If you are women.. how can you relate this???

Philippines
October 13, 2008 6:20am CST
Should men be allowed to have more than one wife? Like muslim people?
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@anonymili (3138)
13 Oct 08
If men are allowed to have more than one wife, then women should be allowed to have more than one husband. For those that believe in having more than one wife, I ask of them, how would they feel if they had to share their wife with several other men. I have nothing much else to say on the subject because I believe in monogamy. If my husband wanted another wife, he'd be getting a divorce from me or getting some part of his anatomy chopped off pretty darn quickly for even suggesting it!
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• Philippines
13 Oct 08
hahaha.. better chopped it off...
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@intimate36 (1415)
• Pakistan
14 Oct 08
I think that would be unfair...permission to have more than one wife... To be fair enough...if men are given this permission...so why not women.... After all we talk much about equal rights... Any way... I am very much happy with my only wife for last 21 years....
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• United States
14 Oct 08
Men aren't given permission in the US and this problem is as big an issue here as it is in other countries. And I woul dlike to state something that I feel has been overlooked- not all Muslim men have multiple wives. As for the equal rights part- I don't want that right, I have been married to my hubby for over 13 years adn I think I'll keep him and only him.
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@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
13 Oct 08
Well, why should they make it a law? That only men can practise polygamy, and not women? It's crazy - but what is crazier, is that the women allow it! So if the 2nd, 3rd ......xxxxth wife has no problem sharing their man, then it's their decision!
• United States
13 Oct 08
I think having multiple spouses is plain wrong- where is the love in this. It seems to me just to be a way for a man to get his jollies off with a different woman whenever he feels like it. While I truly have no issue with the Muslim faith- believe what you want kind of thing. I can't support anything that says a woman should have to share her husband. It is a relationship between two people not one man and many women. Yuck!
@merphius (225)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
Sometimes our society is very unfair for you girls. If any woman commits a mistake it becomes a big issue but how about men doing mistakes? It's a big NO NO again.
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• United States
14 Oct 08
That's not a completely true statement. Women do at times have their mistakes that are splattered across the headlines while similair mistakes of men aren't. But the mulitple wives issue has been in the public view for years and as stated by the question- it is mostly men (only men that I know of). So while the standards do seemed a little off at times I think for the most part men and women are treated equally.
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• United States
18 Oct 08
I think polygammy is wrong either way. There is only to be one wife to one husband. and besides he will always love one more than the other
@Khayam (346)
• Romania
19 Nov 08
Monogamy is the result of a social contract not an organic result of evolution. It was was instituted in order to avoid social conflicts and to ensure social development. Monogamy is everything but natural. I tend to support poligamy instead rather than extra-conjugal relationships. I tend to think that the status of "wife" offers more protection to a woman. Not in the Western world, but in underdeveloped countries.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
16 Oct 08
I have heard of this before. Men taking a whole lot of wives. It is not legal in the United States, I don't think. But it does go on in some states. The big question I have always had in my mind is why the women don't mind sharing other women with their husband? I personally think that polygamy should not be allowed. I believe that a marriage should be a union just between two consenting adults. What is the point in getting married if you are married to a bunch of people? Where's the privacy and intimacy? They have to take turns. I think it just isn't sensible.
@ford_mts (232)
• India
23 Oct 08
Sister every man has no capability to marry more than one.QUR'AN says if someone is able to and can judge between his wives he can.Marrying more than one wife is not compulsory. You said "like polygamy practiced by Muslims" Sister ISLAM is the only religion which allow to marry only one wife,if someone is not able to judge between his wives and cannot give proper rights to her why he marries first of all.Even the Christianity allows to marry more than one wife.No where in bible it says marry one.It is Quran where it is mentioned of marrying one. Marrying Only One Wife When One Fears He Might not Do Justice to His Wives. In chapter 4(women) verse 3 Allah say's but if you fear that you will not be able to deal justly (with them),then only one or what your (right hand possess).
@ford_mts (232)
• India
23 Oct 08
My dear sister.According to statistics in the whole world there are more female than male and even if you see country wise majority of the country has more female than male.Some exceptions are due to female infanticide, if we ban female killing even there will be more female than male. I ask you who is going to marry this girls? Having mistresses no problem if marrying giving her rights does not go under throat.
@murderistic (2278)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I think that in developing countries or countries where women do not have even close to equal rights, it is sometimes necessary for economic reasons. Also, sometimes when a housewife is widowed she will marry her husband's brother or something, because she is already a part of the family but has no means to support herself. This is unfortunate and I think that if we can eliminate extreme poverty worldwide and fight for women's rights it can help to lessen polygamy. In some cases, like Mormon polygamy, I think it has more to do with brainwashing women into accepting something completely unnecessary because it is what God wants.