My classmate is getting married!
By Denise_Tung
@Denise_Tung (647)
China
October 21, 2008 10:54pm CST
I chatted with one of my university claamates last night and I was totally shocked. She changed a job and now she worked in her hometown, a little town. And she moved there for someone that her parents introduced to her as her future husband. I can't believe my ears as she barely knows him but they are getting engaged. Sounds like we are back in the ancient time, huh?
We just graduated from univercity last year and we are not going steady with anyone special until this year, she was in a very relationship with one of her colleagues and was very satisfied. And then I got to know my bf and we are just getting started. I thought it is fast enough with me to spend vocation with my bf but she has already moved to a little place and leaving her ex-bf for a richer man.
She is so reluatant to leave her bf as he is the best man for her and if only he was rich! He asked her to wait for him 5 years and then he can give her a better life but she shaked her head.
I am still trying to adjusting myself to this information and I am wondering, how could this happen?
Dear mylotters, what's yr view? Will you choose the man that you are truly in love with while may not rich at the time being or just a rich one who has a very rich family background?
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16 responses
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
22 Oct 08
If the guy she loves has prospects and has big dreams/planning for the future, then why not? Support him and who knows he might really pull it off. A lot of my married friends told me they actually prefer to work hard together with their husbands rather than just go for a rich guys. Rich guys only have money, the issue is do they love you the way the other guys love you?
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
22 Oct 08
Yup, love is the most important in a relationship. It is happy to be with the one we love even we have to work very hard.
@daydreamer20 (1688)
• Malaysia
22 Oct 08
Because I seriously think that love can last longer than wealth. :) Money can be gone very fast. But love, even if it starts to wither, will take time.
@amarnathr (46)
• India
22 Oct 08
i think money is more important in life...But MONEY IS NOT LIFE...while taking important decisions we shud'nt see money..there are many great things in this world other than money...i think ur friend took a bad decision..it is my personal view..sorry if u find offensive..
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
23 Oct 08
Hmmm, perhaps she thinks money is more important to her than other things and she won't be happy without money. That's why she chooses the rich guy.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
22 Oct 08
[i]Hi Denise,
As the famous expression " change is the only constant in this world", I am sorry to hear about this and I am sure she really break the heart if her ex but people can always decide for themselves for whatever reasons they have!
in my opinion, I will be staying with the person who loves me as long as I know that he has the qualities of a potential partner someday like responsible, hardworking, loving, etc...It's hard to jump in a relationship when the basic reason is money and richness but hopefully, there is also love for your friend and this new guy![/i]
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
22 Oct 08
Right. Love is great word because there are still people pursuing it:)
@runningeyes (185)
• China
22 Oct 08
Hey,friends!
Thanks for your sharing!
The question is quiet difficult to be answered!Do you think she was wrong?Why do you think the poor man is her true love?As you said ,very satisfied?I don't know why you are so sure?Everybody has their own way,i just wish they can get their happiness.
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
23 Oct 08
Hmmm, because she told me so,haha. She told me that how hard it would be for her to leave the ex-bf and then I got to thinking. Maybe it just takes time and I guess some time later, everything will be ok. The new guy will buy his way into her heart and then she will forget the ex alltogether.
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
23 Oct 08
I am also confused. Maybe it's too risky for a girl who is old enough for marriage to choose a man who is still on his way building future. I believe in love. I think that it is love makes us passionate to pursue a better life. Thanks for responding.
@brightpearl (14)
•
22 Oct 08
eh, it is very difficult to judge her thought is right or wrong. actually sometimes money is an important condition for lovers. they can get a easier and better lifestyle.....
@crazy286 (269)
• India
22 Oct 08
first of all convey her my congrats too. getting married is an awesome feeling. everyone needs some one to live their life. any person is bound to change after some time. even if you love someone, u cannot be sure he will be the same after some years. you never know whats going to happen. so, wen love is strong you should think about anything else. just go for it
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@eddie42 (270)
• United States
22 Oct 08
thats great your friend is getting married well she thinks she know him wel enough to marry him if she don,t she better not do it.marriage is no jokedonot take it lightly tell your friend.
@geekyjock (371)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
Hmmm actually i've written a discussion about "fix marriages" and your discussion is somehow connected with mine. Especially with us asians, fixed marriages is still right around the corner. Maybe it is already part of tradition, that our parents just want to secure our future by engaging us to someone that they know we can have a better future. In my point of view, in your friend's case, maybe her priority is the financial security. Maybe she wants freedom from financial burden. This kinds of decisions of course depends on the person itself. Because it's all in her decision even though her parents arranged it. It's her life and she will be the one who will be affected if something goes wrong with her marriage. But I think don't be too emotional about it because you should understand that some people choose money from love. And it saddens me that some other would suffer that their love ones leave them because he/she's not rich enough
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
22 Oct 08
Then I guess money is everything. Yup, I know financial factor is quite important and you can do nothing without money. But we have a degree and won't it be happy to strive together with the one that we love and also loves me? Just think that relationship will have a better foundation and can endure everything better in the future. It's not the parents fixed the thing issue. Anyway, hope that will be fine.
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
22 Oct 08
Life is full of strange things. I personally feel that there is nothing wrong in her moving in with a stranger whom her parents have introduced to her recently. Love begins from there. If you have done it al and wseen it all and knwo each other well before you get married, then what si there left to see or do after arriage. It is best to be strangers till teh day of marriage and then start emploring everything. The good as well as the bad. You develop bettr understanding that way and the marriage lasts longer with greater love and togtherness. Love grows on you
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
22 Oct 08
You are shocked to hear that one of your university classmates is going to marry a little known man leaving her long acquainted boyfriend.But what can you do? Your classmate wants early establishment in life. Her possible husband is a well to do man.If she marry him her desire can be fulfilled.But her boyfriend still building his career.If she marry her boyfriend she has to wait for long time.So she has taken a wise decision.Though it is selfishness.
@23uday (2997)
• India
22 Oct 08
Hey
One of my childhood friend got married.When i was told this i was totally baffled
and couldnt believe my own ears.But it was very true and she got married.Even though
she got married at an early age,she found a really loving and caring husband.When
i saw them ,they were much free with each other and both were very comfortable
with each other.I just wish that she has a very beautiful married life and enjoy
all the beautiful moments of life with him.I wish all the happiness of the world to
the beautiful couple.
love you dear!!!!!!!!!!!
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
Seldom do i see marriages that are arranged these days. I think her family is just very traditional and conservative. Well for as long as you see your friend as happy with her parent's decision then there's nothing to worry about maybe they have a tradition to keep in their family and we just have to accept them as it is.
@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
, ohhh i feel very sadabout that!!!maybe it was her fate or destiny!!!i feel bad for the guy also, but if they truly love each other so much they would not let there parents interact with it, and they should go on with their relationship, anyways they are the one in the relationship!!!happy lotting...