear children. some people marry purely to raise a family and it is more important to them than spending your life with someone special. but it works both ways .. what if the husband could not give his wife a child should she look elsewhere ? or would she stay committed to their relationship? again the reasons for being together and the longing for the future has to be talked between them otherwise one of them will always feel something is missing. it is not a question that has any right or wrong answers as we all have needs and we all have dreams. dream of children dream of a true love with your wife/husband .. make sure you marry for right reasons make sure both of you understand the other persons wishes and dreams.