Do you believe in second chances?

October 9, 2008 9:36am CST
Some say that love is lovelier the second time around..... Does 2nd chances depend on how and why you separated in the first place? Or does it apply in general? Can you still give a second chance when you've been cheated on?
6 responses
@donn_juan (325)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
second chances after being cheated?hmmm..kinda hard. well you'll feel hurt and betrayed, even outraged at first but if you really and i must say TRULY love the person, why not? if being with that person is the only thing that can make you happy, then go on! do not dwell on sad, hurtful and bad things.. live on...;o)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
You're absolutely correct with your point there. Even if your happiness may also mean your sadness, it will always be what your heart wants you to be with, no matter what
@laydee (12809)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Like any other ideas on love and relationship, there's no perfect formula to a relationship. One cannot say that giving someone a second chance could change the person or heal the wound of the first break up. It also doesn't mean that everyone deserves a second chance either. It actually depends on the person involved. If the person feels that the other deserves the chance then go for it. If the pain is just too much to bear that the mere thought of what had happened would dig up the past, then giving a second chance wouldn't surely work out. Based on experience, my current boyfriend has cheated on me once in our relationship. I was devastated and couldn't understand why he had done such a thing. He couldn't explain himself and he couldn't even decide who he wants because he felt like he wanted us both (yeah I know it's selfish). On the other hand, I was so torn but couldn't just let go (yeah I know it sounded pathetic). But after a long long while, I quit and he pursued me. To make the long story short, we got back together. Now, many would ask me if I ever reminisce the past hurt? Yes, it does occur, but I am a firm believer that people deserve second chances. I'm not a hypocrite, I cannot say that it doesn't hurt knowing something happened before, but I just don't want to pass up a chance of something great by giving someone who has shown sincerity and great remorse of the things he had done. So I gave him a chance. I can't really say for sure that he'll be loyal forever. But he knows that if ever he does this type of mistake again, then that's the end of everything. I would give second chances, but never give third chances. I'd say if he did it once, then it's excusable, but twice? That's called a habit and no matter what you do, that habit will never rub off him.
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
Yes, I totally agree with you laydee. Second chances are forgiveable, but a big No NO if he ever does it again. I like your line of thought regarding the habit that no matter what you do, will never rub off of him. Thanks!
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
18 Nov 08
i do believe love can be lovelier the second time around.maybe timing was not right before so god has given a second chance.
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
i guess it depends on why they broke up in the first place. when people break up, we change and do what we can not to make the same mistakes we did on that relationship. we learn. because of that, we become more mature and by the time that we may have a second chance, the reason for the breakup may now be fixed. however, the cause of the breakup was something that cannot be changed, like religion related, then no, it is still doomed.
@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
I do think it depends on how lovers break up. When there is second party involved, it is just too hard to give the one who cheated another chance. Unless the other is still so much inlove, trust is something that is not that easy to rebuild. Or unless the one who cheated is indeed sincere, it is almost impossible, for me. If there is no third party involved, and the two did not have other relationships, it might be a good chance for the second chance. In general, it does not simply depends on the reason of separation, but also on the feelings of the two people involved.
@chaijudin (506)
• Indonesia
9 Oct 08
I believe there is much more then 2nd change , because : 77 x77 if someone make sin to you you must forgive him. (bible) yes easy to said hard to do but i feel that the power / the feeling if you miss the 1st change and you made it on 2nd change or another change , it just something miss . Hope you understand , it hard to figure out by word.