do you feel guilty to your referrer.....
@sutanhartanto (4122)
Indonesia
October 12, 2008 10:41am CST
when you are not so active in participating on the website or the program she recommended?
well, i sometimes feel like that. because the referrers are usually my friends or best friends, and they are usually so supportive and encouraging and expecting me doing and earning well in the programs they recommend. i don't want to let them down but i just sometimes don't get time to post on the forum and click on the site.
ex, i joined a forum a month ago (maybe) and so far i just post three posts on the forum. my best friend refer me to the site, and despite my willing to be active on it, i keep letting her down by forgetting to visited the site.
what about you? in money making program, do you usually join yourself or someone refer you? who refer you, your friends of just someone inform you about the site? and, do you also feel the same like me, feeling guilty when you cannot be so active as she expected?
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19 responses
@eshaan (6188)
• India
12 Oct 08
No need to feel guilty, if they are ur best friends, they must be knowing ur routine and they can understand, that u dont get time, so no problems. I also dont work regularly on many sites, i just go where i feel like going and easy and entertainig sites. I have mostly joined most of the sites by search or through internet friends, so no such problem with me of feeling guilty..
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@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 08
I am agree with you eshaan 
Don't force you self too much sutan, you are not mop fabric, your friend will understand and love you the way you are.
Happy posting for you two
xooxoxox'dian from Bali island
Don't force you self too much sutan, you are not mop fabric, your friend will understand and love you the way you are.
Happy posting for you two
xooxoxox'dian from Bali island1 person likes this
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 08
thanks dian for supporting, i won't force myself too much. always happy to find you, wherever you are 1 person likes this
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 08
that's right. it's not their problem, it's my problem. they understand my routine and they never force me to be more active for the earning reason. it's just me that feel guilty. well, you are true, i think we are referrals don't need to feel like that when we do less then our expectation on the sites. thanks1 person likes this
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
13 Oct 08
hey,
well i don't think that you should blame yourself or ever feel guilty though... as you are the one who is doing them favors by spending times and may be hours answering here and there...
just feel happy and post when you feel it is time to post...don't make as an obligation if you don't have to...
Smiley,
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
15 Oct 08
that's nice and comforting thanks for your advices. yes i think i shouldn't feel guilty about that.
thanks for your advices. yes i think i shouldn't feel guilty about that.1 person likes this
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
17 Oct 08
hey, i notice you start no discussion why? start one, so i can respond it thanks for being here...
why? start one, so i can respond it thanks for being here...1 person likes this
@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
24 Oct 08
Hi Sutan,
Don't feel guilty about it. Just have fun at internet, i already understand there lots of distraction to be online. LOL
Like the connection very slow, the site turn out to be scam, don't have the time. I do feel the same worry as well.
J u s t
Happy posting always !!
oxoxo'dian from Bali island (still)
Like the connection very slow, the site turn out to be scam, don't have the time. I do feel the same worry as well.
J u s t
Happy posting always !!
oxoxo'dian from Bali island (still)@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
25 Oct 08
Rouf rouf! (said Rado)
He got a rain this morning by him self this morning. I hope he manage to hide him self under the stair ways. I m worry.
He got a rain this morning by him self this morning. I hope he manage to hide him self under the stair ways. I m worry.@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
24 Oct 08
Thanks Dian Sinta, that is very comforting of you. You know me and you are always understanding You are the best! Happy week end. Don't forget to watch the waves with Rado hahah....1 person likes this
@sanzi1201 (644)
• China
13 Oct 08
Don't feel guilty,but if I were you ,I will feel guilty too.But, I think you should tell them what will be before invite them to join this.I have one referrer only ,who is a stranger and write nothing.Haha.
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
15 Oct 08
you mean referral? well, i am similar with you. i have one referral on mylot, my friend in the real life, and he post nothing so far
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@camomom (7535)
• United States
12 Oct 08
I am usually the Referrer so no I don't feel guilty. I do however get kind of annoyed when I refer someone and they sign up and don't do any work on the site. I kind of feel like "why did they even bother", they get my hopes up and then let me down. I was referred here and my referrer doesn't get on as much as I do so I'm feeling pretty good about that.
