Are you close with each family member at your home?

@Margarit (3676)
Philippines
October 10, 2008 1:44am CST
Hi friends, I have 1 younger brother and 3 older sisters, i could say that we are very close to each other for we have time to bond during weekend. Even my 2 older sister have their own families, they always come to my parents house to spend the night over, except to my other sister who is not living in this country. But even she is far away from us , we still have constants communication through the internet. I feel like she is still near with us. My parents are very supportive too and we treat them like our friends for they are so kind to us. I am happy i belong to the family like this. What kind of family you have? Are you close to each member of the family?
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@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
10 Oct 08
Well... I am trying to be close with any of them, but I don't feel that I am close to an of them. They have different lifestyle with me, they have different principal and they have different opinion about things from me. I want to be close to them again, because when I was a little I was really close to them, but since the time goes by, we grow in the different way. Our family is a open minded one, but when it comes to debate and discussion we ended up really arguing. LOL, that's why I avoiding that to be happened.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
I think arguing is normal in a family members, even us we have some arguement too but we let the discision to our eldest because she is really very good in handling things, and also she is not authoritative, she ask what we really wanted for the benefit of each member of the family. I think that this thing make us more closer even we are already mature and have our own life, for we have the same goal which is for the good of everyone, so every is happy. Thanks for sharing.
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• China
11 Oct 08
The same to me ,I have not close to them ever since i'm a child. Since I went to university and left my hometown , the feel of us changed to strange more and more.Sometimes ,i think i can't go back to their lives forever.
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
11 Oct 08
@margarit Yes that is true that it is normal to argue with people, but there are some people who just can't accept someone's idea. I can't deal with those people. I think you're right that by arguing in family, we can improve each other, but that should be based with the willingness of the family member to give and take.
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• Romania
10 Oct 08
my mom, my aunt (my mom's sisters) and her husband and their children (my 2 cousins)these are my closest members. We all care for each other and support as we can. We are more than a united family. The rest of out members well those are the other side...the bad one. But I'm lucky to have my mom and her sister with her family because I really love them, they've did, do and will do a lot for me and each other. Since we started to be born and unite we all have been together. Me and my cousins we were like the three musketars since we were born, as babies we were always together. Still now because of some family needs and story we are a little far from each other but thank god we have the net, phone and traveling links.
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• Romania
11 Oct 08
well there's a difference...my father I'm not even close to him and don't want to he always screws things up and gives disappointing signs, I'm glad he is far away from me still now I'm expecting a special day which will have a great change (not a good one for some) on my relationship between me, my father and my mom. I'm sorry to hear about your cousin, my cousins are my brother and sister. But you know that your cousin is always with you next to you and deep in your heart watching and caring for and your family.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
Yeah ,I agree with you. Thank you again.
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• United States
11 Oct 08
You are blessed to have such close family ties. My family is close like that, also. We enjoy being with each other. I can say, without hesitation, that the members of my family are my best friends.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
Same here 6precious102, We are very close indeed, even our friends like to hang out with us for they feel like they are part of the family. My oldest sister is very accomudating that you dont feel like you are stranger when come at home. I admire her so much that i set her as a role model in our family, She is so kind and loving person that all of her younger sisters and brother look up to her. I guess aside for our parents, She really provide us not just financially during our hard times but her compassion and willingness to share even nothing left to herself just to make us happy is the best asset she got. Even now that she has her own family she still do the same thing to us. Thanks for sharing.
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@dong1970 (1572)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Yup,my family members are close with each other,even though we far apart from each other we have still communication thru Internet and mobile communication.I so thankful for the modern technology and its a big help for us.I have my younger brothers who are living now with there families in Visayas and Mindanao while i'm living here in Luzon.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
i agree with you dong1970, Communication tools really helps us to keep in touch to our families in a far places, one of my sister lives outside the country the only communication we had is through chatting in the internet for it is the cheapest way than taking through phone. But sometimes she still talk to us on the phone when we are not online. I am glad that this technologies keeping us close not physicially but virtually. Thanks for sharing.
