friendship or love?
By tousif1988
@tousif1988 (373)
India
October 17, 2008 6:13am CST
how true is the unwritten rule that a guy and a girl can never be good friends fo1rever1.
(unless both have other love interest/both are gay/or other conditions prevail that renders laws of attraction difficult)
i feel that guys and gals can be friends but at the same time i also feel that sparks do fly between the two though it may be in the start of the relationship...we do tend to get drawn towards new maintain the status of just friends........but when i think about the "forever"....i think its not possible because things do change after marriage ....wives like female friends of their husbands and vice versa though exceptions are also there though they can remain friends but things and closeness are never the same....i think platonic relationship is not possible when its a relationship betwen two opposite sexes, there's bound to be some attraction or at least thoughts. if not mutual then one sided.most people don't admit them from the fear of loosing their friend.
thoughts expressed above are of my individual thinking. i know some people might not agree with me, byt remember its a community to express your views freely.....so no individual attacks pleazzzzzz..........
4 responses
@surpriseme (185)
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18 Oct 08
for me, friendship is what starts a good relationship. love needs trust and when you trust someone, you see a friend in them. getting attracted to a friend is quite normal since the two of you knows each other's weaknesses and strengths and can relate to anything and can just talk about everything.
@gracemanotoc (641)
• Japan
17 Oct 08
my bestfriend in high school was a guy and we get along pretty well. Well we grew up together, the same community with our families very close and friends...i think at this age we really gotten along really well and he always say yes to everything i want...but when we reached college we changed a lot...the likes and our tastes at everything then we had new circles of friends and we rarely see each other ...and then the hang out time lessen and lessen.. then i knew he had a gf...then he got married...well, i know at first we liked each other but because we are so close - we rather not put deeper meanings.
@magicalangel (642)
• Brisbane, Australia
17 Oct 08
A girl and a guy can be true friends. Its is upon them how they feel for each other. Where friendship stands caring and sharing ideas takes place whereas love is completely different thing. In love you bend towards your partner and want long term relationship and may think about marriage to stay forever. You cant not call love as just friendship and vice versa.
@marshiemallows (1010)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
i somehow agree because i think it's attraction that bring two people together. when you're attracted with someone, a force is like pulling you to be closer to that person. it's possibly what starts the friendship. but i don't think it's true all the time though because i know a lot of people who make friends even to those they don't find attractive at all. i'm just wondering if could it be that the person is attracted by something on the inside like the personality or stuff. i'm out to discover it. LOL
