Is there a barrier on helping your children???

Yeah, there must be a barrier beteewn children and thier parents.Firstly children cant stand on the height of the parents to think any question.secondly,children cant have any skills and trancing to deal with any question with thier simply brain.so you must be a friend of children and step into thier world.

belk89 hi yes there should be astopping place where parents say look you are grown up now, you are an adult, I cannot keep 'help;ing you, you have to do it yourself. talk gently but firm;ly to yourmom in law, tellinghershe mustntlet the daughter eat up all her business money, that she must try to support herself now.Show her this discussion and suggest she abide'by some of our advice.lol

As a Christian, I believe that we are to "leave and Cleave". This means we leave our families of origin and cleave to one another when we grow up and get married. We become a new family when we are married. I know that other cultures have other customs than my own and I realize that many families in other parts of the world live together with their parents and grandparents etc. But I think there should still be boundaries. Also, there is such a thing as tough love. This is the kind of love you give when someone is not learning a lesson. Hslping people who continually learn nothing about how they got into certain circumstances time and time again, is really not helping but reinforcing them to keep making bad decisions. If you never pay the consequences, you never learn. But.................you can't make someone stop doing this. It may not hurt to talk to your MIL, but ultimately these are the choices she is making.

I'm a late bloomer myself because of my profession. I studied for almost ten years and while i did, i managed to find ways to help support my other needs like having a small scale business. There is no reason for dependency when you become an adult. The best thing for a mother to do to her children, is to teach them to become independent while they are young by involving them in family business and finances. Then, when they finish college or become adults, they should learn to spread their wings and earn on their own. The best way to do that is to stop parental support so that the daughter will be pushed to work.

Yes there is a barrier to helping children. If the child is still at his or her tender years, teach her to talk, to crawl, to walk and many more. You give him food, provide her clothing and shelter and protect her to anyone who might hurt her. That is a mother or a father because they love their child. Because he or she is the living proof of their existence. As much as possible, they want to give all. But to give all is not right. Parents should give a chance for their child to grow. There is that space that parents cannot fill at all no matter how much they will try. A room for the child to grow by himself, to be independent and to discover his strengths and witnesses. Not everything about this life is learned inside the home. But I do admit that it starts at home with the parents. The role of parents are unending. But it has boundaries. Their child is not forever a child. He will naturally grow up. If parents will keep on helping their children, that child will be so poor in all aspects of his life in the future. Poor and unstable because he learned nothing but to be dependent on someone else. A mind setting that "MOM OR DAD WILL PROVIDE FOR ME." But what if one day, Mom or Dad will no longer be there? What if no one will lend a helping hand anymore? How will that son or daughter survive? Will that be the only time he will start to learn how to be independent and stand on his own. Love for children is not about giving all what they need or want. It is also enduring to see your child suffer pain or sorrow, disappointment so that they will learn from it. If parents will provide everything for their child, they are not really good parents.I might say, they don't love their children. They are selfish for not teaching and guiding their child.

its real hard to tell your children no but it could be a big mistake if she does not learn how to very soon .i sure would hate to see that family lose there bussiness.may be you could have your husband talk to her.you have to be really careful when you are aproaching a women about her children.