Do you believe in long distance relationship?
By daydreamer20
@daydreamer20 (1688)
Malaysia
October 16, 2008 4:30am CST
Most people believe it but most people also failed to maintain it. I personally feel it's possible but it's going to be very difficult. No matter how long your relationship is, it's still going to be difficult.
I've seen a 5 years relationship gone down the drain because of distance (not me of course).
What's your opinion on this?
5 responses
@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
I think if you're really meant for each other it doesnt matter how far you are from each other. It's just a matter of working hard on the relationship and giving it your best shot. Anyway, in our high tech and modern world, there are plenty of ways to keep in touch with our loved ones who are far away from us. We can chat with them, email them, call them on the phone. We can actually talk to them everyday and see them through the webcam. So i think it's very possible for a long distance relationship to succeed.
@mayshella (292)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
well, that is the hard part and the sad part. If the TRUST you have for that person is gone then it's hard to bring back the old times once TRUST is broken. How would you love the person if you don't trust him/her anymore?
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 08
It's true that we're currently in the IT era where people can get connected easily via webcams, etc etc. The underlying issue here, however, is not about those mobile devices or high tech video cameras or those reliable internet line, it's about TRUST. Do you trust your partner so much that you think he/she will not be tempted to do something which will let you down? Even when you 2 have not met for 1 year?
A good friend of mine broke her 5 years relationship even though she trusted the guy. The guy betrayed her by having an affair outside, and even have a baby without letting her know. Everything happened within a year.
@princejayevents (1245)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
I have been to a long distance relationship... I can really survive but it's tough... though communication can be open and in regular intervals, yet other setup is unavoidable which usually will ruin ones relationship...
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
I think it's how all those little things add up into one big problem, which will cause the relationship to be damaged or ruined.
Well, long distance is never easy I think unless both parties are really strong-willed.
@rosesthorns14 (803)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
Hello! I've seen a discussion similar to this thread.. of course I do. Some couples who had been on the said situation survived the consequences of being away from each other..
Happy Mylotting!
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
Hmm, I tried to look for such post but couldn't find. Maybe I should have refined my search. Sorry for that.
I think there are some couples who managed to survive such situations but how many of them compared to those who failed?
@mayshella (292)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
My marriage is a product of a long distance relationship so basically my answer would be a "yes". My husband and I started as friends through the internet where we knew each other. We became chat mates. He'd been calling me regularly until we fell in love with each other even if we haven't met personally. We're on our 7 months as sweethearts when we have our first meet and that is when he arrived from Kuwait after her business trip there.
For 3 years we maintained our long distance relationship. In a year we only met twice or once. During our 3rd year there's no chance of being together even just once and during that year our love with each other is being tested by time,temptations, patience, and trust with each other but still our love survives. Our 4th year gives us more strength to hold on on our relationship. There's no more long distance, we're together already. We decided to get married last August 8, 2008. I thought we wouldn't end up together.
I did asked myself who would be my husband now if I didn't give this guy a chance to prove that he’s serious despite the distance? I’m just glad that it’s worth all the risk of having another long distance boyfriend who become now my husband.
Yes, I had a long distance relationship that failed but God gave me another person that proves long distance relationship really works.
It's true that having a long distance relationship is indeed difficult but I personally believe that both parties plays a big role for their relationship to last. Once I’ve said this to my ex-boyfriend when he chooses to be of someone close to him, “No Matter how hard the situation is; no difficult situation can tear apart two people who are bound by true love. No distance is too far, no time is too long or those people who truly love each other. Love will find its way to be together until the end.” Finally, I’ve found my one true love and we're both happy now.
