What do you do when you have been wronged and are angry?

@Barb42 (4216)
United States
October 10, 2008 5:44pm CST
Our world fell apart on Tuesday night. We have lived on this property for 38 1/2 years and in this house that we built ourselves since 1976. We bought land from my husband's father and lived in a mobile home while we built this house from ground up. We thought we'd live out life here in peace and tranquility. Well, the bubble burst Tuesday. We have known for about 6 weeks that something was up on the property next door that we had asked to buy, but it never dawned on us that it was going to be something us and the neighborhood couldn't live with. We were wrong. They are building a huge Bingo Hall and it has us all upset! I've been unable to sleep much and it's on my mind constantly and I'm usually not a worrier! But this has even turned my stomach, tore it up, made my heart hurt every night when I go to bed.In other words, this is enough to make someone have a heart attack! I am angry, mad,upset,seething, enraged, furious, infuriated, irate, livid - are there anymore adjectives that you can add to that? In other words, we are so mad at these people and we can do nothing about it! AND the one overseeing the job lives up on the mountain from us! It isn't bothering him since he sees dollar signs before his eyes! He thought it was fine to keep it secret until they had it all wrapped up and kept the neighborhood in the blind! Doesn't bother him that this building will be open 24/7 except from midnight on Saturday night until midnight on Sunday night. Doesn't bother him that the BINGO sign will blare right at the end of our property where we can see it 24/7 or that the lights and cars going in and out will bother us. Why should it? He doesn't live here in the neighborhood! All he sees is the money it will bring in. I say the devil has just moved into our community!
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@katsmeow1213 (28897)
• United States
11 Oct 08
That is awful and I'd be as outraged as you. There must be a way to fight it if you call your town clerk and ask what to do about it. You and all your neighbors can fight it at town hall. I sure as heck would. I'd sit on the property with a picket sign and block their driveway. That's outrageous.
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@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
11 Oct 08
We don't have a town here. It's out in the country. And the county that it's being built in, although it's beside our house and the parking lot will be behind, has no zoning laws. But as I said above, there might be a way to stop it for the time being. We don't know. We did also find out from his niece, the Realtor, that in a large town in that county which is 10 miles from us was about to get one, too, but the neighborhood it was going in put up a fight and it's been put on hold. We are going to a couple meetings tomorrow so maybe we will learn something.
• United States
11 Oct 08
Fight with everything you got!!! Best of luck.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
13 Oct 08
We went to the meeting last night in that next county. It was a meeting by Christians who have formed an organization to try and bring order back to their county. They had 6 people who are running for office there this time that are strictly against the Bingo halls and 3 are running for the Commissioner's job -the man who got the Bingo halls in there in the first place. AND this guy laughs at the ones wanting his job. The legislature could have passed to stop this Bingo since it's illegal in our state.But they did not. That angers me! We'll just have to wait and see what's going to happen.
@jenboops (96)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I certainly understand your anger, hurt, and frustration. I encourage you to keep fighting and go to city council and town hall and write letters to everyone in any position with the city. There are many times in our lives that we have no control over what happens to us. I believe though that these are the things that put us where we are supposed to be even if we never dreamed it would be. I lost my husband 3 years ago and in the process the whole future that was in my sites, with my son. I still get angry and hurt and not happy about having to give up all the things that were "supposed" to happen, all the things we had worked for. I realize now that there are more different wonderful things to look forward to and see. There are mean, greedy people out there and we can't put them on an island somewhere, although I would vote for that. All we can do is search out our options, continue fighting and then to succumb to what is to be knowing that karma will win in the end.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
11 Oct 08
We are going to continue to try and find out all we can and do whatever it takes. But there isn't a lot we can do considering all the information is in the other county. The Sheriff gave the license and that's how they got here. We did hear from my husband's niece, who is a Realtor, that this was done wrong. That they should have had to come to the people that own property around this and let us know what was going on and get our reaction. But they didn't do that. She told of another case near us that they tried to do the same thing in a neighborhood, and the neighborhood raised up and caused a ruckus and it's now on hold. Maybe if we keep causing a little ruckus, something will happen. We've had people all over praying, and today we found that the building has gotten 50 foot smaller. One of the backers pulled his $1 million out! So perhaps we just need to keep praying and letting God handle the situation.
