Hello Goodbye, I Will MIss You, I Cannot Cry.

@Hatley (164171)
Garden Grove, California
October 17, 2008 10:41pm CST
well hi mylotters, am going to have to move in a week, as the judge found for the landlords of course, but I had hoped we could have til the first, the judge was very sympathetic but was bound by the law.My question is how does one say goodbye to someone who has been your best friend for years now. I dont want to cry, I am an adult, but its going to be so hard. Also I am throwing out things that I cannot take because only so much will fit into the truck, but some are things that are keepsakes.of course I will take all my photos, those take little space. At the same time I am wondering those of you who have moved, do you find it exhilarating to toss out stuff you havent used in years, and still have kept moving? I get a sense of freedom here, less stuff to pack, and to store once we are moved.I will be off line untilwe can get our stuff out of storage and into the new apt on Nov.1st. so am mylotting now in between packing.
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@comfort55 (1574)
• India
18 Oct 08
Hi Hatley, we feel sad when we leave but what I've experienced after we shifted twice to our new house, life opens up with more avenues. So don't worry, you'll get better opportunities, I hope and wish.
@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi comfort I think we will be better off,myson says the job opportunities are better up there.
• United States
18 Oct 08
Anytime you lose something or give it away without really wanting to do so there will be feelings of loss. Focus on those things you wanted to give away and are glad to be rid of and let the others go for now. I am sorry this process is so difficult for you, but I do believe that God ultimately makes our plans because it is what will be best for us in the long run. Good luck and god bless.
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi kolleen yes God does move in mysterious ways so I will go as he had directed will be fun ultimately.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Bummer I hate moving,but I really hate having to move in a rush. The worst part of moving for me is having to figure out what I need to keep and what I can let go. As a pack rat of sorts, there is always too much stuff I want to keep.
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi fwidman isnt that the truth, its the sorting,what can I take, what must I throw out, we accumulated so much stuff in 3 years wow.
@Chevee (5914)
• United States
18 Oct 08
I am sorry this has happen to you, make the best of a bad situation, don't let it get you down. The new place you are moving too my be the place of your dream, I will have you in my thoughts and prayers. Will be looking forward to your post when you get back online.
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi chevee I will be postive and something good will be happening llol
@AmbiePam (56666)
• United States
18 Oct 08
I hope you can get settled soon. I'm sorry it didn't turn out the way you needed it to.
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi ambiepam well the company that owns this complex has a lot of clout so oh well just one of those things we will be fine once we areall moved. thanks
@ellie333 (21018)
18 Oct 08
Hello and bye for now Hatley. This must be so hard for you but you are making a fresh start and as long as you have your happy memories to take with you thats all that counts. Good luck with the move. I have experienced a big move like this myself and I didn't even know where I was going to stay just drove down to the area I wanted to live in and found a flat, all I had was a few precious items, my daughter, a quilt and pillows and a few other essentials in my car, I now have a lovely three bedroom house in a wonderful area close to the beach and have never been happier. Look forward to seeing you back in November. It is very hard to say goodbye to friends but they can always try to visit and you can keep in contact by letter writing etc. Big big huggles. Ellie :D
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi ellie will miss you but be back on line soon. Iam so glad we are weeding out a lot of stuff that we should have done before lol hugs back.
18 Oct 08
Hatley,these things are sent to try us,and I am sure that it will not be long before you are tucked into your new apartment and up and running again,but the upheaval of moving house is almost unbearable.I have recently scaled down on possessions ,I am tired of opening the cupboards and the clothes taking a tumble out at me,The clothes that I have had no wear from for a year or so have gone to the charity/thrift stores,the books have all been passed on and there was enough china in my kitchen units to cover a dinner for the whole estate.I feel much better now I have thrown some of the no longer used articles out.At least they have gone on to good homes.The only concern was my clothes ,I had to throw a good amount away,and I do need to buy some more everyday clothes now,some casual clothes,track suit bottoms and some soft wool jerseys,but I Will wait,the sales in the department stores will soon be here,the Christmas period always makes the stores panic into putting a sale on.
@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi ella1bella yes I think so too, and we will be fine once moved in. the weeding process is good as we have had stuff we have moved four times and never used. lol. out it goes.
• United States
18 Oct 08
I'm sorry to hear about your situation, Hatley. I've moved many times in my lifetime. And it's never easy. Most times, it's exciting. In the past, I've reveled in unshackling myself from my junk. And, then when I got to my new home, found that I had to buy the stuff all over again. Years later, I can still remember some of the valuable things I threw out and regret having done so. I'm sure you'll be fine. Come back to your friends at Mylot when you can. Best wishes on the move! Be well.
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
thanks beautyqueen It is not easy but am hoping it will be for the best. its so true about throwing out stuff, as so many times you throw out stuff you should have kept. lol.
@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct 08
Hatley I am so sorry to read this where are you and your Son going to be staying? I just hope all works out well for you both I really do and I shall keep you in my thoughts
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi gabs say hi to gissi for me. we will be just thirty miles form San francisco. its called Antioch Ca in Contra County. I have yet to see it but my son did go up to sign the move in papers. so i will be thinking of you two and willbe back on the computer as soon as possible.
