when are u going to marry?

marriage - are u zeal for that?
China
October 7, 2008 7:26pm CST
Marriage is taken as the sweetest thing in life. two different people become one.they would build up a family and have their children. As a traditional nation, our ancestors said: "There are three unfilial acts:Bearing no descendant is by far the most unforgivable."Nowdays, DINK family is appearing. They don't wanna have a kid. anyway, it's their right to determine to breed a kid or not. my grandfather is very worried abt my uncle's and aunt's marriages. their are already 33years old. still single, and don't want to be married. that's a headache to my grandfather. Would u like to be one member of DINK family? and, when are u going to marry?Thank you for sharing (*^_^*)
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21 responses
@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
8 Oct 08
i am never going to get married. Do not want to. i would have liked to have kids, but it has just not happened. Sometimes that's the way things turn out wether one plans it that way or not
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• China
8 Oct 08
have kids without marriage? so, it means u should raise children urself. em. i think it would be a little exhausting. thanks for sharing (*^_^*)
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
8 Oct 08
There are thousands and thousands of parents raising children on their own. No problem. There is also the possibility of having kids with someone you live with without being married. That is in fact quite common where I live. I have lived with my man for 9 years by the way
• China
8 Oct 08
It depends where you live and with whom you live. Different esults come from different conditions.
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@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
8 Oct 08
DINK family? ouuw just know that, but it's ok if one member of the family didn't wat to get married yet, maybe someday they will feel they need it or not at all, it's everyone decision ... I'm planning to get married, but it's secret to tell , do you plan to get married?
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• China
8 Oct 08
oh, when it refers when i will get married. that's really hard to answer. i don't know. but,in fact, i am a little afraid of marriage. marriage will takes ur freedom away. i wanna be free, could marriage bring me? (*^_^*)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I'm not sure what you mean about taking your freedom away. I'm from the USA, so I'm sure, but it's probably alot different in China. I like learning about different cultures, so maybe you could shed a little light on the subject for me?
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• Indonesia
9 Oct 08
I think the freedom you have just transform into another freedom you will have we will know it when we already married, maybe the person above my response post right now, already know it
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@austere (2814)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
yes!!!hahaha i want to get married, have my own kinds, make my own family, live with the person that i love until we both get old.. i know i'll get married, with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, i pray..hehehe he is such a nice guy and i definitely love him so much.. i want to have kids with him.. of course, bearinga child and rearing him to become a good person is something fulfilling for a woman.. i want to be able to experience that of course!
• China
8 Oct 08
(*^_^*) so sweet!! bless u!
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
hehehe.. thanks.. i just cant seem to understand why some women wouldnt want to be able to experience that kind of blessing.. thanks again and happy mylotting.. see you around..
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@successlog (3172)
• China
8 Oct 08
hello girl,i am so glad to know you here.i am also from china.as you said, marriage is very important in real life to two sides.so before marry with some one, people should take some necessary action to watch whether or not they are suitable to each other.i never believe the love in the first sight,and i think the real deep love depends on the better comunity between them. some people think the marriage is the very sweet thing in life, but some peole think it is the very trouble one in life.so i think the fundamental problem is whether or not you have prepared to be responsible for your partner,your family.Marriage is a simple word, but the once you married, you should be responsible for it the whole life.This is most difficult.if there is one person who couldn't deal with his own thing of course couldn't have the energy to look after the other.It is just my opinion.lol good luck
• China
8 Oct 08
hey, guy ,it's so wondful to meet here. u are my first Chinese friends here. well, i am a greenhand in mylot. it seems u have much experience in mylot (*^_^*)maybe i could turn help to u, when i meet some problems, if u don't mind thank you for sharing
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• China
8 Oct 08
sure,it is my pleasure.i just joined mylot 3 months again, but it has been 1 month since i login into my account last time.so intotal i spemt my time in mylot about 2 months.and maybe i know something more than u, but i still should study from other ones, so i think we can study together.lol,do you have a QQ or msn?
