Mom Gave Me The Face!!

@Hatley (163781)
Garden Grove, California
October 14, 2008 2:10pm CST
hi mylotters I know probably all of us had different types of discipline when we were kids. My mom would give us this horrible Face when we had done something wrong. It was worse for us than being spanked. That look said how could you do something so awful to me your Mom, what did I ever do to deserve this? Dont you dare ever do that again. I am wondering how many of you got the Face instead of the usual spanking. that look that says "I am so disappointed in you, how could you do this to me?Do that again you get a spanking." I know a lot of you probably got the spanking but did some of you get the face?
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
15 Oct 08
I used to get both. The look and then the spanking but only when I was very young. I became very well trained and spent my life trying to please her only to discover that no matter how hard I tried she was never going to be pleased with me. Her pride and joy was her first born son and none of us was ever going to be as good as him in her eyes. When I finally worked this out I stopped trying to please her and started pleasing me instead. She never did like that.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
3 Jan 10
My father never got involved in my life at all. I remember when I went to Uni and I tried so hard to get 1st class honours just to please her. I only managed to get upper 2nd class though and then I found out that so did my brother. She had always said that he got 1st class and he told me that he got 2nd class. Just getting honours is an achievement as so many people just get pass degrees. Anyway when I confronted her with this knowledge she said "He did psychology, You did history, any idiot can do history". I knew then that it did not matter what I did, she would always put me down.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Oct 08
i got the face first like you. then the spanking or even switch if i didnt immediately stop.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
oh yes bunnybon7 my mom managed me with just the face,don't know how she did it but I would feel so guilty. I do not think she herself was ever spanked, I think my dear grandpa probably had some version of the face too and that stopped her from' misbehaving
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Oct 08
ooohhh and if it was something i'd already done it was yelled at with my FULL name before the whipping
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@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I got the "Face" also, and it was horrible.. My mother raised 10 of her own children and 2 stepchildren, so she had to use the "Face" quite a bit.. We also got the spankings and they were bad enough, but the "Face" broke your heart, it was much worse than the spankings, which I deserved everyone that I got, I believe now that I even worked hard to get the spankings.. I can't imagine how my mother raised us when one child almost drove me crazy, but she did and she was a great mother.. I do know now that my mother always loved me even if she had to discipline me so many times while I was growing up.. I wasn't that bad on my own but if you multiply mine times 11 more, then we surely should have drove her to the edge, but she was always patient and kind, she was the world's best mom.. She is gone now and when I look back, I wish that I could have been perfect for her, but she knew each and every one of her kids and loved us equally.. I am proud to have had a mom like I had..
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
hi donna a yr. later but playing catch up.sounds like you had a great mom too. I was never spanked but still I was a good kid, and grew up to be a law abiding citizen so guess mymom knew what she was doing too.
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• United States
3 Jan 10
Hatley, you are one of the old timers aren't you, "Better late than never".. Good motto to live by.. Have a great evening..
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
15 Oct 08
My mother never had a frightening look, but my sister did from the day she was born. If she wasn't happy, you knew it from her face. We called it her "black look". She made the entire world look horrible with that look. And her kids and her employees learned to stay away from her when she had that look.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
hi kenzie45230 my mom did not have it except when I misbehaved andd then she looked like she was going to cry, it was not so much frightening aS making me feel guilty so I would behave again. she was really a very sweet gentle lady.
• United States
15 Oct 08
My mom would just look at us, turn around, and walk into her room, and shut the door. She never slammed it, just closed it behind her. Oh, my! That was worse than a slap in the face! We knew we had made her mad or disappointed her, and that we had better do whatever it was we were supposed to have done in the first place, before she came back out. The house would go all quiet as we scurried around, picking up this, straightening that. I don't remember my mom ever giving us too many spankings, that was more my dad. It was enough, most of the time, just to have mom turn her back on us.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
hi thebohemianheart oh that was like my mom and I just 'hated making her look like she was going to cry so I would hurry to do what I should have done so she would not feel so bad.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
I usually got the spanking but there are times when my mom was so feed up that she just cry. And it is the most saddest sight ill ever see.It made me feel so bad and hate myself for saying a word that hurt her feelings. It makes me feel so awful that i wanna hug my mom and say sorry for what i did. That is why everytime i am angry i think first before telling her coz i might end up saying something that hurts her so bad.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
belk i was never spanked but feeling bad that my mom was going to cry felt even worse than a spanking as I was a sensitive child so I would be quick to obey then so she would not cry. it really did keep me behaving pretty darned well.he he.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
15 Oct 08
it was the same with me. at times she used to behave such i was really afraid. till now some of her things make me afraid.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
hi subha12 I think my mom had studied some child psychology somewhere as she knew how to look to get us to mind' quickly as she never did more than just grab my arm at times and shake me. but she looked so angry and I' hurried to get her to smile a gain. wow.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
when i was young i can say that my mom never did that... maybe i am a good kid back then but i dont remember any instances that made my mom make actions like that. even when we go out just with out dad i can not remember that he gave us face like that. what i remember is before we go out or go somewhere they both always reminds us not to do something that they will not like OR ELSE THEY WILL NOT BRING US OUT ANYMORE. that is what i remember.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
hi roniroxas well I think you were better behaved than me and I was a tom girl which upset both my parents who thought girls should be girly girls not climb trees and roller skate so I' got scolded and got the face. we come from different cultures'but we have different ways but we all grew up pretty good did we not?
