Still Blood In His Urine

Dad - Smiling & happy as he watches the birds at the feeder out the living room window.
@webeishere (36351)
United States
October 13, 2008 1:58pm CST
Well it has been 13 days since dad had the tumors removed from his bladder. He still has days with blood in his urine. Thids mjorning and afternoon was bad looking. SO I called the Dr. They stated it could be 4 to 6 weeks with blood still in jhis urione even a lot. They said push fluids a lot to make him go causing the scabes etc from the surgery to come loose. Now dad hates drinking as it makes him have to urinate. And this makes him move and walk. He hates walking. He does not drink a lot of fluids due to his not eantoing to walk much. How do you push fluids on an 84 year old lazy azz man? HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@jillhill (37377)
• United States
13 Oct 08
With a funnel? Sorry couldn't resist. He should be a little more cooperative I would think....I really don't know what to tell you! HOpe you figure it out. I know how stubborn they can be.....oh and by the way....congrads on going over 10000!
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@webeishere (36351)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I thought about that. I have a funnel I don't use. So that would give me reasonj to finally use it. Well thanks bunches. I was SOOOO tempted to start a discussion about 10 grand points but............. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
13 Oct 08
Well I really hope that it will settle, he has to take the Fluids, he is just making himself worse by not moving around and not taking in a lot of Fluids, I really don't know what you can do to convince him
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@webeishere (36351)
• United States
13 Oct 08
Not much more I can say to him now. I told him if he drank as much as he feeds my Buster, he'd have no blood at all. 3 times so far he's gotten up to get MilkBonmes for buster. And yet he has had a few tiny little sips of water or pop is it. Oh well he pays not me. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
13 Oct 08
Well you are doing your best and that is all you can do the rest is up to him, maybe the Doctor should explan the dangers to him, do you think that might scare him out of it
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@webeishere (36351)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Things with dad go in one ear and out the other. This is because he forgets within the hour anyhow. He is hgetting lazier each day as well. Oh well. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
13 Oct 08
Sorry I can't be of any help. Glad the blood is a normal thing from the surgery and that it is not further problems. I can say that your dad sounds like my father in law used to be and to be honest with you, I am not sure there is much if anything you can do to get him to do something he don't want to do.
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@webeishere (36351)
• United States
13 Oct 08
Yeah it bites. I can't hold the bottles forcing water/fluids down his throat. Maybe he will learn. But then again more than likely not. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@halynn (1809)
• United States
13 Oct 08
It's prob norm due to his surgery but blood in urine is also a sign of kidney failure most commonly involved in diabetes. BEst wishes.
@webeishere (36351)
• United States
13 Oct 08
Thanks bunches. He has been checked for diabetes and doesn't have it. His kidneys are normal as well. He just won't drink many fluids due to being lazy. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@sunnflr (2767)
• United States
13 Oct 08
That is a delima. Can he drink flavord water? Maybe he'd like it better and drink more? I don't know. I hope you come up with a solution and he gets better soon.
@webeishere (36351)
• United States
13 Oct 08
He doesn't mind drinking fluids. It's just it makes him pee and he hates walking anywhere at all. He IS that lazy for real. Unreal huh? HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@dragon54u (31628)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Another idea...He's pretty old. Are you sure it's laziness and not that it hurts to walk? Heck, I'm only 54 and my arthritis makes it painful to walk after about 15 feet! My mom is 83, loves to walk but she gets tired going upstairs or walking from the kitchen to the living room because of her arthritis and back problems. She told me because I asked her point blank and demanded an answer. She's so proud--not obsessively so, but wants to be independent. So, maybe he's not telling you something?
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@dragon54u (31628)
• United States
14 Oct 08
You could get a porta-potty and put it in his room. Give him things he enjoys drinking like grape or apple juice, etc. Let him spend the day someplace he likes with his bedside potty and drink all he wants. Let him have a room with a window he can open and empty the potty without suffering the humiliation of you doing it or having to walk all the way to the bathroom. Think of yourself in his situation and then do that. Get those liquids down him, whatever you have to do. It's hard taking care of an aging parent. I'm lucky that my mom is pretty self-sufficient. I live in terror of her falling again, but I know that we have to give them their dignity. A room with a window he can open, a TV and a porta-potty would probably be your best bet. You can buy them from Walmart for about $50. Or use a coffee can (I was thinking of my mom who has to sit to pee, and myself! )
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• United States
14 Oct 08
That is a very good question. Some fruit have a higher water content like Cantaloupe and Watermelon! Soups with plenty of broth. Popsicle is good too! Drink more things in front of him.. make lip smacking good sounds.. that sometimes makes folks want some too because it Sounds so good! Hope that some of these help!
