forgiveness: is it only given to those who ask for it?

i learned yes God wants us to forgive those who sin against us. when we forgive it's not so much for them, but it's for ownself we are forgiving. it took me so long to learn forgive people. and i also had to learn to let go of things as well. yeah even if they aren't sorry for what they done.. yeah sux.. ? but you feel better about yourself, because you are being the bigger and better person.. now if someone kills, rape someone in my family the whole forgiveness thing is out the window. and eye for an eye,

Forgiveness is given even if not asked. Although it's hard to forgive someone who's not sorry or does not even bother to ask forgiveness,we still need to forgive them. When we forgive someone,whether they're sorry or not, we are not only being obedient to what God tells us to do but we are also setting ourselves free from the pain brought to us by those who sinned against us.

In a way yes, i forgive those who have hurt me though they don't ask for it. Through personal experience, i have been hurt so bad in the past and kept hurting for a long time because i was waiting for the person who have hurt me to ask my forgiveness but he didn't. So, it turned out that i was the one burdened with the pain of anger and frustration because he didn't come to ask for my forgiveness. Then, i realized i should take all the anger i feel inside for him out of my heart and just forgive him in my heart and move on with my life. Then, i was relieved with all the heartaches and pain and the burden was gone. I learned my lesson, so now if i come to a point that i got hurt by anyone, i just forgive that person in my heart, so i won't feel so burdened anymore.

I observe people feel forgiven even though they weren't. Heh. Well, it's all so human to forgive. But oh there are so many things hard to be forgiven.