Is it hard for you to sleep without your spouse

@heaven11 (1159)
United States
October 12, 2008 1:13am CST
About 4 months ago my hubby switchd to 3rd shift so he is working 11pm-7am I have the hardest time getting to sleep without him Iam not sure if it has to do with being used to being in the same bed at the same tme or what how bout you can you sleep without your spouse
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@palonghorn (5483)
• United States
12 Oct 08
There haven't been many times that we were apart, we've only been together 3 1/2 years. But when he is gone, I normally stay up later than normal, until I'm really sleepy, and even then I don't sleep very well without him there next to me. I'm just used to feeling him and hearing him sleep next to me. And I can sleep well even if I fall asleep alone (if I go to bed before him) and he falls asleep on the couch, I guess it's just knowing he is just downstairs. Or maybe it's just being alone in the house that makes me not sleep well, even though I'm not scared of being alone. If I go on a trip, then I usually talk to him just before we both go to bed, that seems to help too. I'll be taking a trip, leaving next week and being gone for almost 2 weeks, and even though I'm sure I'll enjoy the trip, I'll miss him and probably won't sleep as good, unless I stay really busy during the day to the point of just being really tired lol
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
12 Oct 08
Hi palonghorn Iam the same way I stay up later maybe it would be diffrent if he was in a diffrent room but knowing he gone away from the house its really hard ontop of that befor he started working nights when wed lay down there wa always a goodnight i love you sweet dreams and I hardly get to hear that anymore and when youve been living together for 7 years and hearing that everynight its hard to get used to not hearing it
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• United States
12 Oct 08
That's why when we're away from each other we always talk right before we go to bed, not that I go right off to sleep after our phone call lol. But in your case, with him at work, I guess it would be hard for him to call you and tell you those things before you go to bed.
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Yes it is a bit hard for him to call but I guess I just imagine him saying it and it helps a bit
@donn_juan (325)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
its really hard to sleep at night when you're used to having your husband by your side. especially when its cold, pillows are just not enough. my husband is my human blanket. i feel safe when i know he's by my side and i can really sleep like a baby knowing i have him til i wake up in the morning. it's also nice to wake up with your husband just to cuddle and linger longer in bed in the morning..whew not you make me miss him more!;o)
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Hi donn_juan MY hubby is also like a human blanket Iam always so cold and he is so warm as soon as he puts his arm around me the cold goes away
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
I finally found this topic, last night I open tabs for my friend's topic from my mail and I had a peek on your topic, it was like 20 or more open tabs, I said to my hubby that he sleep earlier because I will be doing mylot and answer friend's discussion, I had like 4 or 5 answered discussions when I saw him tossing on the bed, he said he can't sleep and I said OK just 5 minutes and I will for the topic that says it is hard to sleep without partner beside, then I will come by your side you can sleep, and bury within 20 or more tabs, I can't find this and now 24 hours after, ha ha.. oh well my hubby really can't sleep without me on his side it is either he is cuddling me or I am cuddling him, he find it hard to sleep when we are not together, as for me, sometimes I have difficulties, sometimes I wish I am sleeping alone in a bed ha ha
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Hi pehpot My hubby sleeps during the day and Isee its hard for him hes constantly tossing and turning I cant lay down because I have the kids to take care of while hes sleeping
12 Oct 08
yes... it really hard... coz.. i cant... sleep without my spouse/... even if i know he is in the house.. just stay him beside.. its much better for me to know... wer he is...
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
13 Oct 08
Hi enjhay0425 even though I know hes working its still so rough I guess it will take some time
@loxion (1551)
• India
12 Oct 08
Very hard i use to work night shift and my wife would work day shift, sometimes we spend 2days without seeng each other. she would leave at 6am and she come back home at 17:30 and i would leave at 16:30 and come back at 08:00 in the morning and it was funny but hard until i left the job
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
12 Oct 08
Hi loxion I know what you mean my hubby is on a 7 day a week work sechdule weekends on call I hate that they put it that way because he is called in every weekend and most of the time he works a full shift anyways we go weeks without sleeping together and it kills me
• India
14 Oct 08
Even after 28 years of marriage, i feel the emptiness when i have to stay alone. The silence is more annoying.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
14 Oct 08
yes dear i ca understand your pain !! though i was separated because of this sort of thing when my husband went on the business trip for a week to different country and i remember how i felt!! it is difficult indeed!!
@donn_juan (325)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
hey there heaven11..thanks for marking me as the best response to your discussion. i'll be looking forward to more of your discussions..god bless!;o)