• United States
11 Oct 08
Absolutely, no matter how hopeless or hopeful I think a situation is-God's way always the way it goes. Reading your post, I remembered when a man was going to build a duplex-he had to come to all of us that lived around here to sign a form to say it was ok since it wasn't a single family home. You all have my prayers, and I hope you can give it to God and have some peace knowing that all will workout for the best, God's best.
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@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
13 Oct 08
Thanks, Jen. I know this will work out in God's will. But it is so hard just sitting here watching the countryside ruined by these people right in our back door. I just pray that God works it out to where nothing is able to be built over there. It is way too small for this, but they will try to put in one wherever they can find a spot! Doesn't matter that it hurts others property values.
@kittenmc (464)
• United States
12 Oct 08
Bless your heart. I don't know what to say, but pray. Sometimes our life changes and we don't like change. God can turn what the devil means for bad into good. I'll keep you in my prayers.
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@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
13 Oct 08
Thanks, Kitten. You are right, God can use this for his good! We sit out here, praying for God to intervene and hopefully he will. Circumstances don't look too favorable, but I know he can work in the twinkling of an eye! One man has already pulled out and so the building is already 1/4 smaller than it originally was supposed to be, which is still 150 x 80 too large for this area! God can reduce it to absolutely nothing and move these gamblers out of our area! We'd love to have the property ourselves. Maybe GOD could move on them to let us have it for $1. I know he can do exceedingly abundantly above whatever we ask or think! We just have to keep the faith.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I am sorry for your sadness and wish there was something that you could do to stop this.People with money signs in thier eyes and not consider others is just that,the devil as you say.God Bless you and your neighborhood.
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@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
11 Oct 08
Thanks for your kind words. Yes, I think the devil really knows his time is about up! Money is definitely more important to some than making people happy or seeing that people are protected (our house not going down in price). They never gave us our community a thought! It was the $$$$ signs that caught their eye! But I figure what goes around comes around.
@gemini_rose (16268)
10 Oct 08
I am so sorry to hear what is happening on that property, that is really bad and I would be angry and upset too. Is there not anything you can do to try and put a stop to it? That is the last thing you want night after night and day after day. I cannot believe that they are doing it, no wonder they did not want anyone to know.
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@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
11 Oct 08
We don't know if there is anything we can do since it's legal in that county. But we just heard from my husband's niece who is a Realtor. She said that, when they go to build something on a piece of property like that, they are supposed to go to those people who own property connecting them and get their opinion. They aren't supposed to do it in secret like they did here. She said she believed, if we got a good real estate lawyer,we could get it stopped. But we don't have that kind of money to hire a lawyer. We are still hoping something happens to keep it down. BUT we did find out this afternoon that one of the guys pulled his $1 million out and they had to scale back the building to a 150 X 80 building. Still an eyesore, though!
@ch88ss (2271)
• United States
14 Oct 08
That sure is a lot of words for your feelings. I understand why you feel that, I feel that way too. You are right, the man he is behind this does not care because he has the money and lives somewhere else so it does not bother him. It bugs me to see that the rich never know what it is like to live a day in our shoes. the peace and quite is a price we pay, for example you chose to live in a small community because you like it quite but there is a price to pay, and probably that price is less jobs around, less shopping locations options etc. but now they destroyed whta you have for 38 years. I wish i can make them stop, but sorry, I realized I don't have the power to even make my husband stop talking! :) Good luck , hope the town meeting goes well and enough people in town to speak up can apply pressure on those people and kick them out.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
14 Oct 08
You are right; the people behind this would never put one in their door! But they don't mind ruining the lives of everyone else! We did move out here from the city because we like the country and the peace and quiet. We loved the woods behind us, but it's gone now. It invades our privacy and I doubt that they will ever put up a privacy fence for us like they said they would - a 10 ft high one. That would cost a bundle of money for the wood as long as this place is. The meeting was good, but they can't do anything until some of them are elected in November to the legislature. And we kind of doubt the problem makers will ever be voted out. I'm sure they are getting money to stay in from these people. The county is a sore in the state, believe me!