does love increases selfishness?

October 17, 2008 11:09am CST
i have been in love for 2 years but i have found that my selfishness has increased day by day and now reached a new horizon. i never wanna her to speak with others. i never want her to sight at other boys whereas i do . is this selfishness good? or i'm going in a wrong path? does love increases selfishness?
3 responses
@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
ok, i'll be straight and honest with you. i do think this kind of selfishness isnt gonna do you any good in the near future. i understand that you want to keep her to yourself, but to not let her talk to other? i think that is a little too much. you dont want her to be with other guys, does that include her guy friends? i think you are going way overboard here dude. my exlover was the same, and even though i loved him so much, he was suffocating me already. i wasnt like that, i'd let him go out with his friends. if they want to have a boys' night out, fine with me, as long as he doesnt do anything that will ruin our relationship. i mean, that is part of his socialization, and i dont find anything wrong with that. it is just as how we girls bond with each other and have girl talks. if she loves you, you dont have to worry about her falling for another guy. other guys might fall for her, but if she loves you she wont mind those.
@y2krimi (134)
• India
17 Oct 08
You are right..Love increases selfishness badly.It also happens with me.My boyfriend never like to see i am talking with another guy,even i can't look to any other boys.Even i can't chat online with nobody except him.But I never mind for his sweet and silly thinks, because i understand this is the love..true love.I also keep him in restrictions like he can't talk to any girl,he can't take tea,he can't think about anything except me....the list is too long..But in love and war everything is legal and good ..
@tintusam (1169)
• India
17 Oct 08
Love is the most common emotional feeling one is interested most. It drives a person to continue living and giving value to oneself. It is the foundation of life to become emotionally mature and to achieve belonging.i dont think that the love is selfish. that is when a person loves someone he wont be selfish.