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@divinchris (2449)
• India
11 Oct 08
Hi Margarit!I have a sister and my parents at home.Im so close with them as they were the ones who guided me for the past 22 years.Without them I cant imagine a life,they made me get every possible thing I want in my life time.Was so encouraging and comforting me with the best brand things.I love them a lot.My mom is so great,even if there is nothing to eat for her will provide me with the best foods.Who wont be close if I had such parents and a lovely sister.They are my God given assets in this journey called life.Im so grateful to God for giving me such a wonderful family. Happy mylotting
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Im glad that you have a great family divinchris, We really feel blessed when we have a very supportive family who look after us and bring out the best in us. For we know that we can count on them when we incounter troubles, pain and suffering in life. Without them we could not completely happy. Thanks for sharing
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@adihindu (1922)
• India
10 Oct 08
I am living with my family members and I was unmarried. I don't know what will be happen after my marriage. Upto now my relations with my family members are very strong. I can't say they will continue even after my marriage.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Good to know that adihindu, Since you have a very strong relationship with each family member i guess it will still continue that way . Just like us, even my sisters are married and have their own kids they still came to us and every weeken they came to spend over night or just visit with the whole family, because we are always close from the begining, so it can be easily adopt too even when you have your own family.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
same here adihindu, nice to meet you friend.
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@adihindu (1922)
• India
11 Oct 08
Who wants to leave own blood relations. We were born in a family we die as a family. I was happy to see a friend like you, who really cares about their family members.
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• Pakistan
10 Oct 08
yes iam very close to everyone in my whole family
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
same here, I hope the relationship you have with your family will last forever. Have a blessed day. Happy mylotting
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@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
10 Oct 08
Hi Margarit, I have two brothers and one sister and were all married now! We are pretty much close to each others, we always muck around with each others helping each others. But when it comes to gossiping its only the womans, my mom my sister and two sister in-laws. We all like friends but sometimes we have some arguments also, which is normal. I miss them so much and I can't wait to see them and just sit and just talk for as long as I can. Thanks!
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
I agree with you cjay77, I think gossiping is a womans business , woman like us like it , i dont know why, men prefare to be more serious when they have their own family. But i know some men like to gossip too like my male office mate who is very talkative. Thanks for sharing.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
I am close to my brothers and sister now that were older. Before when we were still young were like cats and dog lol. We always fight but as time passes by and we all are grown ups. We started to get closer and we do miss each other when one of us is not around. Now that i am here in the US i miss them a lot.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Hi belk89, I remember when you said cat and dog, I too and my brother always fight when we are still young like what you said and my mom is our referee all the time, but when we grow and become mature adults we forget the past and let the bygone be bygone for good. This makes are more closer. Thanks for sharing.
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@missybear (11391)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I have 2 half brothers, on on my dad side and one on my moms. One is 17 and the other is 50. Figure that out. My mom had my older brother from her first marriage and my dad got married again and had my other brother when he was 55. I never met either one of them. I talk to my little brother on the phone and e-mail. My older brother i write.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Very interesting family, I think its okay as long you have constant communication. Distance can separate us but still we have so many ways to communacate with them. We maybe physically absent but our support and concern will always be there. Thanks for sharing friends.
• United States
10 Oct 08
I am very very close to my mom, sister, father, and brother in law (he's family now.) There are times when we do get angry at each other, but after all that we've been through, the bond is still as strong as ever. I remember that my dad used to be cold and heartless. In 2001, we went through a house fire. I saw him change in the blink of an eye. I stood there seeing a 40 year old man cry because his family lost everything they ever had. I actually wouldn't be here today if my family didn't stick together and help me. Are we a perfect family?? Not even close. But do we love each other even though we have some fights? Definitely. Nothing feels better than knowing you have a family that sticks together through the thick and the thin.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
I agree with you irishrose, During hard times we feel the need of our family despite of the bad things happen in the past. I think it is one of the reason why something bad happen like this to reunite and reconcile the bad memmories we had. Through our family we gain strenght and be strong again in the midst of trials and difficulties. Thanks for sharing.
