Ectopic pregnancy..

Australia
October 11, 2008 1:28am CST
I just got home from hospital where I had to have emergency surgery for an ectopic pregnacy. I'd had cramps for a few weeks and was due to go for a scan next Tuesday. Well on Thursday afternoon I could not move off my bed and was sweating, whivering ad nearly passing out. Mum called an ambulance for me and I went to the emergency department. After waiting about three hours to see a doctor, he then called for the gynaecologist to come and ultrasound me. She came about 3 hours later and scanned me and was concerned so she called the sonographer in from home at about 2am. He sultrasounded me and confirmed I had an ectopic pregnancy. This was a cause for concern so the surgery team was called in from home and by 3.50am I was in the operating theatre, prepped up and ready for surgery to remove it. So in just a matter of hours I went from having cramps in my stomach to being told I was pregnant (which I didn't even know about) and that it was ectopic and I'd need emergency surgery..it was a bit full on. Now that I'm home, I'm in a lot of pain from the surgery (which is to be expected) and I'm thinking about what actually happened. Obviously I didn't have enough time to bond with the baby but when I was being scanned I saw its heart beating. Now I'm thinking 'that was my baby', although it was just a blob of matter and cells. I would like to hear of others' stories who have been through the same thing.
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@drannhh (15235)
• United States
11 Oct 08
Just want you to know I'm hoping for you to have a speedy recovery from this traumatic and exhausting event. In time you will feel whole again.
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• United States
14 Oct 08
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have not had an ectopic pregnancy nor a miscarriage. I hope you will mend well from your surgery. Did they have to remove the whole fallopian tube? I hope you are not worried about getting pregnant again with only one fallopian tube because you still have babies when the time is right. Good luck on your mending.
• Australia
15 Oct 08
Yeah they had to remove it. I can still have babies, will just be more difficult.
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• United States
18 Oct 08
I hope you are better now. Didn't you break up with your boyfriend lately? I all is well with the world with you.
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• Australia
18 Oct 08
Yes about a month ago i broke up with my fiance. He was very supportive, it was just bad timing.
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@ElicBxn (61039)
• United States
11 Oct 08
Sadly, there is no way for an ectopic pregnancy to ever go to term. I know 2 people that had to have them removed, in their cases its probably just as well. One was a gal in college, 18 or 19, the other was my ex-sister-in-law before she was my ex. She was good with their daughter, but I'm glad my brother didn't have to pay child support for 2 kids when SHE'S the one that caused the marriage to fail. Neither of them had more kids.
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@ElicBxn (61039)
• United States
12 Oct 08
No, not because my bro would've had to support another kid, but because she's such a b*tch and already raised one spoiled brat. The ONLY reason my neice is coming out as well as she has is because she wanted to be liked by other children. the ex could've easily raised a socio-path since my brother moved out with 18 months of the failed pregnancy after the b*tch hit him for about the 5th time.
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
Hi, I hope your doing well now. Things like that do happen medically and for some underlying reasons. it's touch and go and consider an emergency because anytime the ectopic implantation could rupture and could cause bleeding. I just pray that you'll get through ok and that you'll have another but healthy pregnancy.
@maximax8 (29129)
• United Kingdom
11 Oct 08
I am so very sorry this must have been really shocking for you. My mum once told me that my older cousin had an ectopic pregnancy and so I imagine that she had a similar experience to you. I don't know why this sort of thing happens. It is terrible that you are in much pain at the moment. I know that my cousin that had this happen to her made a full recovery. Good luck and take care.
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@gemini_rose (16192)
11 Oct 08
When we go through something like this, it all happens so quick that there is no time to process the emotions. Only after when it has all slowed down can emotions be processed and everything we have gone through is dealt with. I cannot begin to understand what you will go through, or how you will feel, but the shock of it all will be what catches up with you probably more than anything else. You are lucky that it was found sooner rather than later, ectopic pregnancies can be very serious and so it is lucky that it was caught in time and yet sad for you in another way. I am really sorry that you have gone through this and hope that you have plenty of support there for you when you need it xxx
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11 Oct 08
Hi coffeeshot, I am so sorry you have to go through all that pain. But for me I went through a very bad miscarriage and then decided that enough is enough, its no joke going through all that pain. I hope you are alright. Tamara
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I am sorry to hear about that, but i am happy that you got it taken care of early,that is very dangerous if not treated early..My daughter had surgery about 3 months ago so she could have another baby.She had her tubes tied after her last child & now after 11 years has gone & had them reversed so she could get pregnant..It seems she is around 4 weeks pregnant now and she just went to have an ultrsound to make sure she was not pregnant in the tubes..The doctor said that after reconnecting the tubes it can be fairly common to get pregnant in the tubes but after the ultrasound we found she was fine and she will have a normal pregnancy......I am sure since you did not even know you were pregnant that it was a big surprise to find this out..You take care of yourself & here;s hoping for your speedy recovery....
