Does My Bum Look Good In This?

I always tell my boyfriend if he looks bad. Sometimes he puts on shirts that don't match and i tell him "why don't you were this one, it looks better". If i ask him about my clothe he always just says"You look fine". Sometimes i change anyway.

Hi Wolfie, I always try to be honest, I might tell them somthing complimentery on one thing and then give them the constructive critisism on another. I wouldnt just come out and say that it makes them look like cr*p. Especially if we are going out together and they are dressed like something I would rather not be seen with, I would try to find a nice way to let them know as I would prefer the same. I would hate it if my new dress didnt look right and my date let me go out looking like that without saying something. Hugs, Tianna

I always have to consciously restrain myself from being brutally honest, as in "Let's face it, dear, if you need to ask my opinion after all these years, then maybe you should consider plastic surgery." or the more positive approach "Well, a looser fitting dress might be better." Have you noticed, though, that whatever compliments you make (even when they are honest ones), she rarely accepts them or often only grudgingly. Also, whenever *I* dress up and feel pleased with the effect, there is ALWAYS something wrong or that needs adjustment and, damn it, I never ASKED for an opinion!

I don't even know why people ask us anyways. Of COURSE we're gonna say it looks good nine times out of ten! Especially us men, we value our lives to much to dare to say any different. I am lucky though in that I can be honest with my wife about something she may or may not decide to wear and she will not get upset at all. And I never have to worry about her bum looking big in anything because she's perfect! But you've gotta try the following line just the ONCE! If you have a woman ask you if her bum looks big in something she's wearing, look at her very seriously and say" "Yeah, but at least it draws the attention away from your face!" Then run like the wind wolfie...... LIKE THE WIND! hahahaha.

I would rather tell them they look good than have to say something negative. Even if they look like a sow. Don't like to hurt anyones feelings.

i don't lie it's something i can not do because theres no point my face is very expressive so even if i attempted to lie my face would end up expressing exactly what i felt anyways. I try to be diplomatic but i would much rather tell them the truth and wear something more flattering than let them go out looking like a sack of spuds. I would not want to go out looking like a mess and i'm pretty sure my friends would not let me out the door in anything unacceptable although i'm usually pretty good on my choices anyways. Unless it's completely hideous i usually suggest something to go with it that improves it if they love the outfit like a jacket or something. It has to fit though i hate it when people have tried to squeeze into something 2 or 3 sizes smaller for god sake if your that bothered cut the label out or sew another one in. I often find it's much better to get a bigger size as you look much slimmer thatn squeeze into it. So what if it's not the size you always wear as long as it looks like it fits who cares i know i don't.

i don't get asked that that often. but i try to tell the truth. i'm pretty honest on those thing. if they look okay to me, then they look okay. i'm not picky. the only one who really asks me that is my husband and to me, no matter what he wears he looks good. but if he's wearing something really bad, i'll tell him.

I try to find a nice way to say what I have to say. I really hate to hurt anyones feelings. I also hate to tell a lie. So, we have all been put in this akward place many times lol and whats worse is when they love what they are wearing. It is even harder because they already have a mind set about it. I have things I dont like to wear because they make my bum look bigger.lol so... wee all buy things that arent always the most attractive!lol

[i]Hi wolfie, I always give my honest comment to my family and close friend, that if they don't look good, I will really advice them to change their outfit! But with co-worker who is not very close, I have tried a lot of time to just say, you look fine! That is my safest answer! Same as my friends and family with me, once I need to change my outfit, they will advice me to do so! [/i]

This discussion reminds me of me these days only it isn't my bum. It is my make up. i just had my eyes lasered about 4 weeks ago and I can see far with no problems but I sure can't see up close. So for me to put on my make up, I am guessing because I can't see well enough. If I put on my reading glassses I can't put on eye make up because they are in the way. So these days, I keep asking my daughter if my make up is even. Most of the time she says it is good, but some times it has been very uneven and she has had to fix it for me or I would go out looking like a clown. I have to get myself one of those make up mirrors with lights on the sides and with a magnifying glass. That is what a little white lie is, telling someone the truth would be too painfull sometimes so we have to tell those little white lies. I am sure we all do it at times.

