How much responsibilty do you give your children?

United States
October 15, 2008 4:15pm CST
I have a 9, 7, and 5 year old. They all have responsibilites around the house, or their daily chores. I believe it's good to have them start having responsibilities at a young age because it helps them to feel like they are doing something as a part of the family and teaches them the importance of being responsible. They all clean their rooms, sometimes my oldest will help wash the dishes, they all help take turns taking out the trash. I don't ask them to do alot but I do for the most part make them pick up after themselves. Are you a parent who wants to do everything for your child from cleaning their rooms to picking up every single thing they leave behind in the home because you feel they shouldn't have to when they're little or do you think they should help out a little and have their responsibilities around the house?
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11 responses
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
11 Nov 08
Hello happy mommy. I think that it is a good idea of yours to have the kids do some household chores within their power, which is a good way to develop their sense of responsibilities. Well, we do the same to my son, who mops the floor once a day and washes his own socks and underwear and makes his own bed. He is now into the habit of doing these chores. Good day, friend.
@marilyn23 (295)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
I have 5 kids at an age 7,5,4,3,2 year old. Most of the time i teach & train my 7 yr old boy to help do the chores in the house. Little by little i always tell them to be active & healthy and try to help the household chores. I always tell them that time is gold & dont waste time to study hard & work hard. As much as possible i always teach them the proper manner, teach their school homeworks & give them my right discipline. So just pray that all my kids will turn out to be responsible & a good citizen someday. marilyn23
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
Hello there! I am also a mother of three kids, mine is aged 5, 3 and 5 months and they too have responsibility in the house. My 5 year old responsibility is turning on the computer and shutting it down, another is their feeding bottle (yes he still feeds on bottle), it is his responsibility to take it downstairs. My 3 year old responsibility is closing the doors, our screen door was broken and have no time yet to fix, their dad usually leave it open so I told to my 3 year old son that the screen door is his responsibility and that who ever comes in or go outside and forgot to close the door he is the one who will be taken into account. Another one is their playroom, I always told them that it is their responsibility to pack up their toys, toy car for my 3 year old and building blocks for my 5 year old. I really think that we should give our children responsibility in the house even if it is as small as putting the plates on the sink. They would learn how to value responsibility and it will really work well when you keep on reminding them about it and the consequence it would bring if they did not perform their responsibility
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
My daughter is only two years old... so she have very little responsibilities for the moment... but i am starting to give her some small ones... like turning of the electric fan before she leaves the bedroom... and getting her own diapers when she needs changing... we should start when they are young... so that they will learn the value of hardwork...
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
my daughter is just a 2 year old baby girl but we teach her already on how to discipline her self in so many ways. learn how to put her trash on the right trashcan, keep her things when done playing, eat her own but ofcourse with a little bit supervision. this little task help her improves her self. i saw him picking up trash and put it on the trash can. when she saw her mat with removable numbers, she put it back. the best task that i am proud that she always remember is to pray everytime she wake up and before sleep. i saw her in the morning when she saw the image of our almighty god, and cross as a sign of respect. the funny things and makes me proud of... everytime she saw the image of our almighty god, she pointed it to me and pray... as a roman catholic, this really enhance and belief, and continue believing to make her wiser and good daughter..
@amoisan (240)
• Canada
16 Oct 08
for my oldest whos 10 i make him take out the gabage and all my kids have to clean up there messes after they make it thats about it i dont want them to do too much like i was made to do when i was a kid i hated it.
• Jamaica
15 Oct 08
I believe that you should give your children responsibility because otherwise they will grow up being always dependent and alot of them will lose their sense of direction because they never had to sort out having chores and learn to manage these simple task. Alot of times these are the children who turn the adult who becomes problems to society because no one took the time to teach them to be accountable.
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
As of now my children are at the age of 5, 3 and 2 year old baby triplets. They still young to give them responsibility but in just a simple things to do like picking little trash it could be fine and allow them to get their own things like their toys and putting it back to the place is fun for me. But i assure that when they reach at the right age for household doings, I will teach them and trained them to always participate in household job. So they would grow responsible person.
@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Great discussion topic! For my household, we actually encouraged our kids to do more in the house. Especially with the dishes, and we teach them teamwork. My oldest is fascinated with cooking and how things go together. She loves Mrs. Dash seasoning, since we don't use salt in our house. My son, I encourage him to take out the trash, he loves being able to announce: Mommy or Daddy, I put the garbage in the trashcan in the garage "all by myself, without anyone helping me." Too comical. My 2 year old is quite the absorbant sponge, and she mimics her other siblings a lot (sometimes too much). My kids are 6, 5 and 2.
@jarael (666)
15 Oct 08
it is true that children today do need to learn about responsibility. i think this needs to happen before they get to their teens. maybe then they will understand life is not all about going clubbing and hanging around with their mates. if chores are part of a routine long before these years they may already be efficient in doing their chores before they leave the house without making much fuss. my 8 year old and 4 yr old pick up afterthemselves, the eldest more than the youngest as she has the type of personality that loves to be praised.. and will all she can to help me. my youngest on the other hand would beg, cry and try to hide her way out of any tidying up lol. they do their bedroom and help with the living room, a little sweeping with dustban and brush. they take their own clothes to the dirty basket and my eldest sometimes carry the rubbish bag to the bottom of the garden. my eldest has also started helping with the clothes washing, she will help hang the washing on the airer and when i tell her how neatly she has done it, it makes me smile because then she is so proud of herself. all of this is done without nagging, bribing or because they think they will get a treat, although sometimes i will treat them for being so helpful. im a single parent and theres always something to do so it was natural for me to teach them to help according to age as soon as they could.
@BubblyIan (751)
15 Oct 08
You are absolutely right to involve them in things around the house proportional to their age and understanidng. Otherwise kids grow up spolit and unwilling to help at all. It is a fine line, but generally kids want to be helpfula nd as long as they get positive reinforcement from you then they will learn to enjoy it. It is also useful to try them with different things so it does not seem to be a chore but something they enjoy doing. Preferably something they can make their own so only they are allowed to do it. They will then take pride in ownership of the task. useful for the future. You're doing fine! Well done.