My Father died, I failed to tell him I love him so much and I miss him so much

@dorothy09 (1520)
Philippines
October 10, 2008 3:16am CST
We are only 4 in the family. After I graduate College my father died because of diabetis and unfortunately during the times my father need me the day he died I was not on his side to tell him I love him and thank you. The day he died I was in another place for work. My father ask my mother not to tell me that he was sick because he is fine and he don't want me to worry, for I may come home and quit my job because I was assigned in another region. I knew that my father was sick when he was rushed already to the hospital, I panic and took the first flight. That was one of my saddest day of my life. I was not able to talk to my father for the last time... I am very closed to my father and until now I still long to see him to hug him and talk and listen to his music. But I have to accept the fact that this is life...But I really miss him so much.... For you my friends out there show always to your parents that you love them and you thank them, don't wait for the time when you want to tell I love you and you parents cannot respond to you because its too late.
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11 responses
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
Dorothy, im sorry for your loss. I dont know the feeling of losing a father but it must hurt a lot. I also want to thank you for sharing your story. It will serve as a constant reminder to everyone including me, how important to tell someone how we feel about them before its too late. I can describe myself as a reserved person, I dont show emotions that much especially with my family. Dont get me wrong, i do love them the problem is i just cant show affection to them. i dont know why i cant, i just feel awkward doing it. The last time i told my mama that i love her was during mothers day through a greeting card. I cant even say those three words in person. I guess hearing your story is a wake up call for me. I am lucky to be given the chance to tell my parents how i love them. I promise not let the day end without telling them everything that i have kept inside of me how i love them and all. Once again, thank you...
@sirrob (4108)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
what a nice way to start your first post here in myLot and i'm sure you'll have a great future here. you'll meet diverse people around here.
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
you think so??? many thanks for introducing me to the world of mylotting... im still working myself being acquainted with the site... so far i enjoyed reading posted comments here, so till here!ciao!
@sirrob (4108)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
i can relate to what you have been into, the only thing is, i lost my mom when i was 6. quite a very young age but i still remember the last moments and until this time i still don't know what it's like to have one. same thing with you, i believe i am close to her. on the other hand, i had a poem in triond that is very suitable in this situation. the title is wasted time, and the end part goes like this: "don't wait the time when their name is chiseled on a cold marble stoneā€¦ coz no amount of regret can recover the wasted time."
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
Yes I strongly agree with the verse..And if somehow I would be given a chance to meet again my father I would hug him and tell him How I love him so much.. That's why I always told my friends, "you are lucky enough that you have a father that can guide you and protect you..don't fail to appreciate them and show to them your love and care".
@sirrob (4108)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
that is just so hard to come by and i hope that would serve as a lesson for all of us and start to appreciate everything what we have in each day even simple thing that happened in our daily life. if you're going to read the poem i had, i'm sure you'll see yourself there and just make sure you had a paper towel with you. it's kinda sad yet more on trying to make a realization.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
10 Oct 08
I am sorry to hear about your father dorothy, it is very hard when people lose a parent and it is something we just never get over, it sounds like he cared about you very much, I have lost so many people over the last few years, my father, my mother, my special friend and my best friend, it never gets easier and i keep trying to tell people not to leave their thoughts of love for tomorrow as tomorrow may never come...I hope you are ok..just remember the good times you had with him...
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
10 Oct 08
I think it does get easier as time goes, I always thing that at least the people I cared about that are now gone are no longer in pain and they have already gone through what we still have to, so i think of them at peace...
