What are telling attributes or signs that you look for in a new person

You can see an individuals habits of thought, molded into the flesh and even into the bones. You can see an individuals beliefs acted out in the dramas in their lives, and the everyday occurrences. I had a friend once that I developed a huge crush on. I ignored the thin, tight lips that hinted at stinginess and subtle cruelty. It got a little harder to ignore when I noticed what a chintzy tipper he was... I mean, we would go into diners and sit in a booth all day, chugging coffee and trading stories, and then when we left he would leave the server 50 cents. I guess it could be that he had never waited tables and didn't realize how much value your table held. So really, I can't judge him on that, but he did turn out to have a pretty stingy habit of thought. My sister snapped a shot of me one night last year sitting at my computer. I destroyed it instantly, but not before it had it's effect. It gave a clearly defined glimpse of where my own habits of thought had brought me. But I have decided to start looking at life as though it were a living catalog, and I get to chose what to order. I flip through page after page of this and that and circle what I want for delivery. Hehehe, it was funny just the other day I was talking about Goa, and the idea of roaming the streets over there, and a hammock outside my cottage. In my vision the sun is shining and the grass is green. The next thing I know, my son, who had just got his 'going to school money' says to me that if I could find a fare for 700 dollars, and live off 150 dollars a month, he would send me there! Well, I figure I could have done both, but I have 7 kitties (and sometimes 8 chickens) that I feel responsible for and could not bring myself to abandon them, but nevertheless, it brought to my attention how easily something totally unexpected can appear just around the bend, and I couldn't help but notice that my thoughts had come first and then the manifestation. The key here was an absence of resistance... I was not trying to figure out how I could get there... I had not 'engaged' or 'activated' any of that kind of energy. I was just enjoying the sensation of being there in my mind, wallowing in it, letting it permeate my senses, for no other reason than it felt so good to do it! Then I forgot all about it until a few days later on the phone with my son, just before he presented me with that offer. So, as far as looking for revealing characteristics in a person, I have concluded that it would probably be a better use of my focus to look for something to circle in my catalog, like "man, what great eyes she has!" or, "Oh man, I love the way he walks!" etc., etc., etc. Granted, it is a lot easier with some people to focus on what you like about them than it is with some other people, but still, I think it has to be done if I want to stay healthy and happy and promote health and happiness in others.

i try to look at the body language. i have seen it says many tjings, looking at the face also do not reaveal much always. but in my case to judge, body language helps.

lol i jus look at em! n keep lookin...haha