Death sucks

@heaven11 (1159)
United States
October 20, 2008 10:45pm CST
Hi all I havent been on in 5 days due to a death in the family. My stepdad passed away on the 15th he was only 46 years old he was healthly as far as we knew. anyways he had went to work that day he was fine he came home at lunch my mom called him from work and he was fine he went back to work his friend droped him off at 3:00 and he said he was fine then he had brought the trash can from the curb went inside and I assume he started feeling sick cause he got the trashcan from the bathroom and set on the couch which he never does he always sets in his bigman chair at 5:00 when my mom came home the dogs didnt bombard her like usual she could hear them barking but they didnt rush to the door so she opened the door and said honey Iam home fully expecting to hear the usual oh my honey your home and she didnt so she figured maybe he was sleeping which still didnt make sense cause he is a light sleeoer as soon as the dogs barked he would have woke up well she glanced at the couch and seen him there with his arms crossed at his chest and the dogs just laying there and she knew so she grabed the phone and called 911 Then called me I got there and spoke with the medical exmanier because they had yet to take him away anyways the ME requested a autopasy because of the age and the results they gave us were inconclusive awaiting the tox tests but they said he had an enlarged heart with scar tissue behind it Which makes no sense because he just had a chest xray the end of august and that would have picked up both ecspecially the scar tissue I know an enlarged heart can take inly a few days to devolpe but not the scar tissue the worst thing about it all is in march of this year he had a galbladder surgrey but befor they did it they ran test and they had found some abnormalties so they sent him to a heart doctor and the heart doc said he was fine had a perfect heart and they did the surgrey it just doesnt make sense . My mom doesnt believe in god But I do I wish she could find some type of peace knowing hes in a better place but at the same time I cant help her understand why God took him now when Iam having trouble understanding the whole thing I know god needed him or he wouldnt have taken him but this is one that seems like it could have been prevented
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@redkathy (3375)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Sweetie I am so sorry about your dad. You might not ever understand the whole thing. Obviously you are a loving person and again I am so sorry for your suffering. I have been there. Often times we can not understand. I can tell you that your dad is at the best party, celebration, worship service, whatever that is the best, most totally mind blowing and happiest event ever... out of this world! Dancing in a place of constant love. Keep on having faith, even though it may seem hopeless and I am sure that you will see him again. Pray for your Mom, I will pray for her too. What's her name, first name please. My prayer is that the Spirit will lead her to God and she will see her husband again someday too. Be assured that time will help to ease what you are experiencing now. ♥
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Redkathy thank you so much right now she needs as many prayers as she can get her name is Joanie At this point she just doesnt see how she can go on I mean she knows why she has to go on but she doesnt think she can without him Iam trying my best to comfort her I really havent fully grived because I need to take care of her I need to know that she will be okay I need her to know life is going to goon regardless so she has to go on withit Iam not saying move on at all Iam just saying live her life and remeber his sprit will always be with her and he will always guide her and they will meet again. once again thank you for your prayers
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@redkathy (3375)
• United States
23 Oct 08
Hope your days are getting better, easier, calmer.... moving in the right direction! blessings 2 U
@howard96h (11643)
• New York, New York
21 Oct 08
I am sorry for your loss. What a shock, only 46 years old. I will say a prayer for your mom and your family. I agree, I hope your mom eventually finds some kind of peace, this is a very traumatic event for her.
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Thank you so much for the prayers, yes 46 it was a big shock it may have been diffrent if he had been sick but he was fine no health problems that we knew of nothing but I know god needed him I dont think god would have took him if he thought his family couldnt handle it. Again thank you for your prayers
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@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
21 Oct 08
I am very sorry to hear about your dad. I will say specials prayers for you. Sometimes when God takes someone home, its extremly hard for those family members and friends who have to cope. I am very sorry about your loss.Prayers are with you!
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
21 Oct 08
Thank you for your prayers they are much needed My mom is having a very hard time coping with this and I know its only been 5 days but I feel she will need a long time to begin to cope Iam just standing by her doing all I can possibly do as her daughter but Iam not really sure how to help her althoug I have lost several family memebers I havent lost my husdband so I cant say how excatly she is feeling again thanls for the prayers
• Philippines
21 Oct 08
hi heaven! this is really a sad story. condolence to you. i guess God has a purpose for that. take care
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
23 Oct 08
yes I know god has a good purpose but it still all confusing on what happened Thanks so much
@coffeeshot (3786)
• Australia
23 Oct 08
My thoughts are with you and your family. I know it is ahrd trying to come to grips with what happened, especially when no one was expecting it but these things happen sometimes. I expect you're searching for answers and reasons and this could send you around the bend. His time was up and he is in heaven now. I hope that you and your mom are getting all the support that you need and that in time you can come to terms with what has happened. Thinking of you...