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@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
19 Oct 08
I will be thinking of you and hope you will be back soon Gissi says Hi back and to let you know he is totally back to Gissi lol so much better Love and Hugs to you
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Oct 08
oh gabs I am so glad Gissi is all better. send my love to him and to you.hugs from hatley
@pyewacket (44032)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Aww--Hatley...sure going miss you while you get settled in. I'm sorry to hear things didn't turn in your favor. I was under the impression that a landlord can't force an eviction while one is trying to find a new place to live, but I guess the rules are different were you are..in fact, here a person has up to a month to find a new place. My mother and I were going through an eviction issue and our landlord was literally out for blood..even our lawyer said our case was going to be a tough one to win, but did.
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Oct 08
hi pye yes we didnt have the help; of legal aid at the last minute she went on vacation, so my son had to basicly be his own lawyer ,and he did not know all the ins and outs. anyway we are moving and I think we will like it once we are up there.
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@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Bless your heart. I'm sorry things didn't go so well with the judge. If I were you, I would look at this as an opportunity. One where you can toss out things that are unnecessary. And one where you can embrace a new location, and start a new life.
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi kenzie this is an opportunity as I needed to throw out a lot ofstuff we moved and hadnt used in three years. it will be a new life for sure.
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
Sorry to hear that Hatley but I know you can make it. I know how stressful would that be. I've been transferring from places to places too. I moved out three times already and it was really so tiring but I make sure that all my stuffs were properly packed up especially those with sentimental values. I don't want to just throw them away coz it's really important to me and I consider them as part of my life. And even my place is quite small I put some of my keepsakes in a small box under my bed.
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
amzthienne hi yes I can make it. I have keep the most important things like photos and old cards,will do some scrapbooking later.
@jesoccer (90)
• United States
18 Oct 08
i feel for u and i hope the move is fun for u
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
thanks jesoccer I think once its done it will be fun again.
@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
18 Oct 08
I really wish you luck to settle down in your new place as soon as possible. I had to do about 5 moves in the last four years due to works being carried out at my home. The workmen did bad tiling and I had to move out again out of my house after six months living in my new house. Anyway I ended up stuffing unused items in the garage and after four years that I have not used them I am trying to get rid of them either by giving to local charities or relatives. © ronaldinu 2008
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi ronaldinu iam hoping to give a lot of s tuff to one of our closest friends who has helped us so much over the years.
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
Hi Hatley! Moving out is stressful. I have experienced it too. It's true that its hard to dispose things cause it has been with you for so long but it has to be done. When I moved out I gave away some of my old stuffs to my neighbors who helped me pack. At least I didn't threw them away or just left them. Though the things I gave wasn't brand new my neighbors thanked me for it. Take care!
@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi iskayz yes its stressful but I will enjoy itonce its over I am sure. i also am givinga lot of stuff to friends here.
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
18 Oct 08
oh i know this job is hard to move it some hard work. but it will be nov 1 before you know it getting rid of stuff is not always easy especially if you been keeping house for a while but do what you have to do to make your life easyer have a safe trip.
@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
thnks annjilena it will soon be done and we can start a new life and maybe a happier one now.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Hatley, I haven't been on the "lot" very much lately. I've had other things going on in my life that haven't allowed me the time to be here, so I don't know all thats happened with you and your living situation. I'm sorry you lost your place, but glad to know that you have another apartment to go to. It may not be what you had hoped would happen, but at least you are not finding yourself completely homeless. In the meantime, I know you will be missed on mylot, but before you know it you will be back and be telling us all the wonderful things about your new place and living situation. I can't wait to hear all about it. Good luck Hatley and much love.
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi kg well you just cannot win over big companies like the one that owns this complex, so now we will move, and I think just mayhbe it will be a lot better, my son seems to think so. It is a new beginning so maybe for the better.
@relundad (2311)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Moving away from friends is always hard, but it doesn't mean the end of the relationship. Friendships can survive the distance. I would try really hard to keep those things that are important to me and the others I would use the move as an excuse to get rid of stuff that I probally should have anyway.
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi relundad I am finding tossing some stuff we neverused is really freeing, sort of fun unlike the packing itself.but we will get by all this and be happier.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
18 Oct 08
Awww Hatley, how stressful for you. I know just how you feel as you know. Its so hard living with these boxes all over the place, but it will be nice to get moved. I actually feel pretty good getting rid of stuff. I had thought I'd have a yard sale, but really I don't have anything of great value. So I'm just going to put my stuff in a box, sit it on the curb and mark it free. It will be gone in no time I'm sure. What doesn't get taken I'll haul to the dumpster. There are some things that I may not get to take this move, and I'm not sure yet if there will be space on the truck - like my hottub. I LOVE my hottub. It helps my arthritis so much. But, it may have to stay here. I've moved the thing three times already. LOL Anyway, I hope your move goes smoothly. And will look forward to seeing you back here once you are settled. Good luck, and hugs.
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@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi tess I am doing the same thing as some of my stuff is well used so anyone who wants what i have in the boxes is surely welcome to them. lol
@Opal26 (17684)
• United States
18 Oct 08
He hatley, I know it will be tough to say goodbye to your friend, but you can stil see her. She can come for a visit or you can visit her maybe. As for getting rid of things, I just did that a few months ago after living in my apartment for 28 years. I am in the process of redecorating to change things a bit. You will be able to change things too because you are moving into a brand new place that you can fix up all different. It will be kind of fun in a way. So get rid of some stuff and start looking forward to your new place. I know that you will make new friends there. That doesn't mean that you have to forget about your old friends. Just keep the faith and everything will work itself out!
@Hatley (164171)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 08
hi opal its going to be tough but will have to make some new friends for sure, we still have so much to do it scares'me but we will get it all done some way.