Would you marry some one of a different religion against your parents consent?
By mercuryman3a
@mercuryman3a (2477)
India
October 14, 2008 10:55am CST
It is rather difficult to take a decision if you do not have support. If you love someone from a different religion but you know that your parents may not be prepared to accept the alliance because of teh difference in religion, what will you do? Will you go ahead and get married despite opposition?will you forget your love? will you decide not to get married?
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@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
14 Oct 08
This somewhat relates my situation. I am a Hindu and was in Love with a Muslim. Both our parents opposed it and we are not apart.
When we thought we were in love, our age was 18. Of course we will not have much practical knowledge then. When we were 21 our parents came to know about this and my parents tried to advise me. They were just lecturing about it. I didn't listen to them. Then they started telling me about the practical difficulties that I will face. Definitely aged people will be more experienced.
They explained how difficult it will be for our kids. When we are in Love, our decisions will be emotional. So we will not think about these. Only few will have such thinkings. Only when some problem arises we will start thinking practically.
Happy mylotting. 
@damsel_prerna (863)
• India
14 Oct 08
hey so what happened.. r u still together.. i hope you are...
@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
14 Oct 08
Sorry. Instead of we are now apart I mistakenly typed as not. Hope you get the answer.
@damsel_prerna (863)
• India
14 Oct 08
ohh i am so sorry.. so have you married someone else now.. and what about him.. r u guyz in touch.. i hope you dont mind me asking.
@savitha_r86 (904)
• India
14 Oct 08
I definitely know that my parents would not agree if I happen to choose a guy from other religion,infact they don't like love marriages even,so I'll never say a yes to such a proposal. But if some force brings us together(guy of another religion) I would not leave him at any cost. You can think if it would really work 1000 times before you say a YES to a proposal but not even once after you declare ur love. I'll try to convince my parents,will not run away with my loved one hurting my parents. But will stay single forever if they don't allow me to get married to him. Will remain single even if he feels there's no use waiting and decides to marry someone else.
Cheers
I know,but there's only one Shahrukh Khan @mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
15 Oct 08
Shah Rukh Khans are not born in everyhouse hold, but evenif it was Shah Rukh Khan, many parents still would not agree to the marriage. it is not about teh individual or his religion, but it is about going against your own religion which matters to a lot of parents.
@damsel_prerna (863)
• India
14 Oct 08
y not.. if i genuinely love that person and he loves me.. i will certainly marry him.. initially yes my family will oppose.. but later when they c that i am happy they will forgive me for sure.. i am sure i will find out a way where no one is dissappointed.. i am sure i can work out things..
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
15 Oct 08
That would be wonderful. That is the spirit. Never lose home or heart.
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
I think I am the type who respects my parents but I also try to explain to them certain decisions I make. If I knew my parents are against it, I would make a way for them to understand me. 
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
15 Oct 08
It isnot just your parents, but how your partner's parents react too that is importnat. It canbe really dificult convincing both sides. Half your battle is won if both parents are understanding and want ot see their children happy and not just please the friends and relatives and their social circle.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
15 Oct 08
i would marry who ever i wanted as long as i felt he was the right person for me and i loved him.. others can be wrong and others may never approve so if you wait till every one is happy that may never happen
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
17 Oct 08
thats awful (as in that they would be looked down on) i guess i need to really think about customs outside of the usa.. sorry if i offended you with my ignorance 
do a lot of people have a hard time going with that custom? i think my strong will would make me not like it even if i didnt know any better.. of course my strong will gets me into trouble a lot lol.. i think i gave my parents a lot of gray hairs 
do a lot of people have a hard time going with that custom? i think my strong will would make me not like it even if i didnt know any better.. of course my strong will gets me into trouble a lot lol.. i think i gave my parents a lot of gray hairs @mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
15 Oct 08
Well if that is how you are brought up, then so be it. In India marriage is not just a marriage between two individuals, but between families. It has muchlarge social ramifications than the individuals concerned. Most of the marriages are arranged marriage and love marriages are and exception rather than the rule. If the love marriage is within yoru own community, then there are no problemsw faced. If it is outside the community, then the social ramifications are great. if youhave a yonger brotehr or a sister, then no one will easily agree to marry him or her from within the community. parentsw think of all these thigs before taking a decision.
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@marshiemallows (1010)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
i don't think it's even right to marry without my parents consent, how much more to marry someone of a different religion without informing them. i don't want to break my parents hearts so as much as possible, i won't get married without them knowing it.=D
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
15 Oct 08
In close knit families marriage is often by the consent and willing participation of all family members. It is a big occasion and a major decision in life. If eveyoneis happy, it adds to the festivities.
@yuna15 (2706)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
My family actually has mixed beliefs. We are all Christians but we belong to different "religious sects." My father is the one who is mostly considered of the person I wanted to marry. He actually thinks that the person I married would eventually join our religious sect. So for my family it's not really a big deal.
@surpriseme (185)
•
17 Oct 08
i don't think i can ever get married to a person who is not accepted by my parents no matter the religion. for me, it is best that my parents and i can get along well with whoever i end up with.
