how long will you hold out ?

@ayenacsi (911)
Philippines
October 18, 2008 12:51pm CST
I recently had a spat with my partner and now we're not talking. If he doesn't want to take to me then fine. I realize that whatever it was we argued about was really petty and it just blew over because I guess we were both tired or cranky. So I am waiting for him to at least speak to me, say something. I am not expecting to hear the word sorry and I don't want him to. It was really nothing to be so mad about. I can't stand it that he doesn't even acknowledge my presence but I will not be the first one to give in. I can do without speaking to him. I am being childish, I know. But if you were in my shoes, would you wanna give in first ?
4 responses
@eynjel05 (444)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
I just read a book, but I forgot it's title though. But it says there that in an argument or misunderstanding, if there is someone that should win,let it be your love. I believe on that. Sometimes when my mom and I have an argument,thogh I was right, I just let her win and I ask her an apology, because I do love my mom. Same as with your boyfriend. If you really love her don't be afraid to set aside your ego. If he doesn't want to make the first move for the two of you to reconcile, then go ahead and talk to him.Atleast you have proven that you really love him. Asking an apology though it's not your fault is so difficult, but if it's for the sake of your relationship, then why not.:-)
@ayenacsi (911)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
I just think that sometimes why it should always be me who is giving in all the time. Why can't he show to me that he cares about how I feel, enough to make the first move? That is just a thought. Anyways, I do love him enough to make amends regardless of who was at fault. Thanks for sharing about how love should be the answer to any misunderstanding. Have a nice day!
@malen168 (10)
• Netherlands
5 Dec 08
That depends, if it's my fault, I normally give in first. I'm afraid, we're very much the same. But knowing your partner's sign, he is more stubborn than you are. Why don't you try talking, really talk about each other feelings when you finally made up. Tell him what you feel and ask him what he feels when you have this petty quarrels. It's not always effective but it certainly helps..trust me.
@ayenacsi (911)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
He is still as stubborn as before. And to be honest, I usually end up being the first to make up with him.
@jesus777 (664)
• Bermuda
18 Oct 08
you are both acting childish to me because someone need to speak i dont care who it is you are a couple and you love each other and the through the good times and bad happy or sad you need to walk in unity and love talk it out amongst yourself that is always to resolve conflict so i think someone has to be the bigger person and it may have to be you good luck god bless i hope it all works out for the best!!! chow for now!!! happy mylotting!!!!
@ayenacsi (911)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
It's just that I always seem to give in too easily. I want to make up with him but to him, I sometimes feel that I don't really matter. I guess I just want him to make an effort and make me feel like I do matter. Thanks for listening!
@joy4you (641)
• India
22 Oct 08
The problem now is that you are not concentrating on the problem that actually started the argument but on the fact that he is not speaking to you, he is probably thinking the same thing. In such situations I always ask my self, is my relationship worth my ego and the answer is always no.