Do you always wear you engagment ring?

My engagment ring - My three stone diamond and white gold engagment ring.
@jesssp (2712)
Canada
October 15, 2008 11:29am CST
Or do you leave it off sometimes? When I first got mine I thought that I would never ever take it off but now I find myself taking it off as soon as I get home from work and quite often it doesn't even make it onto my finger on the weekends. Do you think it's important to leave it on all the time and why? How often do you forget to put it on? What are some of the reasons you do or don't wear yours full time?
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@Jennlk84 (4205)
• United States
4 Jul 09
I am a teacher and one of the first things my now husband told me when he proposed that any time I didn't feel comfortable wearing my ring, especially at work, then DON'T. His concern was something happening to the ring. Him and I both know we love each other and are spending the rest of our lives together. Just because I don't wear my ring for a few hours, or whatever it may be, doesen't mean I'm breaking any promises I've made to him. I find myself taking my ring off a lot in the evenings/on the weekends. I never wear it when I'm cooking. Sometimes I take it off as soon as I get home and I'm getting into my pajamas. It just all depends.
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
5 Jul 09
I agree. As an example I can't stand the feeling of putting hand lotion on with rings on my fingers so they come off any time I use it. I quite often take mine off when I get home from work before I start cooking or tidying up and some weekends they don't even make it on my finger. I like your husband's take on it as well.
• United States
15 Oct 08
I think it's very important to wear your engagement ring. It's a symbol, not only for you, but to the rest of the world that you're taken. To me, it's giving the impression that you're single if you don't wear it. I never took mine off, even when he gave me a ring I absolutely hated. I wore it anyway until he got me the one I wanted and I've pretty much never taken it off since we picked it up over a year ago and we've been married almost 5 months now.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
15 Oct 08
I agree that's it's a symbol, a very important one at that! I think taking it off is a bad habit and I want to try breaking that habit by only taking mine off right before bed. I have tried sleeping with it on but the stones are raised and I find that my hair gets caught in the setting and gets ripped out. I will also take it off when I'm going something messy like painting so it doesn't get ruined. Thanks very much for your response!
• United States
17 Oct 08
When I had my other ring, the setting was really raised and caught on everything. When I went to bed or put on clothes that might snag, I would turn the setting to the inside of my hand so it wouldn't get caught. The one I have now is raised but very smooth. I have almost no problems with it at all. Maybe look into taking it to the jeweler to get it looked at. If it's raised that much, it's probably likely to get damaged. That's what happened with the other, the prongs of the setting were what snagged and they kept pulling away from the stone and the stones kept getting lose.
@Jennlk84 (4205)
• United States
29 Apr 09
I typically wear my engagement ring all day, but I will admit I don't sleep with it on or shower with it on. Whether I take it off or not, my fiancee knows that I am commited to him. He has always told me that if there is a time I don't want to wear my ring (because I feel it's safer not to, etc.) that I don't have to wear it. I am a teacher and he is always afraid that I will some how get it scratched up by one of my kiddos or get paint on it or something, lol. I do usually wear it though all day and all night until bed time. I just like the feeling of having it on my finger. Without it, I feel like I'm missing something! Which, technically - I am . haha
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
30 Apr 09
I've tried sleeping with mine on but I think I would be totally bald after about a week! My ring rips hair out like crazy. It bugs me when I leave the house without putting it on but I take it off at night or whenever I'm doing something grubby like painting or yard work.
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
My fiance always check my hand if I wear my ring or not. He even calls me everytime he has time to check. He thinks I might lost it because of my forgetfulness which only occured when I was given gigantic antibiotics for my nose bleeding. That's why to make sure that I will not lose the ring I always wear it full time. But in cases I have to commute from work to home, I just turn the ring (the stones facing my palm) so that I could not attract attention. My engagement ring is quite eye catching they say.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
9 Jun 09
Turning your ring around is a good idea. Now that we're married I'm finding that I'm constantly after my husband to wear his ring!