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@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I guess to alot of people I did everything wrong. I've gotten the stares, the glares and all kinds of looks. I was unmarried, 17 years old, and pregnant. To alot of people that means abortion. Especially to my grandfather because my daughters so called "father"(more like sperm donor) had epilepsy and she MIGHT have it. I was a single parent for a long time. And you know what? Everything worked out. I'm not encouraging teenagers to get pregnant and saying it's easy. Being a parent and taking care of a baby that is totally helpless that you're responsible for is not easy!!! It did make it harder not having a partner, but I knew that my choice was a bad one, but it's outcome was good. She's 4 now, has no signs of epilepsy, I'm married to a wonderful man who loves her just as he would his own daughter. I know because we have to children together and have been married for almost 3 years now. This is why I'm not judgemental towards other teenagers when they have babies so young. I'm not perfect, neither is anyone else. And they made the same bad choice I did, but the outcome is wonderful. I'll leave you with this thought. This is something my Great grandmother told me. She said "you were'nt the fist to get pregnant and you won't be the last!"
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• China
8 Oct 08
hey, rjblueyes, just be strong.everyone will make mistakes. the key isn't how to regret to our faults but to forget them and gain a new live. (*^_^*)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I don't regret anything. In fact God has turned my faults into blessings. I'm glad that I made my mistakes. That's how we learn right? Good old trial and error.
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@sandymay16 (1618)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
To each his or her own beliefs about life and marriages. Marrying for the sake of getting married is questionable. Sometimes it's dictated by culture and society. I'm not getting married because people around would like to see me married because I'm nearing my 40s. I'm living meaningfully and joyfully as a single in a couple's world.
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• China
8 Oct 08
ur comments are objective and fair.(*^_^*) no matter get married or not, i do think the key of leading a happy life should be follow ur mind. do wt u wanna do. if we are called to do something we dislike to , that's totaly a turment. (*^_^*) thank you for sharing. i really apprieciate ur attutide.
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
thanks too and you're welcome. meanwhile have fun here at mylot and think of marriage only when you're ready and all :) cheers
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• China
8 Oct 08
when do I get to be married? I dont know the answer.maybe it is 30 or 40 years old.when I meet someone that I love deeply,I will hurry to become a family with her.In china,people must face the enormous stress that come from their parents ,relatives and friends.
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• China
9 Oct 08
yeah, u r right. but i think maybe my parents would respect my mind. they never force my do anything. (*^_^*)
@jackiew (915)
• Canada
8 Oct 08
from the time i was young i said i would never marry-I am 49 now and still not married-came close a few times-I have been with my partner now for 17 years so i guess you could say we are married but without the paper[lol]
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• China
8 Oct 08
married without the paper. yeah, i think marriage shouldn't relied on the paper, while ,but without paper, do u have enough security? maybe paper is only for the guys who have not enough confindence in their marriage? (*?_?*)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
hopefully next year after the visa is done( pls pls pls Lord let everything went well).. and i really would love to have kids of my own.. thank you
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
He's from Washington.. we just sent the packet this month.. :D.. how about you?.. where is he from?.. congrats to you.. where u from?.. how long was your journey?.. i am very anxious in this matter.. hehehe.. getting married.. ahihi..
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@nlcapricorn (1114)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
I do want to marry and have a happy family. When? Ah..thats the question i dont know the answer because i still have plans for my life and my parents brothers and sisters..so i dont know yet when will be that time i can fulfill my plans for them. Only God knows about it. Besides that it is my own well to have that plan to be given to them in the future. After that,,hm its time for me to have my own family.
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• China
8 Oct 08
(*^_^*) i do think hard to answer myself. who gonna know when my prince woll here? maybe never? omg, then i should lead a single life forever
@jelai24 (221)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
well, for me i got marriage at the age of 27....before in entering or build my own family i want to help first my family in their financial needs...anyway i don't want to be a member of DINK family lolz...good day
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• China
8 Oct 08
(*^_^*) i am not sure wether i would be one of them. maybe, if my prince doesn't appear to my life
• India
8 Oct 08
marriage is the only main thing in our life.there we are fail we are also losing our life.if tere is success we can say that our life is very successfull.there fore i think marriage is the most important thing in our life.
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@Nanazone (14)
• China
8 Oct 08
I wish I can go to the world before 28,and have a baby after one year.I think it will be hard to find a right person for the lady who become more than 25 years old,because she won't be more beautiful but the man just choose the beauty to be his girlfriend ,at least the most of the man wish their wife to be younth and charming.So, when I have the ability to get married with someone when I am young,I would like to do it,for me ,the life is own to couples,not the single.