@webeishere (36351)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Hahahaha!@ If I was to make those sounds he would say I was crazy etc. But he did really well today drinking more today than he does in a weeks time actually. Thanks also. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@rusty2rusty (6758)
• Defiance, Ohio
13 Oct 08
I guess find anything he does like and push that on him. It could be as simple as milkshakes or smoothies. That way it is not only healthy for him but fills him up as well. have him eat more soups that have broth. Such as tomato, chicken noodle, beef and noodle, cream of mushroom or others that he will eat.
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@rev1wendy (611)
• United States
14 Oct 08
He has been in the hospital, does he have one of those pee bottles? As for the laziness, my dad was far from lazy, but he fell ALL the time. I couldn't leave him alone in a room for more than a couple of minutes for the last 2 years of his life. There is never a happy medium, is there? Well, be a little thankful that you don't have to pick him up repeatedly throughout the day. And he isn't covered in bruises from falling. God bless. Rev Wendy
@webeishere (36351)
• United States
14 Oct 08
No happy medium when it comes to my dad at all. I don't pick him up when he has fallen. I call 911 as he is over 200 lbs and I have a bad back. He doesn't fall a lot thanfully. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@ShepherdSpy (8560)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
14 Oct 08
It's one of the problems of getting older that mobility begins to get difficult for some,if not painful with arthritis and such developing..And then requiring them to drink more so that they have to walk more to the Bathroom..Having worked in a Hospital Geriatric unit,it's not always easy to get there when nature calls more frequently..A urinal bottle on hand could be one solution,a room with an ensuite bathroom as a longer term one..hope He has a speedy uncomplicated recovery!
@webeishere (36351)
• United States
14 Oct 08
He has a urinal bedpan as well. It's not his age or arthritis slowing him down. He does not do any walking therefore his leg muscles are very weak from lack of use. That's the issue. He had PT but refused it as it required him to be mobile. He IS lazy really. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@sanzi1201 (644)
• China
14 Oct 08
If possible,I think you should take him to the hospital to countercheck and insure it is nopromblem.Old man is hard to resume.So,take him careful,and recover as soon as possible.Good luck for him.
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@uu4h708 (638)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
if he thinks he can be comfortable wearing adult diapers, that way he wont have to walk in order to pee. or have a portable commode near him so he would only need to stand (or sit on edge of bed, that's what my 92 year old grandpa does) to pee... i really wouldnt suggest using a cathether coz that would induce infection.. and considering he just undergone an operation.. hope it goes well with you and your dad!
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• India
21 Oct 08
Oh my god! Please be careful right now or more complications may arise.
@Debs_place (10524)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Soups, jello, juice, watermelon is out of season or that would work too. One of these off the wall suggestions and it would encourage laziness...but a urinal, at least while he is healing.
@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
21 Oct 08
He sounds like my dad. He had tumors removed from his bladder too. We had a h*ll of a time to even get him out of bed. Between him not moving and his chemo he got a blood clot in his leg. Until recently he still had blood in his urine and he had his tumors removed in March. All I can say is just be as stubborn as he is. It worked for the most part with my dad. He is doing better now
@flowerchilde (12533)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Maybe strong herbal tea would work.. as it's naturally cleansing, but a small amount can be made strong (and sweetened).. ?
@jonesy123 (3949)
• United States
15 Oct 08
How many fluids to push? That's difficult to tell. They say you should drink 8 glasses of water per day. That may be too much for him. But he needs to stay well hydrated or may eventually suffer other consequences. Although I have heard a lot that older people don't want to drink as much. Just push as much as you can but not more than 8 glasses. Anyhow, the bleeding is indeed normal. It's scary because you can't see what's going on inside. But if your dad doesn't relief his bladder you have to imagine the strain on the stitches inside the bladder. It should all hold up well, but the bleeding will be more the longer he waits to go. You have to imagine a balloon slowly expanding. That's what happens to the bladder when the urine is inside. The longer it sits the more time there is to have the blood get mixed up in it, but the more the bladder expands of course the greater the pressure on the not yet completely healed stitches, the more blood will seep in. Just make sure he uses the restroom regularly and all will be fine. Looks like you are essentially dealing with the potty habits of a small child. Mine always say they don't have to go and when I make them... out comes the waterfall. Just set times for him to go and just make him do his business. I know it's hard when it is one's parent but you need to do what's right for him.
• India
15 Oct 08
Why not try fruit juices, herbal teas, and soups? Any sloppy food with lots of water content in it? That might work! :) Cheers and happy mylotting
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I worked with geriatric patients for many years and if they don't want to do something it is almost impossible to get them to do it. You might try having the Doctor explain the repercussions of his non-compliance with him (this might scare him into drinking more) or as much as you may not want to you might consider a texas cath. until his bladder heals up. Good Luck (your gonna need it).