@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Jun 10
I definitely do not wear my engagement ring. Before we were married, I got a couple rings from my hubby (though not hubby at the time, we've been together many, many years). Long story, but I lost the first ring he gave me . . . but I didn't care about that ring anyway - like I said, long story. Another ring he gave me had a stone in it . . . but after a couple years of wearing it 24/7, I discovered one night that the stone fell out of it. And of course at that point there was no sense trying to look for such a small stone - it could've fallen out anywhere. That one got me sad. I did wear my engagement ring for a while, but that fear of losing the stone got to me. And now with 2 little ones, I hardly wear any jewelry at all (I didn't want the stone prong to snag on something plus I didn't want the prong to accidentally scratch their skin). So now, I just wear the wedding band. It's just a straightforward band, so nothing to worry about. I guess it's as important as the person wearing the ring thinks so. The ring is a "symbol" and I don't consider myself to be so tied to material symbols . . . I know hubby and I happily married and that's all that counts.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
22 Jun 10
I agree, a ring is just a hunk of metal when you get right down to it. It has no bearing on the marriage and how important it's symbolism is really depends on the individual. I'm not usually much for material things either but my rings are something that I consider really important. I guess the symbolism means a lot to me - plus they're just so shiny, sparkly and beautiful! I do think that once we have kids my wedding set may very well get put away for special occasions though. Pretty sure it could take a kids' eye out!
@Revenwyn (43)
• United States
11 Sep 09
I pretty much wear mine all the time, with only certain exceptions. One, when I'm doing something with water, such as dishes or taking a bath. The second is when my finger starts swelling, which it does occasionally, usually when I'm out in the sun and walking. Then I'll put it on my necklace so I don't lose it.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
11 Sep 09
Putting it on your necklace is a great idea - I'm so paranoid of losing mine!
@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
So far, i haven't forgot to put it on as i haven't really take it off my hands. I don't want to lost it that is why i never take it off. I am just afraid to lost it because sometimes i'm forgetful, so its better not to take it off my hand and besides i like to see it everyday because inspires me.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
6 Feb 09
I am terrified of losing mine too. I have this fear of dropping it down a drain or in the toilet!
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
4 Jul 09
I don't take my wedding ring off. Why would you take it off? Sometimes my engagement ring comes off..but that is because I have to wear gloves at work and the setting causes holes in them.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
26 May 10
Yes and no. Shortly after I got married I got a job working in a kennel. I didn't want to worry about getting my engagement ring all icky or possibly losing it so I'd make sure to take it off beforehand and not wear it to work. Once I quit the second kennel job that I had back in 96 I started wearing my engagement ring full time again. However, 16 years and 2 kids later it has gotten a little too small for my finger. So I'm not currently wearing it, or any ring for that matter. Though I am looking into getting something (maybe an anniversary ring?) as I feel a bit naked without a ring. LOL Happy mylotting!
@Galena (9110)
17 Oct 08
mine's never been past my knuckle. I even feel weird about the idea of taking it off to put the wedding ring on. ultimately though, it's the promise that counts, not the symbol of the promise. all the same, the fact it's never left my finger is important to me symbolically.
@dodo19 (48151)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
24 Jun 10
I always keep my engagement ring on. Otherwise I feel naked without it, in a way. It doesn't feel right if I don't have it on. Besides, I love wearing it. I enjoy having it on, which is why I don't take it off.
@amorlife1 (370)
• South Africa
29 Mar 10
I hardly take off my engagement ring, except when I'm going to bed. And that's because after washing my face and hands before going to bed, and putting on night cream, my finger becomes slippery, and I've almost lost it while sleeping. So I just take it off and put it in my jewelry box. But I never leave the house without it!
• United States
28 Mar 10
I keep mine on all the time. I actually almost lost it one time though because it was loose on my finger and luckily I found it in the washer.. so apparently I put it in my pants pocket. I know there are some jobs where you shouldn't wear it because its for your own safety, honestly your man spent money for you to wear it, so you should wear it as much as possible. Not everyone likes wearing rings or isn't much of a jewelry person but I love my ring so I never take it off.