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• China
8 Oct 08
your words are mostly taken by the parents who wanna persuade their daughters to get married before they get old. while, girls not ask for marriage ,maybe bcz they are disappointed in man. they'd perfer single live. just like one of people around me, who is in the same age as my mum ,but look at me, she still live single. but i know she is happy, that's enough (*^_^*)thank you for sharing
• United States
8 Oct 08
I got married at 21 and then we decided to start having kids after that. My kids are my biggest blessing. I love my kids and my family. This was the best choice for me.
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• China
8 Oct 08
(*^_^*)anyone who did the right things he/she thought was the happinest one. bless u and ur family (*^_^*)thank you for sharing
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Before, I really planned to get married at the age of 26. For me to set everything in the right position. Graduate in college, pass the licensing exam and get a stable job. I guess that's not my destiny. I got married at the age of 23 and just this year. After a 3 year long distance relationship, I decided to marry my hubby and don't want to let him go anymore. I did a right decision. Besides I have done the things I wanted to. Graduated, pass the licensing exam and now I have a distressful job with great salary. I never thought I could have that in my age. The plus is I am helping my family in terms of financial.
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• China
8 Oct 08
wow, u r really superb!! sometimes things go different way which we expected them to.who gonna know wt gonna happen in future? maybe i would like to say, i won't get married, but,maybe many years later, when i experienced some things ,my mind would be changed. but, no matter wt happens, i think the key is just be urself, thank you for sharing(*^_^*)
• India
8 Oct 08
Hmmmmm.. I'm 22 yrs rite now,planning to get married after 2 yrs. I feel that's essential,it makes a man and woman complete,atleast that's what I feel. And about kids will give birth to one and adopt one. He he he ;-) Have planned everything,just expecting my guy to come to me riding his horse :-p
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• United States
9 Oct 08
There is absolutely nothing wrong with not getting married. Not everyone wants to do it. Marriage is not "the sweetest thing", it's just a lifestyle choice. People who don't get married aren't missing anything, people who get married aren't magically blessed. I am married, but I decided when I was very young that I never wanted children and I told my husband when we first met that I refused to ever have children. I don't like children, I don't want children, I won't have children. Being married doesn't change that at all.
• China
10 Oct 08
(*^_^*), thank you for ur sharing. Being married doesn't change ur mind at all.emmm, in my point of view, that's depends people's personality. yeah, just like u, i am still a student now. My thought is no child at all. but who gonna know wt's ur views many years later? We live in an objective world, who can ensure that he/she wouldn't be affected by others at all? Our standpoints to the same thing maybe changed as more and more experiences being suffered by us. But, to some people who persistently hold their dream, styles, changes maybe mean nothing. thank you for sharing (*^_^*)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I'm not a student and I'm not affected by others at all. My opinions are my own, I won't follow the crowd just because someone tells me to. I don't like children, I've never liked children and I think pregnancy is the absolute most disgusting thing I've ever heard of. I have never wanted children, I will never want children. I'm going to get sterilized so I can never get pregnant.
@makingpots (11920)
• United States
9 Oct 08
My husband and I were DINKs for 15 years.... only by choice for 5 of them. I happiest day ever was the birth of our son.
@makingpots (11920)
• United States
9 Oct 08
oooops, 'the' happiest day ever
• China
9 Oct 08
(*^_^*)bless u and ur family!
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
You know marriage for every person has their time. I think your aunt's and uncle's did not found yet the person they are looking for. Or they choose to be single for the rest of their life were in we call them as choosing the vocation to become single blessedness. Why not ask them if someday they dream to become married in the future or to remain as singles.
• China
10 Oct 08
oh, yeah, thank you, desiree_apuli, i will take ur advice (*^_^*)
@apples99 (6562)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I might consider getting married if the right person cames along, but I dont worry about marriage if its meant to happen it will happen, but I would love to have companionship and love someday and if I have kids I would prefer to be married but I think the most important thing is for children to have 2 parents that are involved in there life and care for them. and I think marriage can be grate but I also think that not everyone is suited for marriage, and thats ok as long as a person still has love and trust and happiness thats what matters most.
• China
8 Oct 08
For the children sake, it's really much better that they should live in a two patents family. single family can cause many problems on children's grown up. the thing is who gonna know whether u fit for marriage? i am not sure at all. once get married,if i found maybe single life is much better for me, then i will obey my own mind (*^_^*)