An Indecent Proposal, have you got one?
By maple_kisses
@maple_kisses (2156)
Philippines
October 7, 2008 7:36pm CST
Someone just gave me one yesterday. Don't get me wrong, it's not he's a stranger in my life, I've known him for more than a year, though all our correspondence are done online. Yes, I haven't met him in person yet.
He's a friendly guy, a foreigner, he just broke up with a girlfriend 2 months ago and he's still nursing a broken heart. He's 37 and has got a wonderful career. I say, the guy is really nice as far as I can judge him. He's never done anything that would make me conclude he's not a gentleman. He's always respected my views not only as a person but moreso as a human being.
Yesterday, I don't know if he was just kidding or he was looking at me for a rebound but he offered an indecent proposal. He knows my condition, that I will become a single mother this December, that made him even more persistent. Today, he sent me an e-mail asking me if I've given his proposal a thought. He doesn't love me, at least he was honest. He wants me "take care" of me, that's his words. In return, I would have to sexually satisfy him. And he continued, "we'll never know, maybe... we'll fall inlove in the process".
I don't know, it sounds really scary and it's pretty immoral for me, I don't want my son to grow up in such set-up. I am pretty sure I won't accept the offer but what do you think? Will you?
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6 responses
@WildWetJoyce (215)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Hmmmm... I guess he's just playing around. I mean, he may be a nice person but I don't think the proposal is nice. I'll tell you what I do if I were in your shoes. I'll tell the guy to come and visit the Philippines, court me the Filipino way, until he comes to love me and vice versa, and then wait for at least 6 months or so until we're quite comfortable with each other. How is that? I can sense that he's your friend and maybe he only wanted to help but well, we can never be sure. I hope you'll come into the best decision. Good luck M.
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@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Hi MJ, I thought you were busy.. but thanks for dropping by and responding on my discussion. And I appreciate your advice, it seems you really know how to deal with these kind of issues. I'll think hard about this and I'll let you know the developments.
By the way... errr... I call someone else M as well... But well, he's a guy. 
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
8 Oct 08
i'd tell him to go fly a kite & not even talk to him anymore. he may be a good guy but never have met him u don't know if anything he's told u about himself is even true ornot. congraulations on your baby, just take care of him & yourself. babies are wonderful. i raised 2 boys by myself. you can to.good luck.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Hehehe! You can be cruel AntiqueLady 
But you sure do have a point there! I am pretty sure "some" things he told me about himself are true, cannot speak for everything though. You're right, I can raise my own son, I have been looking forward to it. Thanks for the kind words. By the way, I think you're a great mother for raising two sons on your own. Keep it up! 
But you sure do have a point there! I am pretty sure "some" things he told me about himself are true, cannot speak for everything though. You're right, I can raise my own son, I have been looking forward to it. Thanks for the kind words. By the way, I think you're a great mother for raising two sons on your own. Keep it up! 1 person likes this
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
8 Oct 08
i didn't mean to be cruel. i always say just what i think. my sons are grown now w/children of their own.
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@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
I was just playing around antiquelady, I know you aren't cruel , in fact you're really sweet 
, in fact you're really sweet 1 person likes this
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
8 Oct 08
[i]Hi maple,
It will be very hard to live someone when there is no love plus you haven't meet him! It is vital to know each other deeper as well as to see each other and spend time to be together!
ANyway, I know this is not unusual, heard a lot of girls who jump in a relationship like this and some are successful, some are not also!
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@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
You're right checapricorn, love indeed makes everything worth it, it will be a waste of time to live with someone without love. I've known people who jumped on such opportunity as well but I just couldn't risk my baby just like that...
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@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
if i'll be in your situation, i will not accept that offer ., cause i know his intentions already., he made it clear to you, right! hmmmm, we all know what really guys want on us ., so be careful now. if you really want someone who will take care of you, make sure that he really loves you and your son., it is all about your son now., you should always think about your son's future and the guy who will guide him while growing up.,anyway, hope you'll have a wise decisions., best of luck and have a nice day ahead!
@ch88ss (2271)
• United States
8 Oct 08
How horrible! I admire your strength to protect your son and realize his upbringing is important. I hope this friend is kidding, if not. Be strong and tell him that his “Joke’ is funny and ask him not to bring it up anymore. Let him know that you don’t want your son is important right now and everything else is tossed in the back burner.
If he wants to take care of you and your son as a friend that be great but it is not right for him to take advantage of you and your situation. A “true” friend offers help and ask for none in return.
Good luck and I hope you find the strength to hang in there and not give in to his proposal. Unless he really is in love with you but won’t admit it.
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@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Oh I'm sure he likes me as a person but he doesn't love me, that's for sure. I was thinking he wasn't sober when he made that offer. He was actually apologetic when I turned him down. I guess we'll just have to "lie-low" with the friendship now. We need space from each other... Thanks for the response, I appreciate your kind words. Have a great day!
@bloodhunter13 (245)
• Malaysia
8 Oct 08
i got some kind of proposal from a complete stranger once. i'd call him a pervert. no name, no face, suddenly popped up in my skype and asked me if i really am a girl and said he wanted to marry me. heck. i'm still studying. i won't even marry a person i know let alone stranger like that. he's a foreigner. he said he'll send me flight ticket and we'll get married in england and he has a place there. a huge house or something and i don't have to work anymore and don't have to go back to my country home. what the hell??? that is one very crazy guy. and of course, a total liar... if he's really desperate i'd like to suggest the mail order brides from china or russia
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@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
8 Oct 08
Hahaha! Now I say that's a total crap! Marriage! And with a complete stranger! A woman has got to be out of her mind to believe these lies! 
Well, you sure are a smart girl bloodhunter, sad though that there are lots of women online who are not as smart as you. Yup, some fell for this crap. Glad you rejected that pervert!
Well, you sure are a smart girl bloodhunter, sad though that there are lots of women online who are not as smart as you. Yup, some fell for this crap. Glad you rejected that pervert! 1 person likes this
@bloodhunter13 (245)
• Malaysia
8 Oct 08
yeah. i wonder how many women fell for such thing. especially if they really need the money to help the family. a 'rich' guy who is willing to pay your expenses? he can't even write proper english sentences on skype. and he wanted me to believe that he's a rich guy in england.
tricked into marrying a fraudster is one thing. tricked into unwanted situation like being sold as s*x slave? or maybe sold in black market as organs? who knows what are these fraudster up to
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