She never had the chance to hold and hug her father tightly

@djoyce71 (2512)
Philippines
October 20, 2008 9:46am CST
My officemate's father died this morning. She received a text message from her elder sister that their bedridden father died already. She cried and sobbed in her cubicle and said, "I never had the chance to see, hold and hug him tightly." We comforted her because we were so worried about her situation. She's 6 months pregnant. She didn't stop crying and it seemed that she could not accept what happened. She felt guilty because she didn't allow her father to live with her during the times her father requested and wanted to live in their house. We just told her, it was better that way than prolonging the agony and she should fight for the loss because it could affect the baby inside. We called her husband to get her, so that she could relax. It's really painful to lose someone in the family and in her situation, it's really hard.
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@rkrish (3003)
• India
21 Oct 08
Its painful to see somebody crying of loosing the loved ones and that too our initimate friends we will be in a position that it happens to us itself rather than for our friends. And its all time we miss something to get something. You did right thing of calling her hubby to console her. Take care.
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
We called her husband because we need to go back to our own works. We're afraid that she collapses when we leave her in our faculty room.
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@rkrish (3003)
• India
21 Oct 08
absolute personal attention to be provided as she was pregant too
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@ShellyB (5243)
• United States
20 Oct 08
I am more than sorry to hear that. I am glad you guys were there for her, but let me get this straight, poor woman hears this in a text message at work? I think I would be upset with sister. I hope your friend realizes she did the best she could with what she knew. And that she finds peace soon, for her and her new baby.
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
That's the best thing that we thought we could do for her. We're so concerned with the baby inside. Her sister maybe so hurt also, and needed to tell her sister. She forgot for awhile that the other is pregnant.
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@ShellyB (5243)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Losing a parent is very sad, my thoughts are with you and your friend and her sister and rest of family. It is good to have friends like you and well I am sorry if I sounded hard, I am was just shocked, I would not like to get news like that on a text either.
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@Chevee (5914)
• United States
20 Oct 08
I am sorry to hear this. I really don't think it was a wise decision for her sister to let her know about this at work, knowing her condition she should have waited until she got home or at least told her to come home first. For that one reason I always try to at least do things for people if it is within reason so that I will not be sorry for it later. Somethings can not be helped. I had an aunt that was terminally ill and she had stayed with all the family members at one time or another and she wanted to stay with me. I couldn't let her do this because I was a single working mother and I could not take the time off work to care for a terminally ill person. I hope your co-worker be alright and learn to live with this.
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
I agree. Her sister must have waited for the right time. It could affect the baby inside when a mother gets too emotional.
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@dong1970 (1573)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
Hi des, It is really painful that she never had the chance to hold and hug her father.I know that she is sad upon knowing it.The best way that she must do is just relax and i know that her father is in a good hands now and she know it is God's will.
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@Jean25 (344)
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
that is too bad. i would fee awful if that happens to me. but at least she can pray for hi everyday
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@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
25 Oct 08
my sincere condolences to your officemate for the loss of her daddy.
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@sona22 (1430)
• India
25 Oct 08
I have no words to show my sympathy. At this situation she has to steady for the sake of the coming member of the family. I have lost my parents, and I know the situation. Her husband has to play a vital role in the situation. Oh god! give her strength to pass the time.
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