Marry at an early age or late one?
By dandan07
@dandan07 (1906)
China
October 8, 2008 3:21am CST
Last month, one of my classmate give birth to a baby girl. What a good news to us!
But the young mother feels tired of her life now, and persuade us to get married later.
To me, I think there are many advantages for her. She can get a good job after gratuate, for here many companies like young mothers. When her daugther old enough to stand on her own feet, the mother is still young. If we get married in our late years, we may suffer from taking care of our children, for we have not enough energy.
But now, the young mother thinks that she lose the chance to enjoy the two-men world, and have a heavy responsibility to take care of her family.
What is your idea?
5 responses
@yanksfan1974 (35)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I know a lot a people that married young. And I know a lot of people that divorced. I think getting married at an older age is the way to go. I think once people already have their lives established and become solid individuals, then its time to spend the rest of your life with someone. Young couples I think have a tendency to rush into marriage for all the wrong reasons and then they struggle through life trying to make ends meet. If, when you are young and you find someone that you want to marry, establish a solid life together, wait a few years, then marry. Spend your youth traveling, finding a career, and enjoying the freedoms you have as an individual.
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@dandan07 (1906)
• China
8 Oct 08
Marriage now is not as stable as 50 years ago.
50 years ago, young people after getting married would be stay with their partner all their lives, few of them would divorce in the late years.
But now, people may become single from a marriage easily. They do not take the marriage as seriously as old people do.
Getting married at a late age, can help us have more time to think about the marriage, and take care of it.
But after many years thinking, we may lose a great chance and energy to take care of our children.
@Simon1223 (903)
• China
30 Aug 11
In my view, if it is possible, a man had better not marry too early. According to the tradition, a man should be career-oriented. Only after several years of hard work could he collect some money for the marriage. But to a woman, if she wanna have a baby, she had better marry a little earlier, for instance, two or three years after graduation. You know nowadays giving birth to a baby usually takes a woman many energies, which would inevitably affect her work. And physically speaking, it's not good for a woman to give birth to a baby at her thirties or forties.
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@dodo19 (47092)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
8 Oct 08
Personally, I think it depends on the couple, on the two individuals. Similar to yanksfan1974, and many other people, I know people who are married; people who are separated; and people who have divorced. I have friends, who got married over the summer and they are in their early twenties. My folks got married when they were in their thirties. Getting married feels right at a different time for different people. And it happens that some divorced.
I guess it just depends on how you look at it. And each couple will do it at different times, for different reasons, as well.
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@Shar1979 (2722)
• United States
8 Oct 08
i would say get married on late age...25 above. because you're matured and has a job. marrying at an early age is like depriving yourself from life itself since you havent experienced single life that long. try to experience and explore a lot first before tying yourself to someone and start a family
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