What would you do if your boyfriend called you a nasty name?

United States
October 9, 2008 11:04pm CST
What would you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend called you bad names or said mean things about you to your friends? Would you stay around someone like that for long?
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@katsmeow1213 (28897)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I was with a guy who was like that. Most of the time when we were alone he was great, but if other people were around he'd be so mean spirited and put me down. And when we fought he'd say the most hurtful things. I guess I just sort of became immune to it. One day we were at work around a bunch of other people, and I began coughing uncontrolably. I said I was dying (I wasn't, just a saying, ya know) and he made some comment along the lines of "I wish". Well a bit later I was in the backroom and another guy came in and said I didn't deserve to be treated like that. It sort of hit me like a ton of bricks because I'd always just ignored it and never felt like it was a big deal. Now my husband is the total opposite. We've had some horrible fights, sometimes I would push his buttons just to get him to be mean, but so long as I've known him he's only called me a bad name like once or twice, and it was during a horrible fight. I can honestly say that if I were him, I would have kicked my @$$ during those fights... but the worst he did was call me a B****.
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• United States
10 Oct 08
Mine's the exact same way. He's a real sweetheart. And, he doesn't call me names. I know that I complain about him nonstop, but that's just venting and I don't really mean him any harm. And, some of the things that I say at Mylot I don't want to come up in arguments, so I get them off my chest. Cause in reality he's the sweetest guy on the planet. And, yeah, even if we do argue it's what everyone does. I don't know how he's put up with my cr@p over the years. I should just be thankful I don't have a guy like your other boyfriend.
• United States
10 Oct 08
I was young and stupid. I chalk that relationship up to a learning experience. I had to learn a few lessons before I was ready for my true love, which I've found. My husband is great. We had a few bad years, but things are constantly getting better. We both have a lot of learning to do, but deep down we have a solid relationship that was built on a solid friendship.
@eiram25 (1077)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
hello there! definitely that would be an issue for me.i would ask him why he's doing these things to me.it's already a question if he still loves me or not,because if he does,i don't think he will do such things.calling me nasty names or saying bad things about me is insulting.i might as well leave him for someone who respects me and accepts me for who i am.
• United States
10 Oct 08
Respect means a lot in a relationship. Good points!
@SViswan (12065)
• India
23 Oct 08
I wouldn't be able to stay happily around such a person. I hate being called nasty names and mean people. I can stand a lot of other negative qualities but not a person who would call me bad names and said mean things about me to my friends. What's the point of being with a person like that? I definitely wouldn't if I had the choice.
23 Oct 08
If my BF was too call me bad names then I wouldn't stick around, I couldn't stay around someone who was nasty to me and didnt show me the respect that I deserve!! Luckily I have never had a abusive boyfriend, I have never been in the situation but I know I wouldn't stick around!! I deserve better than that and so would either kick him out or leave him!!
• United States
12 Oct 08
i had an ex that did that. part of the reason why he's an ex. but,i really shouldn't take too much offense,he thought everybody was beneath him.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
10 Oct 08
No I wouldnt,I respect each and every one of my friends and I expect the same from them.If people dont respect me back I dont need them and I wouldnt stay around long.You have a wonderful weekend.
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Well, if they decided to call me nasty names, I pray that it had to be a joke, or just something they really didn't mean to say. I know some friends who can call you nasty names in between conversations, not necessarily meant to hurt you. I can let those things pass. However if they called me nasty names to other people, and friends, just to say things against me, well that's another story. That's something really offensive for me. I don't think I would stay around or be friends with someone who calls me names behind my back!
@mommyboo (13197)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Not in general, no.... and friends would share this information with each other too, meaning it would be the worst decision that person made to go behind your back to them lol. It's one thing if it's a short term situation and you have a blow up or fight and an apology happens later, it's totally different if this person just constantly is abusive and unkind and unappreciative, and unwilling to realize they have a negativity problem eating the relationship alive.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
10 Oct 08
I think that if she has told anything mean about in light mood and just to play joke, it should be okay to me. I do not take it very seriously. Because of close relationship we tend to play jokes on each other and that adds to the joy of the company. Even if I do play such jokes on her she will not take seriously. However, if I feel that it is done with some serious intentions, then I would not hang aroung a moment after confirming the same. I consider it as an attack on my self respect.
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
nope.. it seems that he dont have any respect to me.. if that is so how could he love me if he dont even respect me.. so it's useless ayt?
@lilaclady (28226)
• Australia
10 Oct 08
if it was just a nasty name during a heated argument I might let go but if my boyfriend was talking about me to my friends and not in a nice way I would leave him,that is not what I consider a boyfriend would do...