@msedge (4011)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I know i was not a perfect daughter but i love my father very much.I once called papa's girl because i know i was her favorite since i am his only daughter.I was very close to him when i was still a child but when i turn into a lady i was getting closer to my mom because there were things that i can share with my mom than to my dad.Sometimes we did made mistakes that hurt our parents.When he was dying i was able to ask forgiveness whatever mistakes i had done to him.I miss him too and also my mom.But i know they are happy with my life now.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
I'm sorry for your lost. I have that kind of fear too. I love my parents so much but i am not showy with what i feel. Lately i always have bad dream about my mom and i end up crying at night. I miss them so much. I am pretty far from where they are and i will be seeing them next year but still that is too long for me to wait. I wanted to know how they are doing and if they are fine. You were right that saying how much we love our parents is very important. So at least they know how much we love them so much while they still can hear us and feel how much we love them.
• United States
11 Oct 08
when i lost my mother it like you dnt have noone but your father and your gandmother now me im use to ppl dieing it is ok for me i knw i will see them one day so how it feel but when i lost my grand father in 93 it was a round my brithday and i cryed for months and days but when you clise to someone it is hard but me i was close to him so it was hard my mother i was nt that close to her so when she passed it was a shock to me becouse i talk to her the night befor
• Philippines
24 Oct 08
hi dorothy. I'm sorry for your loss. We have little time in this world, so we must maximize every second we have. let our love one feel and hear how much we love and care for them. but since yours happened already, you might as well pray for him and tell him you really love him. just keep fighting and work hard, i'm sure he can see you out there and he'll be very proud of you. good luck
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
11 Oct 08
When the children want to do something for their parents, the olds are not there. It is the famous word in my country, that may suit for your situation. Now I am thinking about the problems now. My mother's body is not in a good condition, I feel that I may lose her. Though I am still a student, cannot do many things for her, I try to make her happy. Everyday I send messages to ask her feelings, and tryto talk with her things happen around us. So that she will not feel lonely. Sometimes I will try to ask her to take place in some social actions, so that she can meet more new people, and enjoy the life. Meanwhile, I try to save my pocket money, incase to buy a gift for her in the new year. I know I can not do many things for her,I still can make her know I love her.
@nini89 (670)
• India
17 Oct 08
Hi Dorothy09! So sorry that you could not do what ever you want to tellyour father, it is life that takes a turn all of a sudden and were stood stunned. We may not agree some times that something had happened bad unless and until we see in front of us. This hs happened in my life too. But it was my husbnd to whom I missed a lot to thank you and to say sorry that I was not beside him on his last moment I was in the office only my children were there. They called me and said that father's chest paining. I could not make out that my husband struggling of heart attack as when I was leaving for office he was brushing his teeth. Keep mylotting and have a nice day.
• China
11 Oct 08
i am sorry to hear that,but this is fact,nobody can change it,the only thing you can do is to accept it and to create your own wonderful life. our parents give us the chance to come this beautiful world,it is they that give us a wonderful life,we should be grateful to them,though you have lost the last chance to meet to your father,you should treasure everything now. we everyone should have a indebted heart all the time,no only for our family,but also for everyone who have ever helped you.don`t when you lose some,can you feeling the importance of them!
• United States
11 Oct 08
Dorothy, I'm sorry for you loss. I feel your pain and longing to have your dad with you. My dad passed away on Sept. 2, 2007. We were very close also, so I know where you are coming from. I always told my dad that I loved him and I gave him his flowers while he yet lived. Although, I still feel guilty about not making it to him in time to tell him one last time how invaluable he has been in my life; I am confident that he knew. God will never give us more than we can bear and its a hard thing to carry, but ask God to strengthen you and to uphold you. He will sustain you. He is the God of all conforts. We are sisters of circumstance and I will be praying that God will send help from the throne room. He has never failed me, nor forsaken me. Trust in the Lord and cast all of your cares upon Him for He cares for you, as I do. Blessings...
@arthi_88 (1516)
• India
11 Oct 08
I always made it a point to hug my mom and say her "I Love you" after I felt what it would be like to lose her when she was hospitalised for Cardiac problems... Its odd how we keep striving for success and in the process forget to show the little show of affection to the people we love the most.. I am sorry you couldn't be there with your father when he needed you.. Thanks for reminding me to tell my family how much I love them.. Have a nice day!