Hey wolfie! lol! I can't tell you how many times that I have had to tell my friends that little lie! I just don't ever have the heart to tell anyone that they don't look good in something that they are wearing even though sometimes they look absolutely awful! They don't always spare my feelings though! I just can't be that cruel. You'd be surprised how many people just don't see what they really look like when they do look in the mirror! I just don't want to be the one to tell them. So let them go out and be laughed at! Not my problem!

Hi, Wolfie34! I like your topic. It really happens in the real life, that most of us are conscious with how we look and when someone asks, we most of the times lie. Hehehe. My answer to your question is yes and no! For me, it depends on who is the person asking. There are some people that I can't tell they really looked bad and ridiculous with the one he or she is wearing. And I don't even care if he looks outragious. But with my husband, bestfriends, sister, and those who are really close to me, I tell right away the truth. It doesn't matter if I offend him or not. For as long as I express the truth. Besides, I don't others to laugh at him when he goes out with funny or bad attire. That's it, Mr. Wolfie. Happy posting!

on the rare occasions when somebody DOES convince me to go shopping with him/her for clothes, i really tell the truth: that blouse makes you look washed-out, those pants don't look that good on you, those sorts of things. of course i watch my trap so that i don't say anything too cutting, but i tell them what i think. anyway they encourage me to.

people feel more confident when they are todl they look good

As it's only really my girls who have asked and I've known what tother clothes they had I have usually suggested a different outfit. I knew with the middle one that if both me and her dad agreed it looked good she would change so we tended to tell her we thought the clothes were nice when we wanted her to change them. Having three girls means it's rare that we are asked for an opinion but none of them hold back with the truth if they don't think the clothes the others are wearing look good. They are all loving though so each knows that their sisters are being honest with them and not just nasty.

Well I will tell the truth actually but very gentle But I will confess many years ago a Friend had really upset me, she was going out and had bought a new Trousers what she didn't know is that the Trousers had a rip in the back so I never told her as we where not talking, then she asked how she looked, as she decided to talk again, well I was still mad at her so I told her she looked just fine. I have to admit I did feel a bit Guilty, she came home an hour later and asked me if I had noticed that her Trousers had a split in the back, I just sat there and said surprised "Did it? No I never noticed it at all" I know she didn't believe me, but she knew me well enough and she knew that she had really hurt and upset me that Day so she never said a word I know that was naughty of me but I was only 18 and I was really mad at her to xxx

I just had to laugh when I saw the subject you are discussing, wolfie. I think we have all found ourselves in the uncomfortable position of having to tell a little white lie sometimes when asked for our opinion about the outfit someone is wearing. Honestly, I am frequently amazed at some of the outfits people step out in. I was sitting in the lobby of my apartment building a couple of days ago chatting with a friend when a young woman happened to walk by, Now, she didn't ask for our opinion on her outfit, but my friend and I looked at one another with amusement because we were both privately wondering what could she have been thinking when she chose that outfit?

I'm not a very good liar and people can usually see right through me when I do because I feel so uncomfortable doing it, even just little white lies to make someone feel good. On the other hand, I don't wish to hurt their feelings by coming right out and telling they look like hell in the outfit either. So usually if I am in a position like that I try to dodge their question by throwing a question back at them. I will say something like; "Do you like it?" and if they say, "yes", then I will say something like, "well that's wonderful then". and if they say, "no", or they are not sure, then I will say something like, "then why not find something you like a little better?" If they insist by saying something like they like it but want to know what I think, then I will usually say something like, "If it makes you happy then I like it" after which I will immediately change the subject.

Hi there wolfie34 I would never say to a friend that they look awful cos that would be a horrible and hurtful thing to say! Most of my friends have a better dress sense than I do so it would be more than likely them laughing at me. If my friend was asking me if they looked good in what they were wearing I wouldn't blatantly say no I would say something like didn't they have something else they could wear. If they didn't ask me I wouldn't say anything! I think I have told you before I hate confrontations!!

Nobody wants to be told that their bum looks big in something. I bought a pair of black shorts a couple of months ago to go out which I was going to team with a lovely pink satin top and pink high heels. I thought I looked alright but when I asked my mum she told me they 'didnt do me justice'. You can imagine the mood I was in lol sometimes you just want to be told you look lovely but then again no one wants to go out looking like a big elephant.