Looking For An Escape...

Hi twoey-I think everyone feels lie that at times but have different ways of coping with it as for me when I get too stressed or angry and need to walk awway from the situation unfortunatly there is no where to run..what I would love to do at those times is go on a retreat to get myself mentally and spiritually balanced again but that isn't possible so just have to go with it...hugs littleowl

So that's what happened. I thought how strange it was to get friend request from you as I knew we had been friends for long time. I just thought it was perhaps a myLot glitch. I'm glad you are still here. Now I have the impression something has changed in your signature line?

In the heat of the moment, I think we all can say that at times , we reacted in ways that later we feel the need to retract. We are human. It's life. Don't fret twoey....you are not alone. There have been times when I've had a horrible night at work. I always come home and wind down by getting on here. A few times, I've gotten on here just looking to get out of the horrible mood I worked myself into only to find someone responding negative or worse someone that I thought was a friend totally misunderstanding me. It throws me right over. I either feel angry or sad...neither is good. Next day, after sleep and attitude adjust...I look at the situation different. Don't worry about it...we all love you.

I understand how you feel. When my mom was battling cancer I was under so much stress helping to care for her. Appointments all the time, doctors, tests, hospitals and treatments. Then there was the shopping and errands and cleaning I'd do for her. And yet I felt so helpless and frustrated because even with all of that - she was still dying. I know during that time I had to find outlets for it, or go insane. So, I started swimming at our pool here in my complex. And if that wasn't an option I'd do meditation. I even found an online guided meditation site that would only take a few minutes if thats all I had. Between those things I was able to deal with all of the stress, and able to see mom thru to the end. So I'd suggest trying to find time to meditate, or take a walk, or swim. Whatever helps you to escape.

Hi twoey, Well, I'm glad that you decided to reconsider. I don't know what happened, but I'm glad that you are still here! I was confused when I saw that you were asking for a friend request since I knew we were already friends and then I thought that I might have said something and you were angry at me. I was confused and tried to pm you, but mylot pms don't send on my end so there was nothing that I could so. As long as you are here and you did straighten out whatever it was I'm happy that were friends again! If you ever need to talk, I'm here and don't judge. I don't like drama and conflict and try to stay away from it especially here on mylot.

i think everyone experiences what your going through right now and my method of "escape" is the ever simple reading a good comic book. a good laugh does the trick

There are times when it seems the easy solution to lash out. But! It's always best to take time to cool down and gain perspective. Either way, we are happy you stayed. hugs, Kitty

Me, get frustrated? All the time! Every day and in every way! But, I am getting smarter about handling situations. And, I don't blow up over little things like I did when I was in my 20's. I pick my battles, especially online. As for escaping, usually I pop in a DVD for an hour or two and let the world take care of itself for awhile.

I know how you feel, sometimes I want to just throw my hands up and say I AM OUT OF HERE!!! When I start to feel that way that's when I know that it's time for a break time for me to go have a time out lol. And when I have had some time off I can come back refreshed and ready to get the stress built up again lol.

Yes I know how you feel. I used to run away and hide myself in something I loved like music or a game or a book I love but now when I get really angry I will just let off steam until I get over it and then I will try and soothe myself in some way. I think the difference is that I used to hide inside and I could never let anyone know how I felt so I had to find an escape that let me keep my feelings hidden. Now I have escaped my own prison and have learned to express my feelings and let them out I have to live with the fact that I sometimes just need to growl when I lose my temper. That said it is actually quite rare for me to lose my temper. I am a long way from my family so I do not have contact with them much any more and there is just my partner, myself and our dog now and the only problem that upset me is lack of money but we have got that under control now. I also know what it is like to have someone get angry with you on mylot but I try not to get upset by that and try to view them as ignorant, although I do sometimes lose my temper with them and tell them what I think. I did get upset at first when I was insulted by someone here who did not like my discussion or my comments but I think he just completely misunderstood what I was saying. If I were to get attacked I try not to let it affect me by telling myself that they are just ignorant people.

some people would upset the good lord. i had a run-in on here to. i just decided to ignore the source. if they wanted to act tacky thete was no reason for me to. they were really ugly but i wasn't going to go to their level. i saw where it was stated i had back downed i didn't i still think they are a jerk. don't worry about folks like that. they must be miserable & want u to join them. i haven't got time to play their childish games.

Hi twoey68, Yes I notcied I readded you back on my friends list, I have felt like you and thought of leaving Mylot as well, but my friends mean a lot to me and they are the ones that keeps me going no matter what, so I don't leave, I would only be cutting my nose to spite my face, so don't even think about it my friend, just keep gong and be happy. Hugs Tamara

hmmm good going dude tats a nice thot u hav ther

sometimes the only way we can see in situations that are difficult to handle is to escape.been there, done that..yehey we're both just human beings..cheer up! you're not alone... i must say if you're still mad at the situation, find ways to relax without thinking of the present problem.if you think you're cool enough to handle the situation, then that's the best time to deal with it. never solve your problems when you're mad - it only leads to more disaster.. cool it!;o)

Must admit when I received a friend request from you the other day, I didn't know what happened. Thought maybe you deleted me and then changed your mind..lol I have times when I get totally frustrated with life. We all do but have to learn how to handle it in a positive manner. You did the right thing by not closing your myLot account. We are all strangers tossed into a site that gives us the chance to exchange opinions and ideas. Try not to personalize responses even if you think they are directed right at you. If I feel threatened by a response I've made or a post I've written, I simply move on and forget about it. When a situation arises at home or work, I talk with my husband or one of our kids to make an attempt to rectify the situation. This helps me considerably so that I can move on and process what was offered to me as a result of our conversation. I know others do exercise to relieve stress such as taking a walk, etc.

I know what you mean. Sometimes things just build up until it's just too much to take! I usually don't start deleting things though, I simply leave the site and ignore it for a while, then when I feel better about it I come back and start fresh. Glad you're still here twoey!

Sorry you saw fit to delete me at one time but glad to be added back. I do not keep things going, I am the type to walk away and let things cool down. They might not cool down as quickly as I would like to but eventually they do cool down.

I'll often walk away for a bit and cool off so I can try to look at a situation objectively. Sometimes I will just give up and let it settle by itself when all I can do is make it worse.

Twoey, Sometimes it's best to just sit back and watch and see what happens next! For some reason I always try to be the peace-maker or the one that tries to sort problems out for people. It seems that I'm the one they call when they can't figure out their own problems. Often, I find myself thinking "dang, can't people handle their own crap and not have to hand it to me to solve for them"? I guess that's one of the perks for being the oldest sister of 7 kids! It's okay though, at least they are still talking to me! My biggest problem with the internet thing and writing has been in a local newspaper forum. There are a few people there that seem to think they know it all. When I make a comment and try to add a "lighter" mood to their heated discussions, they start saying ugly stuff and labeling me as "Crazy", just because I "get jiggy" with things to ease their anger. It's all good, though! I've been labeled all my life and figure that I must be important to them if they are tagging me all the time ... lol