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 08
that's great. you seems to have many referrals i haven't experience the luxury to be referrer of someones yet LOL. and your referrer on mylot must be very happy as you are more active then him.
i haven't experience the luxury to be referrer of someones yet LOL. and your referrer on mylot must be very happy as you are more active then him.1 person likes this
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
14 Oct 08
yeah, she also understand about it and she now and never force to be more active. thanks for responding.
thanks for responding.1 person likes this
@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
15 Oct 08
Hello, Sutanhartanto!
I don't feel guilty if I am not active in a program that someone referred me to. By referring me, I am accepting the fact that I am going to try the program and see if it is good. If the program doesn't please me in any way, I am not obligated to stick to it. I'm not going to join a program and be active there just because my friend referred me. I'm going to use it if it is worth and if it gives me money, because otherwise I'm not going to waste my time in there.
I think that this should be with everybody. Nobody should keep in a program just because they were referred by friends. They must like the program before sticking to it.
Respectfully,
Munhozmib.
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@youless (112108)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Oct 08
On the contrary, I don't feel guilty to it. At least my referrer shall be proud because I join it. If I am not active there, it must be some reasons. It may be less interesting or I can't have any advantages from it. Otherwise I shall be active.
I love China
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 08
yes, that's true. there are always reasons for our not being active on the sites. and that's our choice and our preference to be or not to be participating there. thanks youless
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@hermitcrabheaven (645)
• United States
12 Oct 08
If I don't keep up with a site, I do not feel guilty. If I don't stay active on a site it's usually because it isn't much worth my time, or I was referred to a site that I don't think will be profitable.
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
15 Oct 08
that's good for you. it's no point to stay on the program if we cannot earn well or have fun there. thanks.
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@kekexinfeng (1295)
• China
14 Oct 08
You can not think so,you give them a good site,and they make money and enjoy themselves on mylot,if they are not like mylot,they will never come here,and it is mutually beneficial,I think that's very good,I was recommended by my friend,though he come to mylot little,but I still thank for him.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
12 Oct 08
i used to but i dont anymore.. you can only do however much you can do and they should be able to understand that
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 08
yes, they do understand. it's just me that feel guilty, which i shouldn't.
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@bvdev234 (304)
• India
12 Oct 08
Hi,
Yes, this happens. Sometimes it may so that we join a program recommended by your best friend, and you join so not to make the friend unhappy. After joining it, you will forget about follow-up. If the program is not at all working for you, just tell the friend. If she is your good friend, definitely will understand you. She all can't be a good engineer, doctor, sales rep. etc. If one is a success in a profession another may be utter failure. We all are different.
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
15 Oct 08
LOL, no, i don't need to explain her about my not being active. she didn't complain at all. it's just my feeling. i don't get time to learn the program and prove if the program fits me or not. thanks
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@JoshAdams (7)
•
12 Oct 08
You shouldn't feel gulity you are the one doing your friend a favour by allowing them to refer you. You should't feel pressured to use the site if you don't have time or don't want to, life is to short to feel like your letting people down when in fact their should be no expectation on you in the first place. Use the site but don't force yourself.
@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
13 Oct 08
maybe that's right. they are very kind and of course they don't force me to be active for earning reason. and, no i won't force myself. thanks for sharing your views regarding this matter here 1 person likes this
@Videogeezer (654)
•
13 Oct 08
You should not feel guilty for not being very active on the places that people refer you to. They should be thankful that you signed up in the first place, which I am sure they are.
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@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
25 Apr 09
Yes I feel bad for my referrer, if I become inactive due to some or other reason. Therefore, I always try to remain active on all sites I've joined.
@tapdancer (44)
• China
14 Oct 08
I just join the family, and no referal at present. It seems the post let me feel sorry.
but I think referal is to show that you have sucessed online. So there is no guilty.
@ashvini_urs (415)
• India
13 Oct 08
i am active at the most of the websites i participate
but i had referred few of my friends here in my lot to a program
but now that it is not existing
i feel bad for recommending such a program which is no more active
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I don't feel bad. I've referred people to various sites that I do, and they either join, or they don't. When they refer me, I always at least look at the site, but rarely join. If you do too many, you really don't end up having time for your favorites.
