When work becomes an health issue..

October 17, 2008 8:02pm CST
I've been away from this place for awhile now, this will be my first discussion for some time. (so I'm little rusty) LOL We all have issues with work from time to time, I know I do. However recently it's starting to bother me that much I'm in funny moods and half the time I remain silent. (out of fear i'll snap at the wrong people) I'm trying to discuss this with my manager, as it's becoming an issue and making me want to quit. My question is how do you overcome these issues which work throw at you? I usually ignore it but these days I work so many hours that it doesn't go away, Most of my time's spent working though. ~Joey P.s It's nice to be back, i hope i'll see some of my old friends more.
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10 responses
• United States
18 Oct 08
This is a tough one. As long as your manager takes the time out to listen, he may or may not have answers. Quite often, good communication with not only your manager, but also your co-workers, helps. However, it is tough to try to give a better answer than that without knowing details.
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18 Oct 08
Well basically I work in a restaurant now, so I'm a little fish and others within similar role are making my life difficult because they'd rather not do the work. So, if I say I can't do something because I'm busy (for example) I get hassle from cheifs/others who make my hours there hell. It's a good response though. I should try harder with how I communicate with others, just somewhat when your shy and annoyed.... Thanks krazy! it's nice to see you :)
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• Singapore
19 Oct 08
One should remind oneself that while having a good boss is ideal... it doesn't always happen.
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• United States
18 Oct 08
T this point in time with the job market being so bad I would keep my mouth shut, not quit but in the meantime look for another job. There is nothing worse than hating to have to spend 8 hours a day doing something that makes you miserable.
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@drannhh (15235)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Noticed your absent. Of course most people have to walk on a few eggshells wherever they work, but when it gets to the extreme that it begins to change a person's mood, that is when you get out your resume and dust it off and start trying to find a better job, and if special skills are needed to be successful there, it is time to work on that too. If you tell your manager what you have said here, in all probability s/he will say, "I'm sorry you are not happy here, but under the circumstances, you should probably leave." Let's see if anyone contradicts me on that, but I think that is what they still teach them in management classes. The only other thing I would say on this is try to never quit one job until you have another one lined up.
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19 Oct 08
That wasn't quite the case. =) I wrote a letter and gave it to my manager (instead of talking), she read and actually did something. The head chief wasn't to happy about the trouble his side had been causing me either and is getting rid of the two in similar position as me. (not fully due to what they do but because they don't turn up half the time) Thanks
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@drannhh (15235)
• United States
19 Oct 08
ahhh, wonderful! When the two giving you grief are not showing up half of the time, then sometimes that can make a difference. So glad to hear things are looking up and glad to have you back!
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@Polly1 (12647)
• United States
20 Oct 08
Hey Joey, it sure is nice seeing you, you have been missed. I have been out of town a few weeks visiting my sister, just got back. I have often wondered how you have been. I asked Wizard about you, he said you were fine, just busy. life is like that, you just hang on and things will change. Hopefully it will be for the better. Things are always changing, have faith that things will work out. Think posiive. Its nice to see you again, take care.
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• Singapore
19 Oct 08
Hi Joey, I am not active here at myLot currently too. Just thought I would pop by since it is rare to hear from you, bud. There was just this discussion from another myLot friend about "When life throws you lemons, make lemonade"! It's not easy but you might want to try that. Cheers and I hope Kate and Jake are both keeping well!
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
26 Oct 08
You're back :):):):) Sorry your work is getting at you. I am not really sure of how to answer because I am usually quite good at not giving a... well I do, but only where it relates to the students and their needs, not about all the administration and politics going around. Granted I work regular hours now, but I used to teach during the day and then in night school as well. Basically I think you need to find what relaxes you throughout the work day, even if it's only for 5 minutes, something that makes whatever comes next something new and not the rest of what happened before. I know it's easier said than done, but it is very important. I doesn't matter what it is. WHen I came here I started working at a hospital.It was fine. Maybe a bit stress specially since I was working on oncology and aids clinics - both emotionally charged posts - but what used to get to me was all the politics and bs going around. I worked over time most days because clinics ran late and I was still teaching evenings.And, for the first time in my life I was faced with half an hour lunch time instead of the 2.5 hours I had back home. I didn't even realie that not everyone had longer lunches. Heck I used to go to the beach on my lunch time back home ! What worked for me was the fact that I really like to read. A book even while I was eating and I was ready to start fresh. But of course it is different for everybody. Some people need a brisk walk, or just ge some fresh air, or a talk with a friend, some music.. I don't know but I believe it will be helpful.
@someonesmom (5765)
• Canada
20 Oct 08
Hi Joey, It's nice to see you back here again. I've been wondering what's happening with you. From reading through the responses you've received so far, I've noticed that two employees have been let go. That's great, especially if they're the ones who were giving you a hard time. I've found that no job's perfect, and sometimes it takes everything we've got to 'hang in there.' My daughter's been having a hard time at her part time job too, but she'll stick it out until she gets something else that she wants. I'm not sure how long this will take for her, as it can be hard these days. I hope things work out for you. Take care.
@cripfemme (7713)
• United States
15 Mar 09
First off, you need to decide if this is the right job for you. Maybe it's a bad fit and that's why you're having those problems. If so, start exploring other possibilities for jobs. If you really want to stay with your current job try to figure exactly what is making you angry. Often, journaling helps you with this process because it's a constant record of behavior and circumstance.
@JenInTN (27547)
• United States
11 Mar 09
Hi joey! I know how you feel. Sometimes I feel burnt out because I feel like most of life is just working. When I first got my job..I used to take everything home with me too. I take everything I do very seriously but when I got to the point where I was snappy and hated going in I realized I had to have something to offset work. I try to make time for myself and do things I like to do as much as possible. I also never think about work anymore when I walk out the door or on the weekends. I try and focus on things that make me happy instead of the old grind..lol..Maybe you just need a few days off for yourself. Hope things get better for you.
@Lydia1901 (16353)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Hey Joey, Long time indeed. Welcome back. I'd say taking a vacation is a good way to go. You said you've been working a lot, that sounds like stress to me and getting away from the work environment could help put your mind at ease for awhile.