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Oct 08
[i]Hi Hatley, I remember, my Mom pinched me once when I was late coming home from school because I was playing with friends but I never remember my Mom hit us using a stick or whatever! SO, my Mom is the type of person who will just do the stuff which she asked us to do once we will not follow her and that makes me more guilty and I will try to obey her all the time! [/i]
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
hi checapricorn oh yes that really got me too as I was feeling so guilty and even cried out mom let me do that, I am sorry and I wont do that again. please mommy. and she smiled and she let me do it. of course she had planned all of that but I did not really know that then. smart woman.
@rev1wendy (611)
• United States
14 Oct 08
My mom, God rest her soul, was so naive and so good. She tried smoking once and one drag made her sick. She never drank or swore, either. So, I knew I had really disappointed her when she would look at me all sad and say, "Well, you'll just do as you darn well please, won't you?" I would feel terrible because I felt that I made her swear. I only got two spankings in my whole life. Rev Wendy
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
hi rev1wendy. my mom was like that too, a real sweetheart. so when she screwed her face and looked like she would cry,I would just melt, oh mommyI am so sorry I won't do that again. darn her she was putting on an act but I did not know it till I was an adult. anyway it sure beat being spanked I always thought the face was worse really.
• United States
14 Oct 08
I'm an only child. My mom gave me the look and a spanking for the following:1) racing my bike so fast that I fell off and landed on/ bruising my knees and face. 2) letting go of her hand while waiting on a red light, running accross the street, which caused cars to screech to a halt in order not to run me down. 3) splashing with mud via a broom a neighbor's new car. LOL Janet
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
hni janet whoops sounds like you were a bit mischevious but then most kids get there and I did too. but my mom never spanked me, sometimes she grabbed my arm and sort of shook me then came that' awful sad face which would stop me in my tracks. I would hurryto mind her then.
@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
Hi Hatley. We got the face and the spanking too. My mom was a strict disciplinarian, that we get the spanking everyday but like you said the face is a lot worse. For if you get the face you can be sure the spanking will be double than usual, because you've done something so terrible. We were really more afraid of my mom than my father.It is so because my father never got in her way in disciplining us.She is so strict in everything, but now that we have our own families, we see the comparison. We were better kids than our own now. In all aspect of life, though we try our best to take after her style of discipline, it is never the same now a days.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
oddly we all try to mimic our own parents but mine did not believe in spanking and yet we turned out just fine so I' guess different strokes for different folks but I just do not like harsh spankings its hurtful and I dont think its all'that great myself. I think we do know better now and no I dont think kids are worse today , not at all.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
My mother doesn't give us the face nor spanking. It was her way with words. The way she would say things when you have done something wrong would really make you feel that you have done not only a wrong thing but a very wrong thing. Combined with her tone, those words really are scary.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
hi magojordan I had a favorite teacher that was like that . when we did something wrong or misbehaved in class she got quiet then let us know calmly that we had done a really bad thing and we all hurried to make amends as we liked her so much. we hated to hear her talk like she disliked all of us .she really used child psychology very well.
@kalianju (138)
• Nepal
15 Oct 08
oh yeah, my mom gives me the life, my mom my god....i love my mom tooo much.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 10
hi kalianju you are like i was I was very close to my mom and would not really ever want to do anything that would make her 'angry with me at all. she was my mom. I was not close to my dad at all.not ever. I disliked the man very much and with very'good reason.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Oct 08
of course i had seen what my mom look like when she angry with me when im in my naughty mood or when i go out with friends not being home at the prescribed time i was given...i can remember how his eyes looks bigger ..its like shes gonna eat me alive ..
@nikkibum (39)
• United States
15 Oct 08
My grandmother used to spank me with a flyswatter. It didn't hurt, but it was pretty hilarious watching her chase me around with it. One time, she used the leftover cardboard to a roll of wrapping paper.
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