Look whose talking!
By jillhill
@jillhill (37354)
United States
October 8, 2008 7:35am CST
I went to a wedding with my brother and two sisters this past weekend. We all rode together in the same car and stayed together at the same motel so we got to spend alot of time together. In the car it seemed that most of the talking was done by my older brother and sister. At the wedding it seemed like most of the talking was done by my brother and older sister...same all weekend and most of the conversation was about themselves. My younger sister, my brother in law and I hardly got a word in edgewise! LOL My little sister and I however found time to be alone in the lobby and catch up on things in our lives but when we were all together the other two monopolized the conversation! Do you have family members who do most of the talking? Do they monopolize most conversations with stories about themselves? Now I know why I turned out to be a very good listener! LOL
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13 responses
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Hey Jill,
Being on mylot is sometimes stepping into someone elses life and feeling like it is your life they are talking about. I have my twin and one brother that control all conversations by volume alone.
It's all about them. I too am a great listener and never thought about why until now. I think you are right, it is partially to do with them controlling all the conversations. The funny thing is, they think we like it!! It's a good thing we have other family members we can converse with.
leenie
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Yes, I have a daughter who loves to dominate the conversation. Her boyfriend is worse. He loves to talk about himself. The only way I can say anything is to be rude and talk over him. It's not something I like to do but there isn't another choice. He talks about his job and his job and his job. It gets rather old.
I can listen for so long but have to chime in with something funny. When a conversation is real serious, I get bored. Life has to be fun in order to enjoy it. Dwelling on old stuff or depressing stuff makes my mind wander. I'd rather talk about a blade of grass, how it goes through a cow's system and exits instead of hearing how someone is good at their job.
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@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Beleive it or not my dad is chatty lol. I know grandpa bob talkative you never would have guessed hehehehehe. But he doesnt always talk about himself persay its about his garden usually.
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@AmbiePam (85432)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Oh does that ever make me think of my sister. People wondered why I was quiet growing up and it was because with my sister I never got a chance to speak! When we would take car trips she and my dad would talk and talk, and my mother and I would just wait and see if we could get a few words in. On several occasions I would raise my hand like I was in school. When they saw me raise my hand they would pause and I would get a chance to say something. My sister has never met a person she couldn't talk to. Even if that person doesn't want to particularly talk themselves. 
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
8 Oct 08
That would have to be my sister in law. I just have one brother and no sisters and my husband is an only child but my sister in law makes up for the lack in siblings for both of us. hahaha She is a talking and can really monopolize a conversation.
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@iva976 (8)
• United States
8 Oct 08
I think my whole entire family is that way because i can never get a word in edge wise, so i just sit back and let them say whatever it is that they are going to say. it is funny because they will start speaking and ask me for my opinion and when i start to speak they start on again about themselfs, but i don't take it in stride and just keep listening to them. lol.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
8 Oct 08
i am not a chatter as well... i don't talk a lot and usually when i am with other people, they are the one who dominate the conversations... in this case, my elder brother will talk a lot when i am with him... take care and have a nice day...
@serenidity (641)
• India
8 Oct 08
Thankfully no, none of my close family likes to monopolize our conversations, but i know exactly what you mean. we have a friend who is so dominating that if he can't have the last say or if the group in general is talking about things he isn't interested in, he sulks. He will sit in a corner and not participate in the discussion at all. It is as if, he has to run the show or else he will remain virtually absent. so much that he doesn't even let his wife do any talking at all !
@PearlGrace (3171)
• United States
8 Oct 08
Guess the older ones are taking their positions as "leaders" in the family. That sounds like a fun time--getting together with your siblings (all or mostly all of you at one time).
I had to laugh when I read this because my husband says that when my siblings and I get together, we are very loud (he gets a headache), we all talk at the same time, and we all follow each other's conversations and even respond to each of them (all at the same time). He just looks on in awe.
I've never actually noticed that, but I must say, we interrupt each other like crazy. I hate that but it's a family thing and it seems to be automatic when we're all together.
At least you got to spend some time with your little sister to really chat.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
8 Oct 08
I am the quite one somehow. Most of the time, my mom would be the main speaker. My sister followed! I feel I am intruding to interrupt them, lol
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@phoenix25 (1541)
• United States
9 Oct 08
It sounds like my family. I have a bad habit of "interrupting" people in conversations. I don't see as interrupting, but more of jumping in at a place where I could add to the conversation. I realized that the reason I do this is because in my family, if you want to say something, you have to just jump in and talk or you'll never get a word in.
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Yes i have only one sister. And she manage's to talk about her all the time I jsut sit there and look stupid. When we are at a Family thing. With my mother and some other cousins she talks about her and her life and how she has all her grandkids all the time. I turn into the guy ah yes really. is about the only thing I say. 
So that is all I get in. Your friend onlydia
So that is all I get in. Your friend onlydia