@JayJashG (290)
• India
10 Oct 08
Yup! I love my mom and I enjoy being with my mom even if she scolds me.. My sis and I fight like everything that come in pairs. but still we enjoy being together and love talking about various things under the sun,,. My dad guides me in everything and I am still like a small gal for him ,. Only now he is a lil ok and allows me to do things on my own .. My guy is somewhat like my dad but believes in whatever I do and stands by my side to encourage me and never fails to lift me up from the dumps.. So this is all about my cutie family..
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Nice to here jayjashG, I know that one of our inspiration why we strive for the best because of them, we can get more strenght and confident when we see our loves one with us. It is really different if you have someone to share with. Thanks for sharing. Happy mylotting.
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10 Oct 08
i have to say that i am very close with my family. there is 11 in my family and i am the youngest. i have 6 brothers and 4 sisters. we lost our mum about 3 months ago very suddenly and since then we have all stuck together. your family is important to you.I speak to my brothers and sisters everyday no matter where they do be. At this point we are all looking after each other. they will always be there for you.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
I am sorry about the lost of your mom, Same here i lost my close cousin just few weeks ago, and i feel that she is still with us even she is already gone. When something happen like this we really need each others support and join forces to overcome the trial with have. Hard times creates bond espicially to our families. Thank for sharing.Happy mylotting
10 Oct 08
Hello to everyone! I dont know how to describe what kind of a family I have. Well, I am the eldest in the family, I have two younger brothers and a sister. Since I am the breadwinner of my family, I dont have time to communicate with them often. I thought I did my best to support them, but it wasnt that easy. Yes I am supporting them financially, but the moral support that they need most from me is the most thing that I haven't given to them. I realised its not just money that we can support to our family to be close to each other or to become a happy family.
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@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
I agree with you lovelyvelle, I too belong to a poor family financially but i could say i am rich in different ways, like the love and care of my parents, my sisters and brother support and their time and effort to be with us together even though they have their own family as well. Even my sister live far away from us, she always make sure to be with us during weekend. I feel blessed about it for we have a good relationship with each other and we always share what we have for everyone. Happy mylotting.
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@PRIYANK1992 (1677)
• India
10 Oct 08
No I am not close to even 1 member of my family.But I am very to uncle's daughter that means my Cousin but I thinks that She is my real sister.She is the one whom I love most.
@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
14 Oct 08
At my parents house we lives me,my fiance,my mom and my dad,I have one half brother who lives about an hour or so away and I never see him that much,and I was never that close to him,I am really close to my mom,and I have always been close to her because when I was a kid she was the one who was always around because my dad drove a truck to make money for us and he was out on the road a lot,so I was never as close to him,but I love him and I know he loves me,and I am really close with my fiance and I can not wait to marry her.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
hi hellcowboy, Congratulation in advance for i can hear a wedding bells already with you and your fiance. I am glad that you are planning to get married soon. Will you invite me to your wedding?. Just kidding.
@mayrah (1144)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Hello Margarit, I have two brothers and one sister, I am close to them. We also have bonding moments when we're not busy. We also attend church together. All of them are here, we are all still living with our parents. We were all still single. I would that sometimes there's a little misunderstanding between us, and I think that's normal as we are human being who possess different personalities. But I could still proudly say we have a happy family.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
Good to hear that mayrah, It is not easy to have a good relationship with each members of the family for each one have different personalities, even in my family, each one of us has to make effort and devotion to have a bonding time so we could still keep in touch together for some are already married and they dont live with us together anymore. through this we feel that we are important and a happy family just like you have. thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
yes of course.i like my brother most.and i love my father and moetahr
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• Philippines
11 Oct 08
yes of course.i like my brother slight.
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@GIRLBITS (228)
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
Yes. Since we only have a small family, we're very close to each other. The communication is very open and we're always there for each other to support, to love, to care and to understand.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
Im glad to know that you have a very supportive family that you can count on everytime you need time. The love and understanding i guessed is the best quality to have a good relationship with other members of the family. Thanks for sharing.