How do you tell someone that he/she is not qualified?

@noelcruz (324)
Philippines
October 13, 2008 2:24am CST
A week ago my friend ask me to refer him to the company I work for. I endorse him and the HR manager interviewed him, he called me up a while ago and follow up his application. I talk to the HR manager and told me that he is not qualified for the job. How can I tell him that he is not fit to the job?
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5 responses
• United States
13 Oct 08
"My boss said your not qualified, even though I think you are. I'm sorry, I really am"
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
Straightforward. That's the way to do it. But of course, it would be hurtful.
@noelcruz (324)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
I will think about it, I am kind of shy telling him.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
First and foremost, it isn't your job or responsibility to ask the HR. Yes, you did refer the person, but it's his/her obligation to ask personally (or by phone) so as to show the company that he is indeed excited to work with them, and just maybe they would change their minds. But if I were in your position, and you called up the HR. I would then tell my friend: "Hi, I just asked them about the position, they're still reviewing the interviewees, I'll get back to you on it." That's the single-most safe answer I've ever heard of and used myself. It's not insulting but it's not also keeping him high hopes because he knows that there were 'others' being interviewed. Then if he asks again a few days after and you know that the position have been filled, then tell him that they've filled the position.
@noelcruz (324)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
I think your right, getting a job nowadays is very hard. Keep on mylotting!!
@noelcruz (324)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
You are right, i will think about that. Thanks for the response. Keep on mylotting!!
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
Thanks for the best response mark. Good luck breaking the news to your friend. :)
@loxion (1551)
• India
13 Oct 08
Be honest with him tell him exactly as it is because there is nothing you can do if he is not qualified.tell him that your HR manager says the post require someone with lot of experience, i know is your friend but if he is not qualified you cannot do anything.and you can refer him to somewhere where you know that he will be fit for their posts.Or maybe he just wanna work next to you?
@noelcruz (324)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
Hahaha, I will make him my right hand. Thanks for the reply.
• United States
13 Oct 08
It's not your job to deliver that news its the HR managers. I try not to refer friends to employment for a couple of reasons- I don't want their behavior to impact my standing in the company and I don't want to be a part of someone losing their job. I work with a friends daughter- that is to say that I am a house charge in a small hospital- which means I am the boss and I have had to write up my best friends child twice- now our friendship is strained and did I mention we live next door to each other too. I didn't get her the job she actualy worked there first but it doesn't make it any less odd to have to reprimand her. Hope this helps
@noelcruz (324)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
Yes it help, thanks for the response
@potrish78 (742)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
Just be honest and tell him the truth. Tell him that you have spoken to the HR manager and the manager told you that he does not have the qualities they're looking for in that particular position. Say sorry if it's necessary to make him feel a little at ease. If he is matured enough he would understand that not all companies would like the character he possess. Besides, he should consider that only 1 out 5 applications will have the chance to get an initial interview and 1 out 10 applications would be considered for a job.