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
11 Oct 08
Hi dear its quite perplexed post, glad that u r safe and it was predicted on time and sad as u lost pregancy Wish u health and all the Best Take care
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@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I am so very sorry.
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@sid556 (30997)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Thankfully, I have never had that experience but I have heard that it is very serious and dangerous to the mother. My daughter just had a scare and the rushed her to the emergency room. She did not have an ectopic pregnancy as they first thought but was experiencing a miscarriage. I am so glad that you are doing well and on your way to recovery. As for your feelings about the baby, I can sympathize there...I would imagine it is no different than a woman who miscarries. That I have experienced and just did again with my daughter...there is more to it than just a blob of cells. Even a woman who chooses to abort goes through the emotions.My heart goes out to you and wish you a speedy recovery.
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• Australia
19 Oct 08
Thank you sid.
@alamode (3073)
• United States
16 Oct 08
I'm so sorry to hear about your problems... I hope you're recovering well. I had a miscarraige between my oldest daughter and son... I was very young, had given birth less than a year before, and I had been working with chem- icals that, had I known I was pregnant, I would have stayed far away from. All these things didn't stop me from feeling guilty for many years for not taking proper care of myself. I still miss knowing that child, but it all happened for a reason, and I can't dwell on it. Our other kids were perfectly healthy and have been joys to me their whole lives... well, almost... they WERE teenagers for a while! lol! Just realize that sometimes, no matter how we try, we can't change what nature must do... and always be glad that you yourself are whole and healthy.
• Australia
17 Oct 08
Thank you Alamode.
@Hatley (164259)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Oct 08
hi coffeeshot this takes me backyears to when I was twenty and wo working as a nurses aid. I was on the night shift with Brenda and she and her boy friend had a habit of sneaking off at certain times during the night into an empty room. well this went on for about nine months the one night I found brenda in the womens restroom bent over in real pain. She was sweating and shaking an in agony. She told me she was pregnantbut she thought something was wrong so I called the head night nurse. That nurse called the doctor on call. they took an ultrasound and she also had an ectopic pregnancy. So she had emergency surgery at five o clockin the morning.
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• Australia
12 Oct 08
Sounds just like me...haha except the sneaking off into empty rooms bit...
• United States
12 Oct 08
I'm so sorry for you! I haven't had an ectopic pregnancy, but I did have two miscarriages. They were very painful, physically and emotionally. I still am sad, many years later, to think about my lost babies. But I know I will see them in Heaven one day. Since you didn't know you were pregnant, it is such a good thing that you got to the hospital and they found the problem in time, as I understand that an ectopic pregnancy will become life threatening. I feel so bad for all you went thru. You are normal and right to grieve the loss of your baby. It doesn't matter how long you knew about the baby, it is your baby, your own flesh and blood and alive, as you know from the heartbeat. By that time, it is not just a clump of cells, but looks like a baby but with a slight tail. I say that so others will know, and so you will no longer feel silly or anything for grieving for your baby. Know also there is no way the baby could have survived, and nothing you could have done to prevent it. From what I understand they are not able to transplant the baby into the womb. I hope you will feel better physically, very soon, and emotionally as well.
• United States
12 Oct 08
I am so sorry that you have had this experience. I very very prone to ectopic pregnancies because I have had my tubes untied. I wish there were something that I could do for you. Just remember you have one tube left and you can have a baby later. After you are healed and want to try for one. It's hard to get over the psychological part of. It is no different than miscarriage. Take sometime to heal both physiaclly and mentally. There is no easy answer. I am here if you ever want to talk. Rest, take your pain medication, and chat. Get it all out. It will help. Sounds starnge but it will.
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@suspenseful (40314)
• Canada
12 Oct 08
It was your baby. It was just that it was in the wrong place. I have a friend who had one son, and I wondered why she never had any other children, and she kept gaining weight in the stomach area. I asked if she had the same problem as I had (twisted tubes) and my friend who happened to be her mother-in-law said that she had had two ectopic pregnancies, and not only that she was also pre-diabetic like me. I felt rather sad about it, almost having a baby and the baby having to be removed. It was not a blob, it was a baby, but she could not survive outside the womb. I have been told that unborn babies grow up in heaven. I hope that gives you comfort. You have my prayers.
@my2boys (821)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I am so sorry to hear that. Even though you did not know that you were pregnant it must have been hard for you. I cant even imagine. I have never been through anything like this. I hope that when you are ready God blesses you with as many children as you want. I hope that you feel better.
@AmbiePam (51194)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I'm sorry Coffeeshot. How horribly gut wrenching the whole experience must have been. It has to be normal to feel upset about losing the baby even though there was not prolonged bonding. Like you said, it had a heartbeat, and at that stage it was still growing and feeling. I just hope you get the support you need.
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